Attitude problem

Oh I can feel what you are going through. It really is hard to work with children because they come from so many different upbringings and some parents don't bother to teach the kids manners and to instil in their minds to be respectful of adults and peers as well. I worked day care for a few years part time and some of the kids would finish a snack and dump the wrappers on the floor and were not speaking very nice. I always corrected them and would tell them to clean up the papers they dropped and tell them why. I'm sure some were mad at me, but a few actually would catch on and remember where the trash was and where their manners were when they came in next time.

It sounds like you are working with troubled kids. Is that right? If not, I think you deserve some extra help. I can't stand smart mouth kids, so i admire your patience and i hope thinks improve fast for your sake. Take care Smints8985.

nice to read your post again! i'm so lol to read your post!. what country are you working for? all i can say is "Astig!"he,he,he! You know that word right? well, i think that their parents don't teach them the right manners.. may be they also inherit that in their environment.. anyways, that's very challenging part on your job.. Be patient to show them the right manner..Teach them.. Good luck Teacher!

I think all you have to do is to be patient...patience is the most improtant thing that you must have in your job..

i know..bad manners make me cringe man..but we cannot stoop to their level..we have to find ways of teaching them a lesson in a different way..but at that age they think they know it all..once they are older with more problems and they have to face the music they will realise..i think the school system hads become too lenient and the feet are ruling the head as the sayong goies..don't lose your good manners though..that is a precious treasure..

I notice the same behavior more and more too. My sister-in-law is a teacher and she says it's really bad in school. When I was young I would have never dreamed of talking to any adult that way because I would have been scared to do it and I was raised better than that. My parents would've had a bird if they heard me speak to anyone that way. I think kids today aren't raised the same way and it's kind of a shame. There's nothing more disrespectful as a child behaving like they run the show and the adults are just an annoyance.

I would not let it get to you. It is not thier fault they aren't taught any manners. I would speak to thier parents and let them know how these kids are talking to you...I would also continue to try and teach them what is respectful and how they should be talking to you...hopefully it will get better...

I don't know how you are doing it so far. You must have the patience of a saint. For me it would only take one smart comment like that and I would go through the roof! This is why I am not having children.... Good luck with your job. I hope that maybe after they warm up to you and know you better they will stop some of the attitude.

Well dont be upset, since they are ot taught at home or anywhere they may not be aware, you teach them atleast a few will change and it is good to incorporate such habits from home, i dont how they miss out on that

I think that often children are just mirrors of their parents. Since children learn from their parents most children take on some aspects of their parents personality. It is common now for a lot of people to be selfish and uncaring toward other people.

Maybe you should talk to your other coworkers or maybe you should consider getting another job, if your not happy with your job thats not good, you should love your job.

The only thing to do especially in the case of give me this or give me that is to make them ask you politely. simply state that until they can be respectful that they will not get whatever it is they are asking for. it is never too soon to start teaching children that.

Some kids don't have manners because their parents don't take the time to teach them any. I think that its important to teach a kid manners, so that especially in the future they know how to be polite, because in this world you can't be rude and expect to get what you want. Maybe you can try to teach them some manners in a fun way like give them a sticker everytime they use their manners, or something like that you know.

Well I duno much about kids, but I have attitude problems :P. specially when I am sleepy, I just can't control myself no matter how hard I try. and also when I am tired. I cant stand anything. that is a really bad habbit of mine. I wish I coul dget rid it. other than my atiude peoblem I am a very jolly person. and love being centered by people.

Unfortunately for the children of today, manners are not instilled in them by their parents. My children were raised to be polite and use their manners. When I worked at our local high school I was subject to bad manners on a daily basis. It stopped when I turned the conversation around. If they said they needed something I would tell them that I would gladly help them if they would please use a different tone and wording to ask for assistance with what they needed.

Continue being polite and teach hem to be polite, they may not like it but they need to learn that the correct way of asking for something is politly other wise they won't receive it.... I would say it comes back to the way their parents raise them but I always make my son say Please and Thank you but he will say give it to me and I respond with No and then repeat what he should say like excuse me can I please have a pencil, etc... Continue being yourself, they may just feel threatened by you maybe and allot of Kids hate being told wht to do too.. Good Luck :)

I think the key here is "what do you do with characteristics that society says are undesirable at times, but that are part of your psychological make-up and integral to who you are?" Is this hostility towards authority such a bad thing--especially if someone in authority is an idiot? I am not sure questioning some authority figures is so bad but there are more appropriate ways of dealing with this feeling than cursing at a teacher or rolling one's eyes when annoyed. I do not anger easily or frequently but when I do get upset about something, I get very mad and I stay mad for days. Generally, the things that make me mad are injustices (or perceived injustices) that occur to me or, more likely, my family and friends - so it's fairly easy to channel the anger into righting the wrong. I then decided to change my behavior. About that same time, I learned a technique from a wise boss and mentor that I've used in my personal life. He called it his 3-day rule. Any time you are angry, sad, irritated, disgusted, etc., over something that's happened to you, you must wait 3 days before you decide what to do about it. (Obviously, this doesn't apply to actionable things like crimes or dangerous situations that should be reported to the police or other authorities.) During the 3 days, you can be angry, sad, hurt, and/or upset but you have to keep it to yourself. After 3 days, if you still feel the strong emotion about whatever happened, then you can and definitely should do something about it. After 3 days, however, the emotion has typically worn off and thus whatever action you decide to take will likely be more reasonable and appropriate. I do want to mention that the 3-day rule should not be used to avoid dealing with problems or injustices. It is not a cooling off period so you have an excuse to avoid important issues. Instead, it is time you give yourself to develop an appropriate response to a problem or concern.

Try to make jokes about that with that pecil ! and i hope you are gettin out off that stress

I've had to teach college students; while they mellow out by that age, many of them still haven't learned propriety or manners. (It's a state college.) Someone has to put the foot down, and it might as well be you! I'd have told the pencil kid "What makes you think you can order me to give you a pencil? Try again." Yes, they have attitude problems. Their parents have done them a great disservice by not teaching them how to treat others, and just like not learning to read well and write effectively, it'll hamper them for life if it's not straightened out.

Where do you live as in citywise/countrywise? Because I notice it here in California, New York they're like that also. I blame it on the media who glamourizes "divas" and "thugs". It's utter nonsense.