Is it right to snoop through someones (sms)messages on their mobile (cellphone)?

I would say it's not a thing one normally does, but if you felt that, after the dream, "something" made you pick his phone up and check the messages, when you don't make a habit of it, I would say, (knowing your beliefs and mine), that this was a kindly spirit trying to warn you of the danger to your daughter. I don't think it was wrong of you to do this, Bizzie, and I'm sure you feel justified now, having found what you did. Brightest Blesssings.

i have had spiritusl dreams..and like it say in the tao te ching..you have to resort to unorthodox methods to bring about order...and although it would not be something i would normally do..if it is a strong intuition leading me to this i have to follow it..and i too helkped some people through doing the unconventional..im always believe in exceptions to the rule..

I am a HUGE believer in privacy. I would loose it if my boyfriend went through my things or my phone. I can understand though that feeling, or intuition. Something drove you to pick up that phone and it doesn't sound as if it was because you are nosey or whatnot. It sounds like a compulsion and can't be blamed really. I always listen to my insticts and yours were telling you something for a reason. It it bad if you do it because you are nosey or bored or something.

I believe that everyone is entitled to his/her privacy. I also believe that certain people have an "intuition" that must be acted upon. Yes, I have snooped on my husbands cell phone. It was my intuition that made me do it! It is not something that I routinely do, but I feel that in certain instances, you must do what you must do.

The answer to this one is that it depends on who it is and what's going on. Generally, I am big advocate of privacy. However, if you have invited someone to live in your home as you did, and I even sniffed a question mark with my daughter's safety, by all means, have a look. If you have children who give you reason to suspect that they are on the verge of doing something stupid with their life, you are the parent, take a look. If you are asking about browsing through messages of some friend or acquaintance just to see what's there, don't. This is like reading someone's diary. You always do it with some risk. So, use your head. If you're nosy, get over it. If you can demonstrate real concerns or safety issues, then proceed with caution.

"Do unto others as you would have done unto you." -- that's the golden rule. Would you want him snooping around in your text messages? Do you value your privacy? Men keep their thoughts to themselves, and their decision making process is more intimate than that of women's. Men will present you with the result of their thinking, whereas women will decide things out loud, and try to to bounce their decisions all amongst their friends for consensus. Moreover, you need to think about what might be going through the mind of someone you are dating. Many men with low self-esteem will get themselves into "damaged goods" relationships (ie, women who have already been knocked up), without any fear or consideration of leaving because they don't view your relationship as "serious"; even more so if they are looking to have kids. No man will ever love a child from a previous rendezvous as much as his own flesh and blood. Moving in with someone you've only been seeing for less than a year is another bad decision, but that's another topic for another time...but if you can't trust them enough to give them their privacy, you don't know them well enough and haven't spent enough time qualifying them in the first place.

If you are talking is it right to see someone sms! I think that is a morally "No". That is Privacy, someone's area and you are trespasser. and more ridiculous, "any good come of it?" Sorry~ is it makes sense! Will that be good to someone opens your wallet and look your private info from it, will the owne say that is so "Good"!

did u actually have that dream or was it just an excuse you intend to give in order to justify yourself to go through your boyfreind's mobile? besides i dont see any connection b/w your dream and having to reading his sms message! and what do you mean he had a sms that meant gr8 danger to your daughter? was he plannign to hurt her physically? or did u mean something else? whatever the sms was, it doesnt justify u reading his sms unless, of course, he had given u prior permission to do so

Dreams and gut feelings should be acted upon. We all have a guardian angel watching over us so we have to do what we feel best. It is better to be forewarned before rather than be too late after the event. So it is right to do what you did and the result has proved it. So go for it.

No i don't and i think that is offense doing it and once i get doubt that he is planning i would speak to him directly and my character is of that kind Everything face to face nothing is hidden and i don't do friendship with that kind of personalities in my life time and that is very dangerous.

Is it right? I don't know. Normally I would say no, as it's an invasion of privacy. In this instance, I guess it's a good thing that you did, but what if you didn't find anything? What if he had caught you? How would you feel if he had gone through your cellphone, IMs or email? I don't even get on my husband's computer (we have our own desktops) but I could if I wanted to. Same with me. He can, and does, sometimes open my email for me. I use Outlook Express and tend to get a lot of email, so he will load my email and see if I got anything from anyone that was important. Since both are in the living room, it's hard to "sneak" anything by each other, even if we wanted to. We just don't. I don't keep anything from him and he doesn't keep anything from me. If there are secrets in a relationship, it can cause them to break down. I guess you have to use your own judgement. In this case you found out something important, but next time you might not and you'll have lost his trust if he caught you or found out. It can cause a lot of pain. Good luck. I hope things worked out for you.

I don't really fiddle with my partners cell phone, but once in while going through each others secrets is not a bad thing. And moreover you can't have secrets in a relationship, otherwise it is not a relationship. That's my philosophy :-)

your story sounds real creepy but i'm glad you acted upon your dream to save your daughter from harm. i would not look through my partner's text messages because i trust him and there's no reason for me to be suspicious of him. at this point in our relationship, if i do that it would only probably lead to a fight. but if he were acting strangely (example: he would not let me hear it when he talks to someone on the phone) then there's reason for me to be suspicious. if that's the case i would definitely do some investigating and start with his cell phone. and i won't care if we fight over it.

i can't say. it depends on situation to situation. if you suspect a child going astray, definately, children are your responsibility.

I think it is normal to a couple to see the text messages of their partner and I think it is okey since they are partners.

I admit it - i am a snoop :-/ I was going through his cell a few times in the beginning - mainly because I found it so hard to trust him not cheating on me (I came from a relationship that after 4 years turned out to be filled with nothing but cheating) However NowI do trust him and I feel no need to snoop... I have told him about it afterwards and he told me that I could look whenever I wanted to :-) i haven´t looked since =)

no its not good!to keep an eye over someone and secretly find out about his moves by going through his messages is bad! but your situation is totally different.you were not spying! as far as for your situation it did good to you..without harming your boyfriend. you satisfied yourself which is very important...else you would have starined yourself pondering over it or may be ending up in a tiff. but dont make it a habit,,,,,!

I don't have the habit of looking in my partner mobile phone. It is her personal phone and I give her some privacy in it. In that way she also don't snoop in my phone. No matter how many messages or call I recieved in a day. She really don't mind at all.

yep, im guilty!!! after being hurt a few times, i wanted to know before i got into deep with anyone else, what they were REALLY up to. Im a very untrusting person and always think that people are doing things behind my back, and alot of the time they ARE and i want to know!!! if they have nothing to hide, then there should be no problem with you looking through their stuff. ITs when they make a big deal out of it that you should be concerned.

hi bizziebod.. i think u did a right thing..sometimes u cannot be too loyal to your partner.rite?bcoz not all things that ur partner did always right..sometimes we should snoops our partner private thing 2 exactly know what he/she really did.i dont think u did the wrong action..sometimes u must break the rules and follow your instinct..