pregnancy..what to expect???

@jaeian (23)
Philippines
January 18, 2007 9:07pm CST
i'm pregnant and i'm expecting to give birth by the last week of january..it's very near and i'm getting scared! i'm always thinking what would my child look like? is he/she would be healthy? i'm thinking on how to be responsible enough to be a parent, a real parent for my child...i'm only 21 and i'm a little confused if i can take all the responsibilty of being a good mother..? i always pray that everything would be normal before and after i give birth.. anyone who could help me ease my worries and give me some advices on how to cope with this feeling of anxiety???
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83 responses
• Canada
19 Jan 07
Congratulations . Pregnancy is an exciting and very emotional time especially for first time moms who have no idea what to expect but the truth is that your instincts will kick in and you will just know what to do . There is no right or wrong way to bring up your child as long as you are doing the best you can . Try not to worry too much on wheather or not you will be responsible , this is a time for you to enjoy all that is happening around you and believe me when you have that baby ,everyone will be real quick to tell you if you are doing something wrong . It seems firts time moms are always being given advice about everything and after awhile you will get tired of all this lol :) As far as everything being ok with your baby all you can do is pray and hope everything will be ok but if you have not been told anything is wrong then chances are you will not have any complications and will get along just fine . My recomendation to you is to have an epidural if you can get it in your area , I was too scared to get it with my first couple of kids but the last two I had it and what a difference in the length of time my labour was and definitely much easier. Good Luck and take the time to enjoy this period in your life because before you know it you will be holding your little one and entering a new phase in your life .
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@burieks (127)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
take it easy. you're almost there. good to know you're praying for you and your child. you can ask comfort from people around you when that time comes, your parents, friends, partner or whoever it is you're comfortable with. try also buying "what to expect the first year" book. it contains what newborns usually experience and how you can deal with it.
@ambuvs (100)
• India
19 Jan 07
Pregnance i expect a new child.
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@kittykatzz (1132)
• United States
19 Jan 07
youre gonna do GREAT!! dont worry so much.. its not good for you! congratulations by the way!.. ive got 2 boys myself.. my youngest is a january baby too! his bday was yesterday and he turned 2.. listen .. a new moms head and heart are ALWAYS full of worry .. theres not much im gonna be able to say to take the feelings away .. except that it ALLLLLL wort it!.. and as far as being capable?? we ALL question our abilities and their extents.. and we learn as we go.. feel free if you have questions to ask!.. there are a lot of helpful moms in here!.. try to relax.. eat something "comfort food"~!(as in the few months after we try to stay away from all those foods we give into while pregnant! lol) and try to think of it this way.. jsut like when your child is a little older and you'll say.. they grow up so quick, i wish they could jsut stay little! .. remember , although it feels like we're pregnant forever (and my youngesst came 3 weeks late!)its really not that long.. enjoy the feeling.. cuz you'll miss it!!.. (although not the uncomfortable part!) but you will miss it, try to cherish it!
@jaeian (23)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
yes..thank you and by the way belated happy birthday to your son..
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• United States
19 Jan 07
It is completely normal to be scared and anxious. Your going to be a great Mom because you need to be. I was in constant worry towards the end of my preg. because everything starts to sink in. Your Dr. has been tracking your preg. since the beginning so they have been keeping a close eye on your little one as far as if something was wrong. If you haven't had any complications this far along they say that more than likely you will have a great delivery. (even with complications). Having a baby will be a change, but a good change and you'll fall right into place as soon as they place your little one in your arms.
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• United States
19 Jan 07
Your going to be fat after your childs birth. If your ugly or ur husbands ugly the baby will hopefuly be hot.... Mostly if he is ugly hell be the next bill gates
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@andilla (137)
• Sweden
19 Jan 07
You gotta be joking - or you are just malicious.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
19 Jan 07
well, i don't have a child yet and never experience pregnancy before... i only want to congratulate you for going to have a baby soon... i think everything will be alright with you... i guess your parents will be there to help you with the delivery and after the baby is born... it's ok if you are a little bit young... just keep on asking more experienced people and find a parenting book to read... good luck...
