Bridezilla and "the big wedding" & do you want a big or small wedding?

I had 5 Bridezilla's to deal with when my sons got married. ALL of my daughters in law ran the wedding show and I just told the boys to go with the flow. If they didn't it seemed like a fight broke out. One of my boy's actually was able to talk his wife into having their wedding here at the ranch. But IT grew and grew and grew to the point where tents had to be rented etc. I'm glad all that is over and done with. It seems that once a girl digs in her heels about a wedding, there is not much hope in changing her mind.

i don't like big weddings myself. if ever i get married, i want the ceremony to be very simple, no walking down the aisle, no fancy gowns (the guests could gossip about), not too many flowers, etc. like you, i believe it's the ceremony that is important, and i'd want it to be very special --- and that means no accessories, so to speak. and this is coming a woman's point of view, by the way.

My g/f and I talked about the cost of a wedding a few days ago and we both agreed to start a marriage by being in debt did not really make much sense to either of us.

i prefer a small one with my frend & family. i do not like a big wedding with a lot of ppl..makes me feel even more tense up. i prefer to have wedding at the beach..cos i love the breeze

I want a nice wedding that's for sure. But nice doesn't mean big or expensive. Intimate will do. Close friends, good food, calm weather. And of course, the man I'll spend the rest of my life with :)

i want a simple and solemn wedding with our families and friends in complete attendance, a simple receptions, i want to cherish the moment i will give my name to the man i love, i just save the money for the most important part of our life and it will be our kids.

I agree that it does seem like the wedding ceremony (the big orchestrated productions) are more for show then about you saying your vows and what will be important for the two of you during your marriage. I personally would rather make sure that we have a home to live in and a nice honeymoon as opposed to a big ceremony. As a matter of fact I was even thinking about the justice of the peace with 4 people at the most as our witnesses.

Yeah, that is definetly something. Our wedding was a small one, we invited our family and friends. And it only caused us around $500. We wanted a nice and simple one and we got it.

I am not like most girls and would like a small of a wedding as possible, meybe even elope, cause no family means less stress. I just hate the whole idea. How your suppost to wear white because your suppost to be a virgin, but My son will be at our wedding, hell maybe even an seccond child. I just basically dontr like religiouse celebreations

I have never understood how a person could spend thousands of dollars on weddings. Sure it is a huge step in a person's life. But does it have to be such a huge debt to start off the relationship with? The more simple weddings seem to be the more beautiful weddings. The kind that everyone is relaxed but also know what a wonderful event is taking place. To me, a quiet place away from all the busy city streets in nature seem to be the perfect way to get married. And I don't see the point of partying all night either. Of course, you have a family gathering to celebrate. But some sit down dinner with people staying for hours? The couple just got married! They want to go celebrate without everyone. LOL They want to be able to say they did it and get out of the monkey suit to relax because the stress of the wedding is over. But there are women out there that want a huge wedding that would probably be a huge down payment for a house instead. Not me, I would rather use that money towards a house and make the wedding simple. Oh...and I have seen all the Disney movies. ha ha There is a difference between life and fantasy.

I want a small, no fuss wedding. I don't want anyone to be stressed. I want people to be comfortable. I do want a big poofy dress though.

My boyfriend doesn't want to get married and thats fine with me. But if he ever changes his mind, all I need is someone to perform the service,our family and friends, a chocolate cake and lots of booze.lol. Its going to be one heck of a party. I too would like to have it on the beach, somewhere where we could have a blast and not disturb anyone. For flowers, I would only need either carnations or tulips, or even whatever we found along the road on the way there. I would love to wear my sweatpants and a tshirt but that probably wouldn't look right. A DJ would be nice but if all we have is a radio, then that will be ok too. I'm pretty easy to please.

I think if you go as far as this girl did, then you're taking the fun out of the wedding. What she's doing is ridiculous. I love weddings. I loved organising my own. You can laugh if you like, but I had a "Disney" themed wedding and I enjoyed organising it. I know people who have had big weddings but they had fun planning them and didn't cause stress to those around him. To me, that's the way a wedding should be, not filled full of stress and making others feel stressed too. And if mistakes happen, they can be laughed at afterwards and they add to the day. Why should everyone be afraid to move a muscle becaus they have to stick to some silly rigid timeplan?

I don't want a huge wedding - I just want the people we care about helping us celebrate.

Well when I got married we only had a small wedding and it was lovely we invited only close friends and family, and when the wedding ceremony was over we went home to my parents home and ate out in the open garden, I do not see any reason for having a big wedding.

yes, i agree with you. She must be nuts. i understand that she could wanto something beautiful to remember, but that is out of reality. She should be a plastic girl, who doesn't care love, only material things. It is easy to find people like that today, even some mans are like that

As for as im concerned the size of the wedding wont be a matter.the thing is a girl will surely marry a man who loves and cares for her a lot.the size of the love only matters not the mere arrangements.

I would want a simple white wedding in church with close families, and then continued with the reception with all my friends and family friends. I dont want too many procedure on it. Well, of course cutting wedding cake, drinking champagne and things like that...but nothing too complicated. Afterall.. the wedding itself is only for one day.. while the marriage is for my whole life.. it is more important is the feelings of love.. Simple but sweet wedding.. thats what I want.

To me as long as I am around my family and friends when i get married I could really care less. Even if we were outside and it started to rain. i would want to do it in the rain. Im a real laid back person so things dont have to be perfect for me to be happy. Now its the Women you gotta worry about!

The girl in that wedding is scary. She has major case of OCDC. One wonders how she would cope we pregnancy, giving birth and worse having kids. The guy must really love her for going through the ceremony. I agree that big weddings are insane. I prefer my wedding to be small, personalized and intimate. An affair that leaves a warm-feeling. I want a wedding that will be remembered fondly but not felt gravely by the pocket. It's the life after the wedding that matters.