Friends here at mylot...How do you feel??

I would have to say that I don't really want to delete anyone from my friend list here on the site simply because they don't reply to my discussions. Some people I have on my friend list soley because I know that they post things that I'm interested in, and I love getting email notifications of their new topics. I don't expect them to reciprocate and reply to my topics unless they feel like they have something to say back. I know that I have users on my list who post a lot of recepies. I rarely have anything to say back to those posts. There are also other issues that I don't know how to speak on. There are only so many categories in the world that i feel knowledgeable about. So I don't try to worry about it too much. If I find that someone on my list never posts anything that I am interested in, I might delete them eventually, or just turn their notification to 'off'. But I haven't deleted anyone yet. I just might have to when I start getting a tremendously huge list, lol.

I am aware that some friends post more often that others because sometimes I see a name up and don't remember that they are actually a friend. However I wouldn't delete friends, I don't see the point. If they aren't active it doesn't really matter if there are there or not. I would be more likely to delete a friend if they put up lots of discussions about things I'm not interested in, or just put up about 20 a day one straight after the other all about silly things than a friend who doesn't have many discussions at all.

I think that I'm able to spend quite a lot less time on mylot than a few of my friends are, therefore it would really be impossible for me to reply to all of their topics. In addition I like to read and respond to all of the responses that I receive, and that takes up time as well. I think that some people here are quite 'demanding' of their friends. On the one hand they expect them to reply to all their topics, then to reply to all of the responses they receive, and also to post 'enough' topics of their own. Fair enough if you spend a hang of a lot of time on here every day, but I think most of us here are unable to do that. I think that we should be able to enjoy ourselves here and now feel overly pressurised into having to respond to a certain amount of posts to keep people happy! Otherwise it ceases to be fun, and that's what Mylot should be about I think!

I've only been on mylot for about a month and I only visit it occasionally. You're the first person who asked me to be their friend. So, I decided to check you out. Then I said yes because I liked the comments you've made. And now I'm responding to your discussions. I consider this to be reasonable and natural for me. I only respond to something that interests me. Replying often helps me consolidate my opinions about things I don't normally think about. So, my question is why did you ask me to be your friend?

That's not completely true. You know why? Because when they are on other people's profiles, they get promoted. I just deleted one person, and I did because she was placing pictures that were not appropriate in her discussions. You know? But I have not deleted any one else ever since.

I'm very selective about my mylot friends. I want friends who start interesting conversations and make comments that I can reply to. My friend's list is where I start looking for new discussions. I don't know or care whether they read and reply to me. I've rejected friend requests because their profile showed me that we have nothing in common and that I wouldn't be interested in most of their discussions. If a friend gives me some reason to think differently about them than when I added them, I'll delete them.

Personally I try to keep the number of friends I have at a sensible level. At the moment it's 20. I check new discussions my friends have started everytime I log in and try to respond to as many as I can, but only if it's a subject that's relevant to me or if I have something to say about it. Because I choose friends quite carefully I usually am interested in their discussions anyway. I just don't see how it's possible for those with hundreds on their friends list to do this properly because it can take me ages just with the number of friends I have. If I receive a friend request I take a look at the persons other posts and take a look at the number of friends they already have. If they have hundreds of friends already then I'll probably refuse the request. I got a request from someone with more than 1000 friends the other day - I mean what's the point?? I don't expect those on my friends list to respond to every discussion I start - I'm happy if they just apply the same criteria that I do when it comes to responding to their discussions. I'm very happy with the friends I have at the moment so it seems they all do this anyway.

I'm not sure what I expect from my friends. I know why I request a friend and it is because I like their topics and notice I'm responding to them a lot. Obviously, I want to be friends with them to find their topics easier. I'm not a big new discussion starter so I don't need friends simply to keep my topics going and I wouldn't want them to respond if they didn't like the topic anyways. So I guess, I'm not totally sure what I expect from my friends other than I like to have people listed who I truly like to respond to. Lately with all the people talking about deleting friends, it makes it intimidating to ask to be friends with someone.

None of us here are sure exactly what we are paid for here or how much. That being said, I think that the number of responses received for a discussion and the way that the user who started the discussion "moderates" it are factors in our earnings. When I choose friends or accept requests, it is because their discussions and interests are similar to mine. I think that the purpose of having friends is to have a group of people who will support you and respond to your discussions when possible, as you would to theirs. They should also have the same values as you do (they don't spam and cheat). If I answer the majority of a friends' discussions and they never post to mine, then they are doing me no good as a friend; the friendship is not reciprocated. Of course I don't post to every discussion started by my friends, nor do I expect them to do the same for me. If I have no knowledge of the subject and have nothing to add, I won't post. An example is my friends who post questions about their children. I don't have children, so unless I can add something from other experiences in my life, I will not contribute to the discussion. My experience and interest is in the medical field, and I realize that I may start a discussion that my friends have no knowledge of or interest in, and I don't get resentful if they don't answer. Overall, I think that the people who talk about deleting friends are talking about people who never respond to a single one of their discussions and who seem to be here simply to earn money.