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@chaptermm (730)
• United States
19 Jan 07
i think you should ask yourself this is very inportant for you to do
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@Bbilal (1998)
19 Jan 07
He/She will be just like you sister :-) Don't take stress, don't think that much about it let it happend what it is! For sure! you'll give a cute, innocent and a good baby, I wish you verry verry best of luck for you'r baby! And do tell me you will birth a guy or girl :-D
@JessieMae (345)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Cravings..But I'm sure since you are so close to the end, You have already had plenty of cravings! In all honesty, Contractions to me, felt just like very very strong period pains. Epidurals are a wonderful thing!! I felt slight pressure while delivering my son, but no pain. My water didn't break on it's own. it broke because the doctor had to do it. All it felt like for me was just a strong gush of liquid. It kind of felt like I was pissing myself. I'm sure you will be a terrific mother! Your baby will need you! One thing that I can tell you right now..Sleep when the baby sleeps! You're going to need your sleep!! Good luck & I hope the birthing process goes awesome for you & you have a healthy little baby in the end!
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@hmike_d (1529)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
you're not scared! okay? You are EXCITED... this best describes your situation now. Don't be scared because you are so blessed to have it. Give thanks to Him and pray for His guidance and your (and your kid's) safety.
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@berry9 (590)
• India
19 Jan 07
taking regular check ups?? ?nothing to worry.my mother gave birth to me when she was of your age.she bought us up.be good to your child and polite.that would be my only advice.as he grows up you better try not to be mad at things he does.that will create hatred.however now you dont have to worry about it as you still have time.
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
every woman or woman becoming mother has their own instinct of discovery on how to handle that kind of situation, you will probably know when you give birth, and the only person who can help you alot, is no other than you. "TRUST YOUR INSTINCT".
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
Congratulations for the up coming baby, don't be afraid to face the reality that your are going to be a mother now just take one day at a time no matter what the future brings it will be alright, continue praying and He will answer your prayer. of course i will pray for you also.
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@mpl8476 (65)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
don't be scared, i know that giving birth is a stressful situation in a woman so you have to really prepare for it. if you have your prenatal check-up, then there's no need to worry because your doctor is monitoring your pregnancy and im sure that your doctor wont let anything bad happen to you or to your baby. unless if you don't have a pre-natal check-up at all, because you will expect the unexpected. now that your expected date of delivery is very near, you should prepare yourself for your first labor and i tell you that giving birth is very painful, so goodluck to you and to your baby. Godbless..
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@aroraasr (428)
• India
19 Jan 07
Even I am pregnant and expecting my baby in the last week of March and from now only I am facing sleepless nights just because of anxiety. Its very natural. Just try to relax your mind as your anxiety may effect your baby too even I am trying to do so.
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
It's normal to feel that way. When I had my pregnancy, I was also like you. But then, I just take it lightly and as it goes. What's important now is to prepare yourself of the "big day" - the day you give birth to your child. Your child would be needing your strength more than ever. Feel excited and think positive thoughts. Remember, the baby feels what you feel. So talk to him as often as you can, and let him feel that he is welcomed and love. As for being a mother, we'll you'll get through it. Take one day responsibility at a time. No bunch of advice would help you. Its only you who would know better what to do. Rejoice. You can do it. COngratulations.
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@baweja (197)
• India
19 Jan 07
If you are going for your regular check ups then i think everything must be fine else your doctor must have advised you. Just relax and dont worry about anything how and what will happen, how will the baby look alike...this anxiety is normal but dont get hyper, baby will be like a normal cute baby only and about the responsibilities of a mother, i know you will take care of your baby like other mother's do but still for your refference you can read books which can be very helpful...Just think postive, this is the key to calm your anxiety!!
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@alei0421 (23)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
You must rejoice and be happy because not all women are destined to be a mother. You must remember that you are blessed because you have the privilege to bear a child. Other woman spend so much money just to have a baby. So, forget all your feeling of anxiety and prepare yourself for your baby's arrival. Prepare family, your home, yourself, and your maternity bag. Having a baby is an event that affects you in all sort of ways. Most mothers feel depressed after the birth of their baby. Usually this feeling will only last a few days for some it can last longer. This is known as postnatal depression.To help yourself through this time, it is a good idea to think ahead about some of the ways you can overcome the depression. Think about the people who support you like your family, friends, avoid extra pressures, accept offers of help and arrange your day so you will have time for yourself.
@alei0421 (23)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
You must rejoice and be happy because you are blessed to bear a child. Not all women have the privilege to get pregnant. Some women will spend much just to have a baby of their own.
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