child support

I agree with her just stop yearning for his unavailable money and self support your kid. You can do it. When a woman decides to do something she eventually does. I think you need to be strong for your daughter, I know you ae strong only strong people can dare take up this challange of raising their kids alone. Try looking for help from some NGOs for child welfare. You can even save some money seprately just a few cents daily in a piggy bank. I was doing it and in two years I saved enough to buy my kid an insurance policy. you can do that to fulfill her little needs. Hope you get over these difficult times. Good Luck

thanx it takes such a toll out of me to call the child support office every week and driving downtown just to get paperwork done, all the while, (does the baby need a change in diapers?) Some days I just dont care about him being any part in our lives and others I get so fRustrated! I am focusing on what i can do for our child and eventually he will get stuck with a large bill or go to jail!!

thanx but how can i ask for it when he's making himself unavailable. nothing under his name because he is a freeloader. if he's chooses to remain elusive, and out of reach for his daughter and i then i dont care much for talking to him anymore. he's a lost cause in my eyes.

there is no communication whatsoever - i dont want to even make public what stage my child support case is at, but to me its being very well taken care of. he is the kind of person that will not understand something unless he goes to jail for it. there is no point in talking to him or asking for it. He should just get a job. dont you think?

Ooooh, I see. That really sucks. I hope you can get some money soon. But some guys will do just about anything to get out of it. I don't think there is much more you can do besides what you're already doing, except maybe go through an agency like Support Kids.

Thank you I actually am going to school, my major is chemistry! :D

yes my case has been in the legal system for a year now and it is moving quite quickly because of my persistence which im proud to say.

I Pursue this every week. at least 4 times a month. for a year now and i will not ever stop. but i do sometimes need time to catch up on myself and pay attention to my needs and need time to center myself mentally. this is what i mean, its difficult. there is a fine line between pursuing this and remaining coherent

did you say "perfect parent"? how can you say that? I have to disagree... it looks like both of the parents here are very irrespondsible. bringing children into the world without any thought of how you will raise them is far from perfect. It is not easy to raise kids. If they were perfect they would have styed together for the sake of this poor child. sorry, but someone has to point that out, but there are too many kids with irresponsible parents, undisciplined, creating many social problems for the rest of us. Like i said sorry if i sound insensitive,but if i am going to discuss things on MyLot i will be honest. In the end we taxpayers will eventually pay for this bum father, and irresponsible mother.

Yes. I said perfect parent. Like you said, it is not easy to raise kids. and it shows that she is trying her darnest to raise her child up. You know it's hard, and she knows it as well. If they stayed together, it would not be called perfect, but S*T*U*P*I*D*. How could a person be expected to live with a person for the rest of her life just for the sake of her child? Don't you think that it would cause further problems in the future? Did you not think about the emotional burden that they could impart to their child with that? How in the world did you think that once a family is intact, it would automatically be considered perfect? She is a perfect parent for her child, because she is trying her best to raise her---ALONE. Her father is not giving out support, yet still, she manages to give her child her needs. and why not? There are MANY who has the capacity to raise their children well, yet, their children grew up to be a social problem... just becaues there are people who think that they would be irresponsible if they raise their children apart.

the only reason that im looking to buy a new car is because the most terrifying thing that can happen to a single mom is being stuck on the highway with a broken down car and a baby to change and feed, not to mention all the crazies out there who can pick you up, run you over, kidnap you etc. thats the only reason i want to buy a reliable car.

i know that is the truth, all i know is that he is married and got married after he left. therefore, i will let it catch up to him, because i dont want to be the bearer of bad news - he will understand when what "comes around goes around"

I think that your child deserves the money. Your child deserves absolutely everything that you can give to her...but I ask you one question. Is that man what is best for your daughter? I only ask that because I fought tooth and nail for my daughter's biological father to pay child support, prove paternity, and be a part of her life. And it all turned out to be the worst choice of my life. It was a constant struggle to deal with him. He never really brought anything of value to my daugters life and didn't want to be there when he was. I finally got into a relationship that lead to marriage,and he threatened me with taking my daughter because he didn't want me to get married,and that was NOT for her best interests,it was for him. He used my daughter to get to me! I finally forced him to give up his rights so my husband could adopt my daughter and now she has the kind of father that she deserves. All I am asking you is to look beyond the money, look at your daughter, and see if this kind of man is one that you want in her life. And even if you get him to give up his rights, she can still collect child support after she turns 18. And I do know what you are going through...I worked 2 jobs just to keep our heads above water...my heart goes out to you. Just don't be blinded by the strugle now...keep your eyes to the future. What you expose her to now is what she will turn out to be. Much luck!

yea ive been trying for years now. I have made an effort to reach him but its not bringing in any results. iTS frustrating. although i dont want to make public where my child support case is at the moment, im very happy with what my caseworker has done and the next step that will be taken. Which in my eyes seems severe.. but he has asked for it... so here it comes...lol.

i've tried reaching him every possible way there is, i actually have 2 at home jobs and am doing what is needed at the moment until the law catches up with him. I do have a court order and its being taken care of in that matter.