Work work and more work....Does it ever end?

I guess I must be really good with managing my time, because I'm always done with my own work, the ranchwork, the housework and the cooking by five o'clock and then have the evening to laze around and do whatever. I rarely find myself pressed for time. It's all about organizing your time and sticking to a schedule. Like today - I hit my wordcount (I'm a writer), fed the horses, did the laundry, cleaned the kitchen and bathroom, baked a poundcake, fed the dogs, cleaned the yard, put the horses in, cooked dinner - from scratch - set the table, cleaned up after dinner and ran the dishwasher and now I'm in bed relaxing with the internet and the television. I figure if I can do all that while I'm disabled, anyone who learns good time management can manage. It's just the whole time management thing that can be a real pain. Took me a while to get it down. Look into some books on it, they might help you.

dear we work to live, how can we live if we dont have something to eat? we are born to work and to live... just accept the fact that as long as we live, we need to work a living... just enjoy your work, enjoy your life and be happy...

Very true about that specially for those full time house wives, day and or night they are still working. As i am a male in gender i do not really know how to respond to your questions about those things what i am only hoping for is that you all mothers will stay healthy and 'sane' enough to do such things in and around the house. greetings. : )

I do understand how you feel. When you are both working then the household work should be split between you. There is no reason for you to be doing two jobs like that and that is what you are doing. You have your out of the house job and now also the household job. He can help as well, there is no reason he can't. You need to start giving him some of the chores around the house or let him help with the kids. You two are married and it should be a partnership. It shouldn't be all one sided.

I feel run down all the time since i am a college student it is hard to put sleep in the mix with pleasure, studying, and class. but I must ask you, why doesn't your husband help? You both work. you both should share the housework. you can still cook dinner while he puts the kids to sleep. why not share your household responsibilities

I know that womens work harder than mans.They have that in their soul, they enver get tire when is something with the family. It is admirable that on a women. I really help people when i can, and if someone offers to do something for me, i accept it.

why ? our life is for work yes just for work to get money for gift our family thank you

I do not think work will ever end at all. I like to get whatever I can done by myself and if I need help, I ask other people to help me out.

I do the household chores even though im so tired its my own way of showing my love and care for my family. Its just natural for women to be like that and i guess guys still thinks that women should do the household chores

great discussion, rated +. im in this situation where sometimes i feel like saying no just leave eevrything i can't be bothered anymore but i have to do it, im busy all the time, i usually get around 4 hours or 5 hours slep at night then im back up doing the cleaning, sometimes cooking as ive been learning little things over the past few days and bathing myself, bathing my child, the washing up, jeez it does never end, i get sick of it sometimes but i like to do it myself so i know that the jobs done properly and to my standards. sometimes my partner will help out, only on the odd time but i refuse that because i don't think he meets my standards in cleaning and everything else etc!

the work is not going to end other wise what people will do? its the way our society and world works and we have to be part of that so its never ending process, you are doing you forefather have done this your grand childrens are also gonna do the same why worry?

this has become the culture of pesent ypung generation.fast money!.more you work more you make money.

i think when both the partners are working then they should take care of each other,now a days most of the household work are accomplished with the help of some machines,so it's not a tough work for a boy also to do some household work,it depends how helping and caring u both are for each other.

That is unfair for us women. That's why I want to find a guy who will treat me like his equal. We are only human and get tired too, I don't think it's too much to help out at home as well. If they really care, they should help out, doing things together no matter what it is, is much better than one sitting and one getting a bad back from all those chores.

Things are only that way if you want and/or let them be that way. In my house, things are equal. Even when I stay home and work online while my husband goes to work, other household chores are done by both of us, or by me one time and him another time. If you don't want to do all the work yourself, you need to talk to your boyfriend about it.

I agree that the person who doesn't have a job should do the majority of the cleaning and cooking and everything else - whether they are a man or a woman... But, if you BOTH work there isn't any reason why your boyfriend should get to just be a couch potato when he gets home while you do all the work. I understand that you don't like to ask for help, but if your boyfriend cares about you I would think that he would be willing to do more, especially if you tell him how tired and stressed out you are.

It is hard because you need those two paychecks to run your household that is why you feel so run down.. and i feel sorry for you.. how about getting your boyfriend to help you a little bit.. say maybe since you are already cooking.. and then you will give baths to your kid.. maybe your boyfriend can clean up after meal? or run the laundry for you? just little things.. as for cleaning the whole house.. have a day in the week where both of you will do all of the household.. it will be fun because you have someone to do it with.. and also it will give time to strengthen the family bond.. get your kid to help as well.. depending on how old they are.. maybe get them to make their own bed.. or tidy up their toys or just help out somehow.. that way they get to do things that adult do (kids love this) and also they learn to help each other as well.. Sometimes when my boyfriend help me do stuff.. he didnt do it the way I did it.. and I have started to learn to accept it.. as long as it is not fatal.. why not? everyone is entitled to have their own way of doing things.. he is helping me so I should be thankful instead of complaining all the time.. although if what he is doing is fatal.. say maybe he did the washing up and put the knife in place where it would be easy for people to get hurt.. then of course I will tell him and redo what he did.. :)

Well, you just have to let him help you a bit. It does not make sense that it is only you who does the work. Just because you are a woman does not mean you have to do all the chores. Ask him to help you a bit like the dishes or perhaps some house cleaning. Now unless you enjoy what you do then go ahead and do everything. In today's times where even 2 household incomes are not even enough, both parties should pitch in with the household chores. It's either that or you should find a better vehicle that would help you earn more and have more time for each other.

Well, I came from a regular family of 5 where maid do almost every household works like cleaning, laundry, sometimes cooking. My mother mostly do the cooking. But these doesn't make me a spoiled child. I can cook, clean and do the laundry myself in a circumstance. Before I got married, I learn that my husband is quite independent in the sense that sometimes he do his own laundry, sometimes cooks and even CLEAN his own room. I thought that I was lucky to find such guy who doesn't have such principle that a wife has to do all the household works. But now after I got married for almost 2 years, I "SMELL" that he's turning to be dependent on me for the household works. He's now enjoying what your husband is enjoying. Anyway this is understandable for me for him to act like that. I think it's the common sense of most of all husband to let her wife do the household works. As long as the husbands are cooperative . . meaning that they are willing to help when we need help, I think we don't have to be upset or mad. I don't mean to be lazy but like you said time has changed it's not just the wives do all the households, so we have to learn to share the households with our husband. Make them understand that we'll appreciate their help for the households.

if you don't get the kids & boyfriend to help you out your gonna burn out. i'm not talking just having an emotional meltdown. i'm talking physically. your body can't keep up with that kind of load, it will just shut down, then where will your family be?