Will you stick with your husband/wife if he is disable?

I really admire you for being the wife that you can be, and your relationship blooms because you stand firm with the test of time. cheers to our married life ahead.

You are right. We should learn to put ourselves into other shoes and learn to walk with it,and abandoning someone who needed you the most is like killing him little by little.

I really appreciate your opinion, Thanks mrsjumppupy03!

It is somewhat heartbreaking to hear a true stories such as yours miryam! thanks for giving us opportunity to open our eyes to the real scenario, indeed it is easier said but it is so hard to be in your situation. But I know you can make it and I will include you in my prayers for your immediate recovery.

I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope your ex husband gets his just desserts in this lifetime. That's not a nice thing of him to do.

There are plenty of people who will stay with a crippled partner because they feel they have to. I've been through it myself. They stay out of guilt and the idea that if they leave, they'll be a bad person and they don't want that guilt. There are people, like I said, who stay because they can handle it and are up to the challenge, but that's not everyone. And this may sound bitter or callous, but love isn't enough for a healthy relationship. I'd rather be alone than deal with someone who resents me but stays because 'we took vows, I can't leave'.

There are plenty of people who will stay with a crippled partner because they feel they have to. I've been through it myself. They stay out of guilt and the idea that if they leave, they'll be a bad person and they don't want that guilt. There are people, like I said, who stay because they can handle it and are up to the challenge, but that's not everyone. And this may sound bitter or callous, but love isn't enough for a healthy relationship. I'd rather be alone than deal with someone who resents me but stays because 'we took vows, I can't leave'. And there's a large difference between an older couple that's been through thick and thin and a pair of newlyweds just figuring themselves out. Accidents happen regardless of age - I was only twenty when I became disabled.

I was very sad to read this. However, I don't think that people stay because they "have to" but because they love you and want to stay. I don't think that if someone gets into an accident or becomes disabled in another way that it suddenly makes their partner stop loving them but want to get away from them but stay because they have to. I think it would add a huge burden to the relationship, and be the biggest challenge the relationship would go through, and sometimes the other person would wonder if they should leave or not, but it comes down to love, and commitment and feeling good about yourself at the end of the day. This is just my opinion, I don't have personal experience like you do, but I only think of my grandparents and my elderly aunts and uncles and what theyre going through, and there is no question that the spouse who isn't disabled WANTS to be there because of LOVE.

yes. why leave the person you love during those times when he needed you the most? that's so unfair!

Very well said sazzy29! We should put our self in other shoes so that we can really knew how it feels. Thanks sazzy29! Welcome to myLot!

I really sense that when you get married maryannemax you will keep you vow no matter what because that is love all about! Thanks maryannemax.

Thanks for sharing your opinion 14missy!

Your view is highly appreciated thank's pioneergladiator!

Your wife is superb and he is indeed one of the ideal wife and I know your love for each other is great and beyond words.

That thought was sweet specially it is came from a man. Thanks for dropping a line samraf!

It really pays when we are a good wife and a mother because events like this our love one never leave us. Thanks cheetah311!

Thanks anakata for sharing your views!

Thanks dream2night!

Thanks brimia! I do understand your opinion.

thanks 34momma! It is what really meant by true love, you are there when he needs you the most.

thanks ashjoe76! Certainly it is depend entirely in the behaviour and belief of the spouse.

Thanks ms_fery! Sometimes we really do understand life's lesson from our parents.

hi crazy marie! Our parents are one of the greatest things that god gave to us and it is so painful to accept when they are gone. I know you would do the same thing as what you're mother did to your dad.

Thanks neonanda!