How To Get No Through Their Heads

Well if it will hurt their feelings if you send the stuff back and you dont want it. i bet there are a lot of kids somewhere that would like to have the stuff and could use the toys/clothes, why dont you take the package to the nearest salvation army or second hand store and donate them? then everyone is happy. relative feels like they are helping, and you are in turn helping some less fortuniate kid :)

I was going to say donate, donate, donate. I know that in our case we get a lot of toys from my MIL that are just not age appropriate for my little guy yet, so the trick for me is to be able to intercept her at the door before she gives him anything that I'm going to have to sneak away the next day :)

I had this problem for a while with a family member. I eventually aske if she'd mind if I sent the toys to the hospital or to a charity shop as my children were not using them. She stopped giving them stuff all the time after that.

do what we do, be gratefully for it however if its too much work or unappreciated then regift it and give it away or sell it on eBay! lol

I have a hard time getting the meaning of that word through my husband's mom's and grandparent's heads. It has to do with clothes though. My MIL is always going out shopping when she doesn't have the money to and buying my kids clothes. The way she does it is wrong though. Knowing the kids have certain things that I just got for them, she goes out and buys similar things and tries to get the kids to choose which ones they want. It annoys me so much when she does this. I, however, do not know how to approach her about though because she can snap at any minute. I think she is bipolar sometimes. My husband defends her by saying she didn't know I had just gotten them the same thing, when I had told her a few hours before she went out and bought it. When dealing with this in the past, we were living with her. One day I just blew up about the situation. As a result, we had to find our own place to live, since she said I couldn't stay there anymore. I have learned to be straight forward with people, and if they don't like it then oh well. I feel being honest about your feelings with others is best!

If the NO doesn't get into their heads about toys...give them an option instead. Like say, toys are nice but they got plenty...but we are teaching our kids now to save, so something for their piggy bank or savings bond will be appreciated. This would result in two ways...they will do it or they will stop giving at all because they might think you are too fresh with your idea of a gift instead of toy. Actually, b-days, Christmas, relatives and friends are getting the hint that we have to start doing college fund so my baby is starting her nest egg.

Tell the person you have started a college fund or savings for the children and they would much rather have the money in the account that is getting spent on all these toys. You could send them a thank you note the next time with a remark as to you are decluttering and the children have been given the option of which toys they most want to keep and you would like to return the items they recieved from them in case there is another child they know of that would need the items. That you would like to hear from them soon cause you will be taking items to be donated soon. Start teaching your kids that when they recieve a new item another one has to be donated or put away in a special place for another time.

If you don't want to hurt their feelings then don't send the stuff back.Give it to charity and if that person asked what happened to it just let them know that you kids did'nt need it and you gave it to charity.Sometimes you have to be really mean to people that don't understand the word NO.I have gone through the same thing and I ended up not talking to this relative ever again.

well if this person is sending them to you, save them up and then donate the to a children's hospital or a children's home, have your child go along with you to donate them so that they know how it feels to give to the less fortunate. i mean that way you do not hurt your family member by sending them back and you are helping children in need.

YOu need to send the package back and let them be hurt. Watching out for someone else's feelings is only worthwhile if they respect your in return, this obviously isn't happening. If you have known this person for ages then there is no excuse for their continuing to ignore your wishes outside of the fact that you really haven't enforced them. If they cannot handle the reality check then all this time you have known them really has meant nothing, and right now it appears that it means very little to them. Send the gifts back, don't justify yourself except to say that you have asked them not to do buy such things and you cannot deal with them ignoring your wishes any longer!

Just take what they give you and donate it to someone who could use it. Either that or constnatly battle with someone who is ignoring you.

Thats a truly hard one my mom constantly buys my son stuff that he doesn't need or that I have told him he can't have. I tell her to stop but she continues. She states it's her right. I have just learned to accept the little things instead of argueing but if it's truly something that I don't want them to have I take it away when we get home and explain to my son that I had already told him no and that just because he asked somebody else doesn't mean he can have it. It seems to work most of the time

I think this is a common problem..My granddaughter is overwhelmed with toys and goodies. Not from me, but from the two grandmothers. There is a shed half full of outside toys, her own bedroom with a few toys, another bedroom with a wall of shelves filled with toys, a storage unit that has some old toys and the living room half filled with toys. She is almost 4 and has outgrown many toys. However, my daughter is expecting in the summer. So here we go again. It is crazy all this stuff that the kid has. She isn't that spoiled, but with the split families and remarriages and all, the number of relatives doubles. Her parents hardly buy any toys . I think eventually much of it will be given away. I know what you are talking about. You hate to hurt anyone's feelings. I think, the fewer toys, the better. I think that maybe you could tell that family member that you really could use gift certificates instead. That way, maybe you and the child could be making the selection of what to buy. Otherwise, buy a bigger house..lol

Send the items to an orphanage or the salvation army. Here's a list of orphanges across the world. http://www.orphanage.org/

I have a suggestion it might sound stupid but it is something I would do. Have you thought about selling it on ebay? and then putting the money up for when the boys need something or for a college even. And you can also sell those toys they don't play to. But then again some of the other posters were good to suggest giving them to charity or kids that needed them. And if your kids are invited to a friends birthday party well you'd save money there by using one of the ones this person keeps sending. But you can make good money selling them on ebay

just keep telling them. also, have your children donate the toys to a charity. especially if they don't play with it. let your reletive know that you don't need any more toys and instead of getting toys for your children, they could get something else like clothers, school supplies or maybe you can give them a list of things your child need. tell them if the children get anymore toys you will have to give them away. hopfully that will work.

if he really wants to give ur children smethig then why not tell him to bring something u want instead.maybe then he will realise that u don't like what he is bringing.

maybe you can give this person the number of their saving account? say they want to save money for someting "big"! if she puts the money on their account is everybody happy!

Tell her honestly that you really appreciate the gifts she was sending for the kids, but then, they seemed to lack interest in using those stuffs, so if they really wanted to give the children something, then might as well thing of other things except toys. They can send them activity books, children videos, goodies or other stuffs.

My ex is always buying my daughter things and then considers me less of a parent cause I won't give in to her constant asking for things. I have two children and only one of them is his. It makes it difficult for me cause my daughter gets a lot more than my son does. I wish people would get off this kick of buying stuff for kids constantly. Kids get plenty of stuff for birthdays and christmas, easter, etc. I think children today are extremely spoiled.