Who's in Charge at your House? Husband? Wife? Kids?

Ok-- this is an easy one- We both are in charge-- Both of different things-- and both of the same things- He's in charge of the outside and the garage-- I'm in charge of the inside -- My daughter thinks she in charge of everything! At times I think she is too- LOL.. There are days when I wish I wasn't in charge and could just sit back and relax.. and there are days when I love taking charge-

I do my best to make my partner feel he is the leader of the pack, (I've read 'Mars and Venus')but the dog spoils it - he treats me as Top Dog, Pack Leader, because he is with me most of the time. We all contribute in our own ways and we laides give the men the most important thing they need .....

actually it's funny between my wife and i, because for most of the time that we've been together, she's made more money, and actually, she's in charge of the budget, although we shared kid duties and, okay, well, we were supposed to share cleaning, but she still did most of it. Well, now, and this part isn't funny, but she got hurt at work, and had to quit her job or face surgery. So now, I'm the major bacon bringer homer. and she's a stay at home mom until our son starts school. She is however, still runner of the household, and holder of the checkbook. But for us, it's mutual. Neither one is "the boss." That works for us.

my mom and dad always argues to every little thing and never get their problems solve from too much arguing. so us kids are in charge of the house, joking. my dad is in charge of the house because he is the only one working for the bills and everything. my mom has her little reward on being in charge of the house cause she cleans and cooks for it. my dad has her do something everyday but he still acts like its only him the one working for it.

ME MYSELF and I am in charge thats why my boyfriend of 11 years has his own home and I have mine ...lol ...we are both very headstrong and think we should be in charge so we have a great comprimise ...lol hey it works for us anyways ...not suggesting it for anyone else !!!

I am in charge. I stay home,hubby works, but mom calls the shots. Like the saying goes...."If mamma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. If daddy ain't happy, who cares." LOL Yes hubby "brings home he bacon" But tis I who cooks it. ;)

well, i think there is no boss in my house since both me and my hubby are working and both of us share the household chores together... when it comes to make decision, i do it most of the time... but still we don't want anybody to become a boss here... by right, men should be the boss because that is their calling... even the Bible states that man is the head of the family... so by right, i have to submit to my husband as long as he is doing the right thing...

I think the family should be a team in the house.They should be in charge of everything.Parents should be the heads of the team.

In my house my husband is incharge. I feel in every house husband should be incharge. Because he is the head of the house. So he should have the power to control things. If wives or children take the charge, there won't be any place for husband. He will be treating as good for nothing. So it should not happen. Husband is always husband. You should respect him, love him and take care of him.

Both myself and my wife are. She cooks me things and takes care of me, i try to return the favour but often find myself busy. i will admit she does more but none of us are in change so thats why i said both. Interesting discussion! Kudos. ~Joey

It should be not WHO but how to manage the home in harmony. It needs to be equal as both should work together to make a fully happy home. Both of you are equal partners in the family so in the home you should be partners in building a happy home. Two makes one you know and then harmony would be achieved. According to Supper Nanny the kids are the boss but what happened to the old time control over the kids. Don't let your kids get upper hand or you both will be sorry. Good luck.

i guess my husband is in charge because he makes the final decisions (after considering my opinion of course). but he delegates some (if not all) responsibilities to me. so, it's like he manages the household through me. if there are big decisions to make, i consult him. but small decisions come from me (as his delegatee of course). my child is still an infant/toddler so we still have to figure out his role in the decision-making.

As a mother of 2 adorable girls and a housewife, i am definitely the boss in my house. As what my husband says, I am the commander. My husband, on the other hand, is in charge of finances, foods, billings, etc. We never argue about this things. Its like everything is done automatically. Regardless of my girls, I do give them a little responsibility around the house. I want to discipline them as early as possible.

Actually, it is not really important to know who's in charge. Especially nowadays, wherein the wives get to work also, so both are generating income for the family. Come to think of it, it s difficult to be a wife a mother and an employee all at the same time. That sometimes, it sadden me because some husbands do not understand that wives get tired also, and they still expect them to be perfect. What I believe now is that, it's not important to ask who's in charge at the house? What I think is important is that you help each other for the betterment of your relationship and for the welfare of your kids, keeping the respect and love to each other.

My husband and I both are "in charge." We both pull our share. I take care of the kids and the cleaning and he works all day. But really if we both had issues with something, we would take it up with each other before getting all upset about it. It works for us but if push came to shove, I would give in quicker than him because I feel I'm fortunate to get to spend so much time with the kids because he works hard!

In our house me and my husband always get the things done with talking to each other. No urguments to win over each other about houshold task. But sometime he makes me the boss to feel me good or pempered:).

I am in charge of our house. my boyfriend takes care of his part but I keep everything running.

Both myself and my husband are. My husband is very great person. Many helps for me. I love my husband.

as what we planned, he is the boss of the house but im the one incharge of the house, cleaning the house, raising the kids, paying the bills, shopping,why?because he is out of the house for work.......

All are bosses at their positions. In my house, my mother is the boss of the internal affairs as she is a house-wife, father holds the resposibility of the outer affairs related to earning. Mostly crucial decisions are mutually taken. Children are also very much important part of the house. I am 21, when I was a small kid, I always use to insist my parents to purchase me the thing that I liked. So, I was the boss then. Now I am matured and I know whether they afford any unnecessary thing that I want to purchase or not. In our society, mostly males are dominant and the bosses, but it is not practised in our home, all have cirtain duties to perform and are doing them efficiently. For example, I am a student and I am studying. If any further duty is assigned to me regarding home affairs, I try to do that.