Who's better at dealing with pain... men or women?
By carissa765
@carissa765 (1097)
United States
January 31, 2007 9:26pm CST
My fiance' recently got two teeth pulled, one a week for the last two weeks, and he is being such a baby about it...
For instance he normally eats enough for three grown men, but here lately even 3 days after the pull, he is still complaining that hismouth hurts, and he cannot eat very well.
Then he will complain that every time he gets out of his chair for something that his tooth hurts him. GIVE ME A BREAK!!!!
I had a hysterectomy three years ago, a month after I had my gullbladder taken out, and was at school the next day after getting out of the hospital. Lugging around a college bookbag, it is not easy when you are a criminal justice major, is not easy.
I had to get up and off of my butt a couple days after the surgery because at the time I was a single mom of two toddler boys. Even when I had someone to help, it wasn't very much, and I found myself doing things that had to be done no matter what..
Now I am not saying that all men are sissies, but most of the ones that I have been with are...
Is it because I do way too much for them? Is it because I have been through it all and think they should be as strong as I am? Or and I just flipping insensitive? Thanks for any responces in advance...
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119 responses
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I am the same way... Let me deal with it, or I will never get better.. It's like if you sprain your ankle walk on it or it will never get better
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@jam0114 (118)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
what pain? physically or emotionally? physically, maybe men's better to deal with it. but emotionally, women does because they are vocal with their feelings and crying is one of their burst-it-out way, after that, they're cool again!
@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I was referring to physical pain, due to the tooth being pulled, but that is a great response... thank you
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I was referring to physical pain, due to the tooth being pulled, but that is a great response... thank you
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@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Maybe he likes the attention or maybe the excuse not to have to do anything. This sounds like my brother in law we both had a tooth hurting us at the same time I stayed home and pulled mine for free yeah it hurt a little but only for a few minutes, my sister had to take her husband to the dentist and pay $80 bucks for his to get pulled.. Why do you think god had to make a woman for? Because he was tired of listening to all that whinning when he asked the man to do something...lol
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@carissa765 (1097)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I agree that men whine when it comes time to do something, but I have never heard it put that way before.. lol that is very funny
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@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I think the answer to your question is a combination of all of the above. First off, it's pretty well been proven that women are better at dealing with pain than men. Some suggest it's an evolutionary trait--after all, you all gotta' do that childbirth thing.
However, also keep in mind that people behave in ways that gets them expected responses. Ignore the painful griping, and help him focus on positive things. One thing that men hate, (I suppose all people do, but especially for males it's a certain pride thing--we hate losing control against our will. The pain, not being able to eat right, et cetera is making him feel less valuable, less virile in a way.
But since you mention that we're talking about two pulled teeth here... Is it possible that there's an infection? There is ground for some real great pain if he's got an infection. If there's no major infection or anything like that, then, I'd say " yeah, he's being a baby" and milkin' it for all he can.
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@concealed24beauty (175)
• United States
1 Feb 07
i think woeman have a high torlence for pain God made us to bare children you know and men try to be hard but if you step on their foot they are scream blood murder. My husband is the same way he has a sport injury and when it rains it starts to hurt I have never seen a big baby.
@charlazio (215)
• Italy
1 Feb 07
as a male, i should say that men are better...but as an intelligent male i have to say women.
Obviously, women are better at dealing with pain. just look at the ultimate example...childbirth. how women give birth to a 5-10 pound boiling ball out of such a small opening is beyond me. props to women for that, i'm glad i don't have to do it!
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
i certainly believe that women can dealt with pain much better than men... it is because men doesn't experience period every month which we experience... also, we experience the pain of giving birth which they don't... so yes, we are definitely better in dealing with pain compare to men...
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@alchemistrx (2547)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
I think women are capable of pain management than men.I just laugh the pain out when my tooth got pulled.I didn't cry out any bit.When it comes to other things like dysmenorrhea,migraines and other medical issues,women can take pain.
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@shijjukhan (207)
• India
1 Feb 07
Hii......its really very sad to know the things which had happened to you..and its great that you have faced it bravely.....hats off to you...according to me women are brave in dealing with pain when compared to men.......men cant hold pain for a long time.........
but women has the capacity to hold it and not to tell anyone.....so i think that women are good at dealing with pain when compared to men.......
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@bunnylady01 (483)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I think women in general are stronger by far then men. We deal with many life occurances that men don't have too. Jobs, kids, home, finances etc. and we do it all because we have too.
Women seem to be able to put aside their pain to get what needs to be done...done.
I think most men need to buck up a bit. We do do alot for our men and I don't think some realize what we (try) to ignore to get it accomplished.
Hang in there!
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@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
I guess women are better at tolerating both physical and emotional pain. We have ways of dealing with things when they come without making too much of a fuss. Although I'm not saying that guys are big wussies. It mainly depends on the tolerance level of a person to pain. A lot of guys pretend to be strong in front of their friends but when they're with loved ones, they tend to show their real selves. I guess we have this mind set that guys should always be stronger than us and that any show of weakness is just not acceptable... Since you seem like a very strong woman, you are probably expecting your fiance to be.. stronger... Hmmm... maybe it's his way of getting your attention... or it may also be his way of saying that he needs a little TLC from you. (Lol.)
@willocfc (963)
• Australia
1 Feb 07
Women defiantley!!! men like to put on a brave face and act like they are tough but the minute they get sick or hurt they turn into crying lil boys, women go through childbirth and mensturation and meno pause and i think that teaches us to be strong
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@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Women most DEFINITELY handle pain better than men. Why do you think women endure childbirth? No man could ever handle that. Men are babies when it comes to pain or being sick.
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@philipwu51 (684)
• China
1 Feb 07
I think woman could tolerate more than men physically. while man can tolerate more than woman mentally.
its scitific that in the same condition, man would die fast than woman becsuse of hunger, cold, thirsty.
and woman is easy breakdown while facing prolem in feelings.
have a good day.
@cherrylicious (394)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Feb 07
In terms of dealing the pain Women are better than Men, have you noticed that mostly of men are just kept their feelings and hid it until it burst, it causes pain in heart, in health they are much prone to cardiac arrest or any of the heart attack. While Women can release those feelings by crying and share problems just to release the pain.
@yancel0206 (32)
• Philippines
1 Feb 07
I think women have higher tolerance on pain.. they have their monthly periods which is sometimes really painful and most of all they give birth..
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@kc_159_98 (144)
• United States
1 Feb 07
I don't know about that. I know that me (and my lady friends) deal with headaches and cramps and all our other pains quietly. "Go away and leave me alone". lol. Most of the guys I know start whining about it. My husband and my Dad are rare exceptions. Wether it is just a cold or if it's back pain from a pinched nerve. I rarely ever hear them complain and for the most part they go on about their buisness.
I asked my husband about this and he said that a lot of guys act like babies because it's an excuse to be sensitive. Personally, I think it's more like an excuse to be babied by us women and to get out of having to do anything except sit with the remote.
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@sadate (35)
• India
1 Feb 07
I think the instinsic capacity for tolerance is there in both men and women, and it manifests itself depending on the circumstances. Like the sma eguy making a fuss about two teeth being pulled, may behave totally different , as part of an army platoon, or while responding to an emergency somewhere. Somepeople like to be fussed over, because presumably this was a big thing in their home when they were children. Those who had to rough it out , probably wont behave like this.
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