what do you think of over protective people?

is it over protective or just nosey? insecure? obsessive? jealous?they need to get a life? /

No I have not experienced at home, but I have experienced it in office some silly management people doing it.

Dear blueman, they are not over protective, they are just inquisitive. Some has the habit of peeping into others lives unnecessarily. Dont get trapped in such love. Over protective is that when you try to protect someone without thinking about you and with every step of them, you try to be with them. Thats how we protect our children. I personally feel this term can only be used for parents and children and husbands and wives and no one else.

Over protective people are not always harmful, or pretentious. It can be just that they worry too much about things, generally. But there can be pretentious people who try to pass for over protective people. try to find out the difference. We have to deal with over protective people in life, especially if they happen to be closely associated with us. the best way would be to assure them that you can look after yourself.

insecure and afraid to lose you. i always experiencing this with my wife...you can't find girl's name in my phonebook because she always removing it..tsk! tsk! tsk! :-(

My parents were very overprotective of me- always trying to shield me from all of the bad things in the world. I ended up sneaking out and doing everything they warned me not to, and I ended up dropping out of college and getting pregnant. I did eventually get married and now I couldn't be happier, but I think that if my parents had not been so overbearing and suffocating, I probably wouldn't have had such miserable teenage years.

My dad is still like that and I'm almost 35 for goodness sake. My life is really not that interesting leave me alone and let me get on with it won't work with him. Bless him it's because he cares but sometimes it is like being suffocated in cotton wool.

Hey thats not being overprotective, thats inquistiveness, or always poking their nose into others bussiness, you must be careful of such people, they can be very nosey

My parents are very over protective. When I was growing up I couldn't do most of the things kids my age were doing. When I turned 18 I couldn't leave home or go to a college that I wanted. My father wanted me to go to a college that was in the same city we were in. I wanted out of that state and didn't want to be anywhere near them. So, I left home when I was 19 and went back home few times and never went back agan. Because they always treat me like a child. And they never want me to do anything for myself or think for myself. Everything have to go their way or no way at all. I love my parents, but all I ask is to do what I want to do not what they want me to do at all time.

This is not overprotecting it is controlling and yes - I was with a guy just like this. He turned out to be a real nightmare and it took me 4 years to get out of it!

i just think tat they need to change!!!!!!!!

These kind of people have control issues. They have no control over their own lives, and feel the need to control the people around them. It's a fear of somesort. I'm sure it's a little different with each one. But it all boils down to control issues.

You have to be very careful with overprotective people some of them can be crazy and do some outrageous things over the smallest things. I think being overprotective is uncalled for its just way too much. I've seen guys not let their girlfriends have any kind of freedom whatsoever, I mean they wouldnt even let them see their own parents without being hassled or even accompined! It just goes to show you that alot of people can cherish what they have so much to the point they'll take the most extreme measures to make sure that person cannot escape your life in any way. I think its smothering and unhealthy and wrong to eliminate a friends freedom or interfere with there personaly space or privacy by being an overprotective person.

I don't think most of them 'pretend' to love you. Some of them do such things because they really care for you, and only do it out of your interest.

over protecting is synonymous to suffocating. everyone needs their space and solitude. trust me there are different ways of checking what your kids upto..the best thing is not to let em notice that your checking up on them. They lose their confidence then too!

Well my parents are not overprotective to us. They just let us decide for what we want and I think its a good attitude. Im not against to over protective person, but sometimes being like one can make other people more rebellious.

aww my boyfriend is just a little over protective.. buts its fine.. hes only like that cos hes scared of losin me so he said, but he did once break my ex boyfriends nose

Yes.. and it sucks big time. being over-protective is not being 'caring', 'loving', 'careful' and 'responsible' as they say it is... it is called suffocation. Everyone needs their free space... it is important even psychologically.. to have someone breath right under your neck is outragiously ridiculous. If you love someone, set them free.. if they'r yours, theyl come back to u.. I have also noticed, that any sort of relationship where one person is over-protective NEVER works out. People always appreciate the space given, even if they complain that the other person does not care enough to be fully involved in their lives. Besides, being involved is one thing.. over-indulgence is downright frustrating...

Yes I have. I am actually married to one but I really love it about him. He will even tell me that there is a pothole if we are walking on the road. I do get irritated sometimes and really hate him for that but on the other hand I feel what is the harm he is doing all that just coz he loves and cares for me. I really miss him a lot when he is not around.

My grandmother was very protective, I ended up running away with the guy I fell in love with. She knew he was married but separated but wouldn't tell me. So I ran off with him and hurried the relationship. I don't think it's good to be overprotective and strict, kids will always rebel.