i mooved with my parents when i was fourteen and i didnt want to go

Did you write to them or call them after you moved? Did your grandparents come to visit after you moved or where you allowed to visit them? 70 miles is not that far away have you gone to see them now that you are 35? Have you taken your kids to see them? If not why? If no to all maybe you should.

Sometimes as adults we need to put something away. We do it at home, at the office, whereever except in our emotional life. Yes this happened and it has made you hurt, continueing to let it hurt you is destructive to your emotional health. Time to move on so to speak. Let it go change these destructive thoughts with constructive ones. When you think about your loss remember if you hadnt moved would you have met your husband, would you have had your kids? Maybe your life was enhanced by the move but you were so resentful you didnt notice and now 20+ years later you are still influenced by it. LET IT GO!!

70 miles? That's an HOUR drive! I'm from Alaska and currently living in Southern California.... it's not like I can drive one hour to see my family, and I regularly make road trips to San Diego (2 hr drive) to see a friend of mine. You're insane to be crying about this..

It happened to me at the exact same age, I think it's one of the worst things that could ever happen to a child, it really made me incompetent in participating in social events or social strategy at general.

My husband and I are in the military and we moved away from my family and it is VERY hard. My grandfather is about to turn 70 years old and we are flying in to see him and the rest of my family but it's not the same because he doesn't get to see our one year old grow up and do little things. If you have to to let this go away then move closer to them.

70 miles isn't that large a move, if you have lived there for 21 years you should be able to go back and forth, obeying even the strictest speeed limits it would be a 1 1/2hour ride. If this means so much to you think about moving half way between where you are now and where your grandparents, friends and cousins are.

I don't want to sound rude or anything but 70 miles doesn't sound like that much to me. When I went off to college I moved 300+ miles away. I then settled in that town (only seeing my parents maybe once a year) and had a baby there. Then we (my husband, me and our daughter) moved back to my hometown leaving his family behind. Now we live with our 4 children 500+ miles from where I grew up and 800+ miles from where he grew up. My brother also moved away after high school and lives in Oregon (complete other side of the country from me). I have seen him once in 6 years and he finally got to meet my kids over the summer (they are 6, 5, 4 and 9 months). 70 miles for us would be nothing. We would drive that every weekend to visit our family if that was how far away we were. When we were living with my dad we drove the 300 miles to his parents' town at least 3 times a year to visit. This year we made the 500 mile trip from our home to my dad's twice to visit. It is a very long drive with 4 kids in the car but you do what you have to do to be with family. If you really miss your family then make an effort to go see them, especially if they are only 70 miles away--that is about a 1-1 1/2 hour drive.

You're whinning about 70 miles? One lone hours drive? Sorry you aren't gonna get any pity here.I'm 1,000 miles away from my family and I make the 18 hour drive about every 3 months to see them.If you're not seeing your family then something is terribly wrong.Is there a reason they don't come see you? And even if you can't drive and don't have a car,their is always greyhound.Where there's a will,there's a way.You just gotta find it.

it's really sad that we have to move out at times, and am myself sad because am away from my parents and from my little son for some time now. but i don't understand why you can't call or talk to your family. you say you are a single parent with small kids - is it not possible to establish a bond with your family and move towards them again? why do you keep all that sadness within your heart? i wish you could open it up to your near and dear ones, so that they could help you out with some solution to this problem. wish you good luck!

sorry you feel that way but that part of life. You cant always have it your way all the time. Everything turns out for a reason. Just hang in there and you cant dwell on the past then it going to get the better of you. Sorry and hope you do feel better and maybe if you never moved maybe you wont have those three precious kids you have right now. Look at it that way :)

u should be bold at this juncture of ur life. u should take life as it comes when u cant mend according ur wish. if u r depressed, what about ur children. u r the one who should make them accustom to changes in life and encourage them to go with life.

I have personally done this to my children. We were from a small friendly town and my children had to gone to school there from their first days. I had to move this last year because of my relationship, it was very abusive and I just had enough. Anyhow my son is now in highschool which meant not only did he leave everything that he loved I also made him leave his girlfriend of 4 years. It is very hard. I have tried letting him go back to see his friends every 2 months and that seems to help. Maybe if you could sneak off for a couple of visits here and there it would help, also try witing to them as much as you can. If you don't hear anything back from them or they don't seem to have time for you when you are there then you obviously did not mean as much to them as they did to you.

i was fourteen, when I moved From Alhambra To Rosemead, Its great, I enjoy everybody and everything, but the thing is its not bad, friends back their, said goodbye and you did too, plus you will always remember them. You might see them again, and Now I have the same friends as well probably.

I am now 33 we moved all over the world from the age of 4. My brother was once asked,"what was it like moving every couple of years?" His reply was "you or either lucky to get to see the world, or you are lucky to have friends" It wasn't as bad as not having friends we made friends everywhere we went, got to see the world, got to live in amazing places such as all over Europe, and South America. To this day I do not regret missing out on, growing up with my family or living in the same place all my life, I love the fact that I have done this, it makes me different from everyone else not the same. My cousins (only one of them) was/is so jealous, sut I keep in touch with all the others and when I am in the same state as them we all catch up. YOU have to make the effort, if you don't go see them or write to them, call them why should they. I am close with all my family, it is up to you. Time and distance is not barrier for families!!!!!

Life is about change. You're a grown-up now, and you should understand that. I think you need to get over it.

Is there any reason why you can't move back or even in between the 2 place I know you probley don't want to because of your kids schooling but if you are not happy they arenot happy. Do what will make you happy I know I live near my whole family i would be lost without them. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

I can understand your feelings because I also had to move at the same age and felt terribly sad and angry. I think it happens because we love the place and the people there and it is an tntegral part of our existence because here we grew up. But you still feel the pain and longing .I think you don't want to accept that it was your past and this is part of our lives.People in transferable jobs keep moving from one place to another and their kids have to experience the same thing.But they carry on with their lives and treat thier past as their strength and precious memory and see it as an opportunity to discover new facets of the world we live in. I know its very difficult but you can try to gain happiness by making your past as your precious fond memory and move on.It seems you are not happy with the place you live in or is it because you dont want to be happy here.Only you can help yourself.Maybe befriending someone special can help you and if this too doesn't help ,then maybe you should consider going back to your old place.Hope you get rid of your pain and anguish and be happy and contented with your life. Best of luck.

You can change all that. Get in contact with your grandparents and family you left behind and start a new relationship with them. IF it doesn't work out then leave the past behind and just treasure the childhood memories. It's all good!

Well, it's just normal o feel so. But if it is possible to visit your grandparents, why don't you just try that? It is just 70 miles, right? If you stay for some time with them, you may feel much better. And, please do try to pass on to your kids what your grandparents gave you, so that they will not feel miserable about their lives.

For me it was your undying love to them, it was your family your own blood and for me my family is my life also maybe is that what you feel.