No spanking equals no discipline?

I do believe in that in the bible it says spare the rod spoil the child. God Bless

There's gotta be line between spanking for discipline and beating your children. I think spanking is an effective form of discipline if the child understands why he's getting spanked. I think walking by and smacking your child for doing something wrong is completely inappropriate though. All they understand then is that it's okay to just walk by someone and smack them.

I dont think spanking equals discipline, but some children do need spanking for discipline. These days, kids are smarter than when I was their age. It hard to find a way to discipline. It very hard to find a good way to discipline children right now. To me, time out dont work. Maybe for few second but children cant sit around for long time. But control spanking seems best discipline to me. All of my nephews and nieces get 3 chances to behave around me and if they dont they will get spanking at my house.

I'm someone who doesn't spank or use time outs. (I'm ashamed to admit I yell once in a while, but I consider it my own problem to solve rather than a discipline tactic). I'm a huge fan of the books: How to Talk so Kids will Listen http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/0380811960/sr=1-1/qid=1161221302/ref=sr_1_1/002-8644654-7010459?ie=UTF8&s=books, Playful Parenting http://www.amazon.com/Playful-Parenting-Lawrence-J-Cohen/dp/0345442865/sr=1-1/qid=1161221242/ref=sr_1_1/002-8644654-7010459?ie=UTF8&s=books, Easy to Love; Difficult to Discipline http://www.amazon.com/Easy-Love-Difficult-Discipline-Cooperation/dp/0060007753/sr=8-1/qid=1161221195/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/002-8644654-7010459?ie=UTF8. Some of the tools I find most effective are: - Teaching children what you WANT them to do rather than what you don't want them to do. - Walking right up to them, crouching down to make direct eye contact and telling them in a gentle tone what you want done, rather than calling out from across the room (which can make it appear like you're not serious). - Looking at every opportunity of misbehavior as an opportunity to teach, rather than getting upset about it. - Showing them how to make things right & expecting them to do so, if they behave in such a way that they break something, spill something or harm someone. - Making sure I model the kind of qualities I want them to have.

spanking is never the solution for anything. When I was a small kid my parents used to talk to me and explain to me that what I am doing is wrong. They never shouted nor spanked me. The lesson they had taught me I still remeber even after so many years

I think spanking is an outdated practice and ineffective...maybe at a younger age a swat on the butt lets a kid know you mean NO , but as the age you're going to have to develop methods that work better anyway and spending all the time in the world yelling and making threats will fall short as well...each situation with each individual family will be different of course

There is a line between a swat on the behind and a beating. If you keep consistent from day one..there usually isn't any screaming needed.

I dont believe in spanking as a whole. If I am really angry, I might slap my kids on the upper arm but nothing more than that. I hate people who spank children and I always cry if I see someboddy hitting a child.

I think spanking a child on the bottoms is okay, or tapping their hand is okay.. I do not believe in beating a child, or being unfair. Child do not understand as an adult does, and it will take until they are older to understand right from wrong. I saw an ex friend pop her 5 MONTH OLD SON on the hand for trying to suck his thumb.. I could've hurt her SOOO bad right then and there.. I walked out, and that would be why she is indeed an EX friend. I don't believe in belts, paddles, or anything of the sort. I'll use my hand if it's needed, but first I will try to talk right and wrong into my child, without yelling at them and scaring them to nothing. I still have a few years until that one comes though. Lol.

I baby sat these kids who were so use to spankings that one was acting up and the other was screaming "spank him" When I took the boy and put him in a chair in the corner of the room to face the wall, he was absolutly in tears in 15 minutes. Never been punished with a time out and thought that was the worse. The parents were shocked when I told them I had no problems ever again with them. They were spanking them a lot for punishment. They decided to change methods later.

I don't believe in spanking in the first place but I do believe in time out, it is very effective. But if I was to know longer do that than I would use other things I currently use. I remove privledges, take away toys, radio, tv, etc..depends on the extent of the misbehaviour. I also have good and bad behaviour charts, good behaviour earns rewards like extra 30 minute tv time, bad behaviour removes items from the good behaviour chart. And I always maintain eye contact with them when talking to them about their misbehaviour.