A question for those who have sons

When my son was growing up, I always bought him toys that helped encourage this. I got him a kitchen set, easy bake oven, and a housecleaning set. I babysat and I always let him help me. Now that he is grown and has kids of his own, I believe how he was raised helped him out a bit. His wife works and he tends to the house and kids. Hes not the greatest cook but he tries. I believe that it is important to teach your sons how to survive in this world. They are not always going to find someone to do it for them.

I know my parents raised me so I knew how to clean, do laundry, iron, vacuum, etc etc. What they didn't teach me was how to cook :D. Which is fine with me as I hate doing it. It's really good though, because when you go out on your own, you have to do all these things. Then when you marry, you can at least pitch in and help your wife do some of the stuff.

No we have been teaching our children for years the you need to be self suffient. They don't do their own laundry because they are still kind of young but they clean there rooms, make luch and that and they all have chours to keep the house clean that have to be done everyday. Also they have animals they have to take care of so Im pretty happy so far how they are turing out. I figure when they get older they will be able to fend for themselfs.

I had five wonderful sons. When I married, it was the usual practice for women to stay home after marriage, so I never went to work after the wedding. We were sugar cane farmers and my husband worked long hours on the farm for most of the year. I did not believe that a man should have to do any work in the house, but should be responsible for the outside (garden and maintenance). My husband could make himself a cup of tea, but that was about his limit. While I do not believe a man's place is in the kitchen, I taught my boys to do everything, including to sew and knit. They can cook, clean, wash and iron and their wives think it is great. They prefer their men to iron their favourite clothes. I still don't believe a man's job is in the kitchen, but that is for each couple to decide for themselves, and I must say I like to see my sons working together with their wives.

I have 2 boys. Right now my 8 year old sweeps the floor and the steps the steps. They both are responsible for cleaning thier room and they both help me with cooking a little. My husband does a lot of the cooking, so I'm sure they will pick that up quickly.

i have a son, though he is still too young to do all of those things.. i do want him to learn how to be self sufficient though! even if he grows up and has a wife who wants to do all those things for him.. i wouldnt want him feeling lost if she wasnt able to do it anymore or anything like that!

Our son is 1... We both agree that he should have chores and earn an allowance. We don't want to raise him to think that all he has to do is ASK for money all the time. We want him to learn that he does have to work for it. There will be times where we will just buy something for him or whatever. :) we are going to be super-strict! :) I definitely don't want to "baby" my son his whole life because that doesn't help him for his future.

As I type this my two sons (aged 9 and 5) are dusting and doing the vaacuming! I admit they want pocket money but they also do their own chores such as washing up and cleaning their room. I think it is very important for boys to bea as independant as girls..

By all means! I have three sons. Two have left the nest and one remains at home. My oldest son, during his college years landed a wonderful internship which required moving to city and living in an apartment for the summer. He luckily knew how to cook (not gourmet, but enough to get by!) and do his own laundry and basic housekeeping! I have made sure that all my boys can take care of themselves. Why should they be dependent upon a wife. Wonder if they never marry? No person should ever be dependent upon another person for basic survival! We all should be independent! (In my opinion!) I want my husband to work with my daugher before she leaves for college on how to do basic car maintenence and to change a flat tire etc too!

I have 2 sons and 3 daughters and yes they take their turn doing the same chores as the girls and on the other hand I have the girls do the same chores as them. I think it is important in both aspects. The girls should also mow the lawn, take out the garabage, and shovel the same as the boys should do laundry, wash dishes, and clean the bath room. It is important for kids of both sexes to get a taste of doing all things for themselves.

He damn well better! Actually, even at 6 he is somewhat already. He likes to get his own food instead of asking. I think I will have a problem holding him back from doing more than he is ready for at whatever age he is. He wants to help so much and I think letting him helpme now will make him more self-sufficient in the long run.

I've taught my eldest son, 16 years, and am in the process of teaching my lil one, 3 years,everything about cleaning, cooking and managing their own finances. At this point my eldest could do all of the cooking and cleaning for himself if he had to. He has had a savings account since he was seven and has learned to pay himself first. He is also responsible for his own track phone minutes and he is saving money for his first car. I hope my lil one follows in his big brother's footsteps. At the moment, my lil one is working on picking up his toys(with Mommy's help) and he is helping me cook and bake by measuring ingredients and putting them in the bowl. He loves to help me bake cookies. :)

Yes, I am and will be teaching my boy(s?) to be self sufficient. I plan to do this for lots of reasons. For one I want him to have a good work ethic, I don't want him thinking "oh mom" or whomever will just do it for me. I also want him to be able to make it if he lives on his own. My hubby had the hardest time living on his own because he wasn't made to do any of his own cleaning etc. I also certainly don't want to be cleaning up after him every day of my life when he's perfectly capable of doing it himself. He's two and he already keeps his room and his toy box put up. He also helps me when I cook, sets the table, helps me sweep, and helps with the laundry. They're never to young to begin helping! I know his future wife will certainly appreciate whatever training I instill in him now!

Interestingly, while we do not baby our son (18), his sister (16) does. However, he does know how to do laundry and clean the house. We are blessed that he is showing responsibility in his college years. He worked for two years before college and saved a fair amount of money. Because of his ACT score he qualified for two scholarships and most of his college costs are covered. The rest he pays out of his savings. Because he is doing this, we have agreed to help him out when he takes summer classes and will not have any scholarship money to help him. He is still working part time but would like something with more hours. It really pays to teach your kids responsiblities, from chores when they're little to saving money when the get a job.

Yes he will be taught how to do this stuff. What if he wants to live alone before he gets married or when he goes to college or the military or whatever. He will still need to know how to clean, cook and wash clothes. I don't expect someone to take care of him forever. yes he is my baby boy but I won't be here forever.

raised 3 boys and they are all self sufficient but i was a single mom and worked 2 jobs to finally meet there needs they each had chores and help in the yard and rotated the weekly they are now married and help there wife's a lot and I'm very proud of them www.mylot.com?ref=chrchldy

Yes!!!!! It drives me nutty that my husband isn't self sufficient so I will definitely teach my sons to be independent. They don't know how to do any of it yet because they are so young (1 & 2) but I will expect them to be able to do everything on their own before they leave my house. I think though that when they get married the chores should be split between them.

Our son is 35, and he was self-sufficient when he left home. His wife does get irked when he doesn't help out around the house, but he does KNOW how to do the things he needs to do. I even taught him how to iron. Now he buys Dockers though. LOL I don't expect his wife to do more than her share, but life isn't always equal, especially in marriages. She is NOT his maid though.

no just my wife can doit for him not me its his mum

I am the proud mother of four sons. Of course I will expect them to learn to do chores and take care of themselves. The more important lesson, though, is about respect. I feel that if I can successfully teach them to respect themselves, their belongings, and especially their future partners then the self sufficiency will become a part of that. Do I expect them to get married and for their respective wives to do it all? That will be up to them. While it's true that women have won the right to be equals with men, they also have the choice to maintain a more traditional role. I will be supportive of whatever my sons and their wives feel is the best for their relationship/