How many years between your children?

I think you should wait a little longer, least would be a year gap or two. I have a 5-month old son and a 2-year daughter, and I swear, I'm having a hard time already dividing my time and attention to these two, what more if they're still both infants? You'll have to tend to both their needs and you might have a harder time than me. My 2-year old can already tell me what she wants most of the time, so it's easier to communicate with her and tell her to wait until i finish attending to her baby brother. Benefits of having children that are so close in age (about a year or two age gap) is that at least when they grow up, they'll be closer than those who have far age gaps. A disadvantage would be the taking care of them part, like what I stated above. Having children with a large age gap on the other hand has its own advantages and disadvantages as well. A disadvantage is conflict. Since they're ages are far apart from each other, it is likely that they might have miscommunications. Advantage would be on your part. You get to enjoy your first born's baby years before having another child, and when you do have another child when your first born is older, youll have another chance at enjoying your 2nd's baby years without getting much jealousy from the firstborn. Hope this helps.

There are two years between my oldest and second oldest, two years between my second oldest and third oldest. and 13 years between (9/11 surprise) my third oldest and youngest.

I've heard good things and bad things depending on the gaps. I think as long as you give a minimum of a year between giving birth and getting pregnant (that way your body has had time to heal) then it shouldn't matter the age differences. I have a 5 year old, a 3 year old, and I'm now 7 weeks pregnant. They just seemed to happen. We didn't plan the time between them.

My kids are almost 2 years apart. My daughter was born April 27 2004 and my son made his way into this world on April 19 2006. My daughter is such a little mommy. She helps with her brother alot. I think if she was any younger when I had him we would have problems. It worked great we now only have one diaper bill. We started potty training her when I was pregnant and about a month after he was born she was all set. So I would recommend about a 2 year gap.

The age gap between my 2 kids are about 6 years. We had not intended to have another one because of financial constraints. That's why we waited so many years. Any way , since my first is a girl and the age gap is so wide, I'm able to rely on her to help take care of her liitle brother when I'm busy.That's the advantage. Ideally, however, I'd like to have kids that have about 2 years gap between them :)

My boys are 15 months apart. We were hoping for 18 months apart but it happened quick! It is a great spread but it's really really hard. People tell me it gets easier. They love each other so much and I really think they will be best friends. They are so close!

i think it again depends on the parents but to gve ir child full attentio i think there should be a gap of at leas three years

my mother had 5 children my older sister and i are a year apart, then my younger sister is 4 years younger then me, my brother is 4 years younger than her and my youngest is a year younger then him. my older sister and i get along great, never growing up but now we are best friends. my younger sister and i are close but we bump heads alot, my brother and i are super close and my youngest sister and i dont see eye to eye as often as i would like. i have a 5 year old and wanted to have another one when she was around 2 so that they werent too far apart, but it didn work out that way, were again trying for our second and i fear that there will be a big gap relatiosnhsip wise between them, because this one will be a baby ( obvisluy) but she will be in elematary school. sure she'll be able to help teach and stuff to the baby but will she really want to play with "baby toys" if she has her age leraning toys?

i think its ok if your planning it right now even if your first born is only 4 months old. my 2 sons has a gap of only 18 months and now their playmate. the only disadvantage i see is that my youngest son gets the most attention from us. luckily my oldest son is very understanding.

I have one born August 1997, one born August 2000 and one born January 2005. They are spaced well but I think the only good thing about that is that I have recovered from my cesarean operation, I had all of them cesarean delivery. I personally think it's better to have all your kids at once so that you can take care of them all together. Not like when one is already 4 and you have a new one and you have to start all over again... at least by the time they are all say 7, 8 and 9... you don't have a little one to take care of from start again. Although kids 6 and up can help you out with taking care of a toddler.

Well, I only have DS (13 months). But my DH has a girl-12 and boy-15. We've been together for 11 years and purposely waited. We're only having one, btw. We get to dote on DS and don't have to worry about SS or SD getting jealous or needing their own special playtime. They're so much older, they can take care of themselves when needed, and we give them plenty of attention on their levels. They are both great helpers and love playing with their brother. We encourage them to just enjoy him. They also get to see the hard parts of having a baby around, so hopefully that'll help them if and when they are ever in the situation of needing to control their own emotions.

