what leads to divorce??

As a recent member of the newly separated, I can only speak for myself not others. I think it's when all the little things which are not big on their own, begin to pile up. My husband continually lied to me for thirteen years, some of the lies I'm only finding out about now after we've separated. The final straw was that he signed up with an online dating service (which he denied despite the fact that I had all the evidence). If that had been the only thing, it probably wouldn't have split us up, but over the years the continual lying (among other things) just built up to the point where I couldn't take it anymore.

I think a lot of people don't share the true reasons for divorce with others and thats why they could seem like trivial reasons. Maybe they are embarressed because they know that the break up was their fault. I know with my break up there were a lot of factors, some small, some big that all contributed to the fact that we couldn't live together any more. I'm sure other some other people would have worked through the problems but I knew I didn't want to be unhappy for the rest of my life.

Familiarity breeds contempt. Gross violation of mutually agreed terms like: mutual trust and mutual respect. These two covers most aspects of problems resulting in divorce.

Yes there are a lot of married couples that want to get out of their marriages when they really do not have a valid reason for wanting a divorce, people jump in to early for divorces these days when sometimes the couple need to communicate more better with each other and this way they may be able to save their marriages.

Unfortunately nowadays people take their marriage vows far less seriously then they used to and a small tiff is enough nowadays for someone to get a divorce. I think that both sides should try and make a marriage work, go to councilling if necessary and try and work out their differences, if after a period of time they are still unhappy then I think it is time to look at divorce. I don't believe you should live your life in a miserable existence if thats what your marriage is making you feel like after all we have only got one life so why not make it as happy as you can?

A lot of times divorce is the only choice. Specially when theres abuse from a spouse. Adultery has a big impact of marriage. When I got married the first time I thought it would be for life. But after 10 years of abuse it left me choice but file for a divorce because he wasn't going to change he just kept getting worse. Divorce affect both people and kids that are involved. But sometimes theres no other choices.