Marriage...CAN IT LAST?? in todays world?

hey, im not yet married but all i can say is what keeps a marriage on is:- 1. Trust between you and your partner,which is most important. 2. Your chemistry. Dont be like typical husband and wife. Be like friends, collegues, lovers, everything. You should be food for life for him and vice-versa. 3. Keep alive your love by a little surprises here and there. 4. Spend time with each other whenever you get to do so. Probably go on a vacation atleast twice a year. That will keep the romance on! 5. Keep Flirting with each other. Never let your partner feel that you are not inetrested in him/her anymore. Things not to do would be:- 1. DONOT Nag your partner now and then for every small thing in this world. 2. If any problem is there, try and sort it out by talking to each other maturely.There is no point getting angry and shouting on each other as that would serve no purpose, rather just spoil your relationship. 3. Own up your mistake when there is one. If not, then try and end it up as soon as possible. DONOT linger on arguments. 4. DONOT irritate each other by saying things like "You dont love me any more" etc etc. (Words like these just put you off!) I hope everyone in this world is Happily Married.

When we embark on a marriage, it is always in the hope that we will get tied up with the right person whom we can be with until our last breath. Before getting married find out first whether you can take his criticisms about you and that he can take your criticisms about him. You must be able to accept criticisms coming from both sides of the families and talk about it calmly or strongly but, in the end, no one gets embittered. It's just okay. If he criticizes anyone in your family and so you do also, and both of you can take it and just talk about it squarely, good and fine. This means you can possibly take each other both the good and bad points in you. Having conversations from day to day which ends in happy compromise or complete understanding of each other will lead to a healthy and happy life together. There will always be conflicts from time to time, it is how the issues are dealt with and resolved that matters.

yews surly it can last but remember you got to have trust between both partners and communication has to be good aswell.

I think 3). Not doing the little gestures of Love should have been listed as number one. I think this is the biggest cause of failure in marriages today. It seems people feel once they have tied the knot they no longer have to try anymore. The best thing you can do is remember to always be there for your soon to be spouse. Try not to nag to much either, lol, that's always a killer. But remember you still have to do all those little things that make your relationship special. It's the little things that mean so much in the long run.

If your getting married the only advise I can give to you is be sure that the person your going to get married to is the one you truly love. You don't want to regret being married to that person in the near future. But if both of you really love each other and understand one another, then go on get married and make the best out of it. good luck.

Marriage is a bond in which two people are joined together in order to spend their lives together....there are a lo of problems that come along in the way of the relation but it is upto the couple how they face the problem and deal with the situation.......so the whole thing is about trust and faith on each other and supporting one other during the time of need.......the relation and the bond has been made to stay in and not to break it.

I bet the 5th reason was money problems. My only suggestion is to listen to your spouse.If you two can talk and I mean really talk about anything, you'll be fine. Oh anothe I just tought of. Before you get married, make sure you both want the sme thing out of marriage, like children. If you both agree why you are getting married, your marriage will last.

a friend of mine once forwarded a message to me, it says "the secret to a long and lasting relationship is to make ur special someone fall inlove w/you each and evry single day... for love is not a noun to be defined but a verb to be acted upon.." I think it's really important to make ur special someone feel important, loved and needed everyday even if ur already married.. It's important that you will always show your love for him even in the simplest ways.. Good luck to you... :-D

We have been married for 20 years going to 21 in April 5th. The key is good communication, loving each other by demostrating your love in little details, having patience towards the other and be faithful. Not showing jealousy.

Maybe yes, maybe no. Why Yes? Becaus marriage be last fo a lifetime if both the couple love one another, if they have trust to one another and if they don't let theirselves temp to other girls and boys out there.. Why No? Because now a days, couples don't have trust to one another, a small problem would lead to a big problem and that cause a fight, Fight may lead to divorce. and speaking of Divorce, For me, it should not be implemented to every country because it would really ruin the relationship of a couple.

marriage can last long. i think talking to each other, be open to your husband/wife, tell him/her about your feelings or whatever you have inside yourself, be honest, asking of each other's wants and doesn't want so you both understand each side. be sweet and caring to your husband/wife. prepare his/her food, clothes, or whatever he/she needs when going to work or after work. for me, i would really appreciate if the guy prepares what i need and cares for me all the time. i would love him even more. show him/her that she/he is important to you.

