Is it right to leave a baby crying for an hour and a half??

No, I don't think that you should leave a baby crying for that long. I think it makes a difference if you let the baby sleep in the bed with you and then try to put the baby in its own room by itself. Maybe she should try getting the baby to sleep and then just putting the baby in its room then. There is a better solution that letting the baby lay there and cry. Thats cruel!!!!

Perhaps the baby is colicky as another poster suggested. I know my daughter had some problems in that way and sometimes it would take us a few hours to get her calmed down and back to sleep. But as you said they were trying to get the baby sleeping in its own room, and depending on the age it may be appropriate, then again it may not be. I know when my daughter first started sleeping through the night in her own room we would sometimes have to leave her crying like that, but the most we ever did that for was half an hour or so. Do you know how old the child is? If it is less then a year old I would say they shouldn't be doing that quite yet, but that is just my opinion. Parenthood is such a tough thing to nail down what is appropriate and what isn't somethings are black and white, others, such as this, aren't.

Yeah I can understand your frustration, but people need to think things through (not directed at you but at some of the posts on this discussion) and stop automatically blaming a "cruel" or "negligent" mother. My son is allergic to soy milk and cows milk protein which went undiagnosed for the first three months of his life. Due to this he screamed non stop for seventeen hours straight a day sometimes. I rocked, and cuddled, and sang, and swaddled, I danced, I played, I did everything I could possibly imagine might help and he still screamed. He was misdiagnosed with reflux and colic the first twenty times I took him to the hospital and doctors. So after a month or so I just had to deal with it. I was told to let him scream it out, which I couldnt do but thats cause im a big softie, but despite my efforts he cried in distress almost non stop for three months straight. Perhaps the child has a similar problem, it is difficult for most gps to recognise the symptoms, and being a young, first time mum myself, I can relate to your neighbour who probably feels overwhelmed and scared. Maybe a quiet chat with her, an offer of support, or just a friend to talk to over a hot chocolate would be a good idea. You can let her know your concerns about the child, and about work, without it being an attack. I ended up with sever postnatal depression through my experience, because I had noone to support me, but an overworked partner that could sleep through a world war. Just my opinion.

The longest I ever let my babies cry for was five minutes. Then I would go check to see what the problem was. However, my youngest daughter just cried all the time, I think now that perhaps she was colicky. It made no difference what I did, I could feed her, change her, bathe her, walk the floor with her, rock her.....nothing seemed to work. She would cry for hours at a time and I was right there with her. Maybe this is the situation?

That baby needs to either get to a doctor because it is sick, or needs to have some food. Suggest that to the neighbor, and if that doesn't work call in Child Services to had the baby removed from the parent.

Before I had my son, I would have said there was something wrong with the poor baby - my daughter never cried that long. But my son did when he was learning how to go to sleep on his own (even though we did all the same things to teach him to self comfort that we did with his sister, the great sleeper). My son can scream like he's been stabbed, however, just because I won't let him play with a soda can. A determined baby can cry for prolonged periods just because s/he doesn't feel like sleeping on his or her own. My son uses the same shriek to let me know that he's done napping as he does when he gets a shot. Some babies just sound more passionate than other babies - don't jump to conclusions about your neighbor.

I don't know if I would or wouldn't. This sounds a bit extreme - maybe the baby was sick or colicky. Because even if she was trying to get the baby to sleep on its own, if it's been a few weeks and you haven't heard much crying, the baby was probably getting used to it. The other thing it could be is that someone else was looking after the baby. I babysat a baby once and as soon as you put her down, she started crying. I ended up walking back and forth with her for 2 hours until her parents came home. The next time I babysat, she was fine, but that first time, she was very unhappy. And when I put my baby cousin down for a nap, he cries for about 20 minutes instead of the 2 minutes or less that he cries if its his mom or grandpa.

NO. I think it is bad for the baby and bad for the parents. Ababy that is left to cry will cry harder and for longer than one who is attended to with speed. Im afraid I would be having a word with my neighbours if i was you, we are all entitled to a nights sleep good luck, blessed be

how bad!!! i have also a neighbor like as your they let their babies cry for long especially at night its not good for the baby to cry at late night and also to your neighbor whose need to wake early i the morning for work. i have a baby too but i didn't and never ever do that to him even if into deep sleep i quickly wake up if hes cry even a little coz i know if he cry outloud everybody will get disturb and not good for him bcoz onetime he cry in just 1 min i noticed that the color of his face turn to gray i was getting nervous at that time he cry but no sound for about 10 seconds i think when he cry hard its hard for him to breath.

NO WAY how can any parents see thier 1 year child crying like this that . its really un human with the parents. ifnact a person who has no dealing with the child would not be possible to bear the child crying for that much of time. so how can a parents will allow that their child keep crying that much.its must be something other or parents shouldnt be taking good care enough of the baby. Regards, Sam

I dont left my child crying in a hour.And I dont even get sleep well while my child is crying.I will check my baby if what is the problem and I'll make sure that my baby is in good before I left her or back to sleep.

When my son was a year old he cried a lot. I would leave him for around 10 minutes but certainly no longer than that. Perhaps the baby has colic or is teething, but an hour and a half is too long to leave a baby crying. Perhaps if you see her you could ask how the baby is, maybe she is worried but doesn't know what to do.

No way am i letting my kid cry that long..Teaching the baby to sleep in his own room is okay but not to let him cry so long.should have done those kind of teaching when the baby was a few months old..when babies get used to doing things in their first few month they will get used to it..But when they reach more than 6mos i dont think it would be that easy..

She's probably 'ferberizing' her child. Dr. Richard Ferber theorizes that if you leave your child even when he cries, to sleep on his own, he would eventually sleep on his own and be more independent. many have tried this and were successful in fact. though i am not sure if i would use his method.

My goodness, how old was the baby? Sometimes my 9 month old just WILL NOT calm down. I'll do EVERYTHING. Shower, bath, walking, reading, singing, feeding, diaper, burping, snuggling, and sometimes.. NOTHING calms her down because she's just THAT upset.. so I've had to leave her for like 10-15 minutes.. and then i try again.. most of the time she just has to cry herself out.. it's rare that it happens though.. so.. I couldn't imagine for an HOUR and a HALF.. I mean.. that's a long time for a poor babyone..

I believe in letting a child cry for a bit, but an hour and a half is way too long! That's just getting the baby all out of sorts!

first, i would make sure the baby was fed, clean diapered, and comfy and warm. if all those things were taken care of and the baby was just crying because it couldnt sleep, then maybe i would leave it be. but if it was crying that long, then i think maybe the momma didnt do something or maybe the babe was just uncomfortable. she should have double checked. my recommendation for you and your fellow neighbors is, go to the store and buy yourself some earplugs. i dont see why you should lose your sleep because of the baby.

no its not good to leave their children crying 4 a long time

Tough call. Some babies cry alot. Some have colic. I used to check first for diaper or hunger. Then fever, teething or maybe earaches. Usually a diaper change and a few minutes cuddles helps. But sometimes no matter what you try they wont stop crying. But finally they do outgrow it!

That a tough one. It would depend on the age of the baby but my answer would be no to the hour and a half of crying. I have let my 2 year old cry for a few minutes when she was littler but not much more. I would try to be more curteous to the other tennents as well if I were her. Now if she was tending to her child and he/she was crying for that long then that is a different story, but if she was just letting the baby cry for no reason then I would probably be a little upset.