I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old, so there is currently 2 years between the kids that I have. My husband and I want to have another one, but there will be 3 years between my 1 year old and the next kid, because we want the baby to have alone time with mommy and daddy before another baby comes along, so we're waiting until a year or 2 after my oldest goes to school to have the next one.

I have 3 children 6,2,and 4 mts. There is a gap of 3yrs and 11 mts between my first 2 and a 2 yr and 3 mt gap between my my last and i think it was much easier to have them almost 4 yrs apart but they r so different its not funny. The age is so far apart that they r at to totally different levels.i think for them it is nice to have them closer but for me it was easier haveing them 4 yrs apart.

my 2 kids are 18 months apart. I notice they are closer to each other.

I have three children all very close in age te oldest and middle are 14 months apart and the middle and the youngest are 11 months apart. Some times I love it. It can be so easy when I have things to do around theyhouse hey can play with each other and keeep each other out of trouble. but then there are times when I just want to "kill" them all. It can be so demanding to have so mny kids needed differnt things at onces.

I didnt start thinking about another baby until my daughter turned 1. 6 months later i got pregnant. They are almost 27 months apart (2yrs old and 2 months old now) and im glad i did it this way. My 2yr old is not jealous at all. She LOVES her sister and likes to help with her alot. If she had been younger, she wouldnt understand when i say 'can you bring mommy a diaper? or can you give her the pacifier?' she feels so special when she helps me. If she had been older, i think she would have felt more jealousy due to her being an only child for even longer. i would say whatever works for you, but i personally 2yrs is a good age gap. good luck to you.

If I were you I would seperate them a little more or you will be in constant diapers. LOL My oldest sister and I are 2.5 years apart my youngest sister and I are 7 years apart. There is no difference in how we all treat each other. My children are 10 years apart and they still fight and argue or love and play. I really don't think it makes a difference other than to the parents.

My two are 23 and a half months apart and they are great together! In my family I am the baby and I think I was one of those oopsie babies because I'm twelve years behind my sister and ten years behind my brother and the gap was horrible! I felt like an only child because I didn't have a sibling close to my age to play with so I swore when I had kids they would be two to three years apart because having a sibling over ten years older I think is really tough for the younger child to handle. The benefits for having them close together is they become good friends and they will always be there for each other, on the downside it's rough on mom with both of them being so young! Once they get older it gets better but it's just tougher in the early years.

I was pregnant with my second one when the elder was only 5-month-old. So, they were born 13.5 months apart. They are now 7 and 8. When they were younger, people used to think they are twins and I will always reply "Yes. Twins of about 1 year apart." Advantage of having a close gap is that they have a playmate all the time, even before the elder was capable of being jealous of another kid in the family. They are best of friends, even though they would quarrel too. That is their way of growing up and adjusting to each other. I am glad they have companion all the time, as that gives me some breaks. But do consider getting some help when both were very young, about less than 3 years old, as they can prove to be a handful. I was like a zombie during that period as I do not have any help during the day when my husband was working. I am glad that period is over now. Both are of schooling age and I am thankful that they have each other for company. Just to share with you my experience. Glad to share any other experience if you have any query. Have a nice day!

This is Chuck's wife speaking. I saw your discussion and had to put my opinion in here. My son was eight months old when I found out we were expecting our second child. I was elated as it had taken two years to conceive our first. The only problem was that morning sickness was so debilitating that feeding baby food to our first was a job left up to daddy. Other than that there were no drawbacks. Baby #1 was walking and talking by the time his sister was born (one week short of being 17 months apart). He loves her, is a little rough with her - but she'll grow up tough. Don't feel that you'll short change the older one of attention - that all seems to work itself out as long as you are aware of his needs and give him lots of hugs and kisses. Also, they will grow up to be each other's biggest advocates. My sister and I are 21 months apart and talk to each other every day. If you want another baby - have one - I've never regretted having them so close. I'm even thinking of another - this time I might wait till the baby is a year old before getting pregnant, but that is so that at least one will be out of diapers - costing me a fortune. Good luck and enjoy the process.