It is hard to say!!

Maybe the problem is that today the marriage ends up more often 'couse the people go to marry too early than in the past. Anyway i think that the only think that can let work a marriage is the true love. There are also some things that can help and sometimes we forget them. These are: 1)some cuddles at the beginning of the day... 2)sometimes try to cook something special, something romantic, something spicy ;) for him/her 3)if you're not able to cook you can try to do something by your hands for him7her like a little paint, a nice picture with some photoshop effects, and so on... 4)presents like flowers (for her) or choccolate (for him.....also if not is any special day... 5)remember that everyday is special if you're really in love...

hi, u posted a nice discussion, marriage can last forever with out breaking, look at our parents and grand parents how happy and enjoyable they are for a marriage life to be healthier the things u must do are 1)understanding between the couples is very important 2)there should be no communication gap wat ever the matter was whether it is that 3letter word or each personal relations. 3)compramising nature.

well, i think the main reason most marriages fail nowadays is because of lack of trust and communication between the two people... also, they can't accept each other differences and can't tolerate mistakes... so, i think trust (be honest to each other), communication, accepting each other's differences (both the posituve and negative ones) and tolerating mistakes are critical to make a marriage last... at least from my experience, this is what i have learnt...

I think people jump into relationships and move too quickly, only to find out they're not right for each other. In my experience, my best relationship (in it now) has been the one where we were friends for quite some time, which allowed us to truly get to know each other. We ended up falling in love along the way. We feel that we're soul mates. A lot of times, we know what the other one is about to say. Trust & honesty should be on the top of that list. Without it, you've got nothing. Yeah, the "love" needs to be there to, but there's always ways to spice that up. Just use your imagination. LOL An important aspect to me is to NOT go to bed angry. Why bring the anger into the next day and drag it on. If you can talk about your problems, the relationship will be healthier. GL and congrats!

well it seems that you have found out your result but i would also suggest you try not to follow the same mistake that every1 else follows you already know what causes the breakage of marriage you onlly got to make sure you dont do the same thing..

in marriage just remember the word of God and I assure you that your marriage will last. Wife should be submissive to your husband and respect him always. Husband should love your wife as you love yourself. And be God the center of the relationship.

That's why we need to be sure that our partner is more than a lover but a friend, cause while you're boyfriends and girlfriends you tend to do everything to make sure you remain together and that's because you would want the relationship to work out and eventually get married. But once married, there is a certain subconscious knowledge that you have already crossed the finish line, so you tend to forget about the little gestures of love and all other special things that you did when you were just making your way towards the finish line. Maybe some couples have the mentally that you should only work hard for the relationship and when you finally get marriesd it's done. But the truth is it is just the beginning. So basically it takes two person who are completely compatible with each other and sees each other as a lifelong companion, then you each know that every day you are making a step towards your lifelong journey together, then you wouldn't be forgetting anything essential in a relationship.

Marriage can last, if the two people in it works together to preserve it. First for woman: you should respect your husband position as the leader of the household, you should support and be involved (at least know a little bit) about his work, you should not try to change him instead accept him for who he is. Man has the need to be respected. And for man: your wive needs to feel loved (by YOU!), you should be a romantic to her, compliment her, be attentive to her, man needs to be the leader of the household but not by commanding your wive, instead by being an example. This is your responsibilities. And for the two of you: when fighting, do not drag out old arguments. I summarize all of this from a book of relationship that Ive read and although it is only a simple point, you can try it in your relationship. In all relationship and in every marriage, the need for US is always the first priority rather than the need for ME or YOU. Everything needs to be done for the better of US instead of individuals. Married couple are a TEAM that needs to work together against the world, but sometimes it seems that married couple work against each other, do try to avoid this. :) Keep the romance just as if you are still dating, surprise your spouse is another way to keep the romance alive :)