I have read many discussions about this topic and am surprised that people would delete you for not answering all of their questions, as many of us work, so can't be on the computer all of the time. I did delete one person, who was posting one word answers and questions that were so silly that I was having trouble taking anything this person said as serious. One evening this person sent me over 20 questions and I just had reached my limit of poor questions. Many of the members that night were reporting this person for their behavior that day. I don't keep track of how many times I post to a persons question and certainly don't feel they should be counting either. All I ask from my friends is if they can help me with a question, then I hope they will come to my aid.

I only post a comment on topics that are relevant to myself in some way. So if someone on my friends list posts a topic that I'm interested in then I'll comment on it but not otherwise. I think that if people post a topic, they want to see relevant comment on that topic from other people, not off topic one liners or comment. I certainly don't waste my time keeping track and score of which of my friends posted to my discussions and how many times they did so.

i posted a similar tpoic after my first week at mylot..but i didn't delaeat anyone in the end and i still find myself responding to discussions on my friend list even if they haven't responded ever to mine..but i have to add.i do give my faithful mylot friends the priority..i think that is only fair to them as they put in the effort to aknowledge me as a friend which i don't think is a bad thing..then when i have time i go onto the new discussions and the friends that are not reciprocating..it doesn't really matter to me any more..i do my bit every day and i have made wonderful friends here..and have learnt alot..even from the ones that haven;'t replied to my posts..i have still learnt something..

I try to answer at least on discussion from every friend I have here. I do however not answer discussions that I would not normally answer. In other words if a post looks dull or does not intrest me I don't answer it just becauyse the person is on my friends list! I haven't deleted anyone, The only reason I would is id they were obscene or something! I do however try to show the love to my friends they were nice enough to add me and like to show my gratitude!

I just like to respond to intriguing topics, you know material I feel is relative. This isn't a popularity contest, or anything. Sure, we wanna make some extra spending money, but there is no reason to get your panties in a bunch because I am not responding to "my dog ate my homework, and threw up on the couch" routine. However, I do look at my friends list first, before moving onto hot topics, or topics of the day. If I don't make money responding, then that is news to me, because I reply quite a bit, for the interaction. I am certainly not going to make my experience boring on here. If you can't have fun, what is the point?

I have deleted several people from my friends' list either because their topics were of no interest to me or they are no longer active here at myLot. I have not deleted anyone just because they haven't responded to any of my discussions. And I certainly don't expect everyone on my friends' list to respond to every discussion I make, any more than I would respond to every discussion they make. I think we should all just respond to the discussions that are of interest to us and where we can actually contribute something to the discussion. That's what I do, and I sure don't limit myself to discussions by those on my list...even if I do go through them first when I get online.

I dont delete any one if they do good topics most of the time and if for somereason I cant respond to a subject I just dont but I wouldnt delete friends just on account of that . Just between you and the lamp post some people have over 2000 friens on liost I see know way they can keep up with them all even with one word responces do you?

I have deleted friends who were jamming my friend's discussion area with their postings and never responding to mine. The problem is that they are just using their friends for an audience and with their constant discussions pouring in, it's hard to even find the postings of reciprocating friends. I would like to have a group of 50 or so good friends that I feel I am somehow communicating with and not a bunch of serial posters who are just tring to flood the market. It's not a matter of money. It's a matter of communication.

Yes, I have seen those discussion topics too and I feel that everyone has a choice to do what they feel is best for them. I know it for a fact that I have not been able to keep track of all my friends' responses because sometimes I am just not able to find anything to contribute. So, if they decide to delete me from their friends' list I won't be upset. I will just make more friends as I get to know those who have similar interests as me whom I can contribute to and vice versa. This world has always been each man for himself. I don't find it surprising.

I agree with you when you say some topics are harder to respond to than others. I don't normally delete my friends. I have some friends on my list whom I recognize by name simply because we seem to share a lot of interests. Lately I have started only accepting those who have the same interests as me , simply because it seems pointless to have someone on my list when neither of us responds to the others discussions. There just seems no point in this as it only clutters up my pages. I defintely don't keep track of how many responses I left compared to how many they've left me, but some names repeatedly come up in many of the discussions and these are the ones I share interests with. It seems to make more sense to me to have friends who share interests as it's not like I use the message center to send private messages to my friends very often.

I think we should have a description of the friend being sent out to us and knowledge of as to why that person wants to added as a friend. This could serve as a guideline for those accepting people as friends in the first place.