When You Don't Get What You Want

Oh, well, I guess you should ask my partner this question, - but I think I fall into the passive aggressive slot myself! I hate to admit it, but yes I do sulk! I don't throw tantrums or throw a fit, - but I do sulk....... I'm the classic woman who says "nothing" when asked what is wrong, and goes very quiet, and tries to avoid the person who said "no" to me!! I have been known to sulk for days til he gives in! LOL! My Dad says I was like it as a little child too! Luckily I guess people don't say "no" to me very often though! I wouldn't want to change though - I could never shout and scream, and lose my temper - I can't stand being around people who do that at all - it kind of makes me go hot and cold with embarrassment to be caught in any kind of "scene" - typical Brit I guess!!!.

It really all depends on the situation and what is stopping me from getting what I want. There have been a few occassions where I have been extremely upset and yelled a bit. A few other times I've been so frusterated that I cried... but over all, I usually sulk (just a little) but try to think of a way to get what I want.

intial reaction would be challenged. if i don't get what i want the first time then i'd "dust myself off and try again," as Aaliyah would have it. but if after trying again i still don't get what i want, then i'd be the assertive type. no point in throwing a fit or sulking. it won't get me anywhere.

I get more depressed when I do not get what I want. This seems to happen a lot. I do not ask for much just simple things and I cannot even get that. I sometimes will also cry and wonder why things cannot work out just once. I find a lot of times that people who have the most get everything while others struggle along and get nothing. I know a lot of people say what does around comes around. I try to remain positive that one day things will go good for me and I will finally get a lucky break and I will get something I want. I try not to argue or hold a grudge if I donot get what I want. I simply go into a depression phase or just shut down and keep to myself and shut others out. I still keep trying to get things to go my way and I am hoping they will eventualy. Thanks for another interesting discussion.

Usually i get mad, like i wanna shout to everyone i meet. But then i will be assertive, try to accept all and built up my new spirit. Never give up for this life, eventhough life is sucks!!!!!!

I'm rather assertive. Being assertive is much more helpful than all the others combined.

To be perfectly honest pal when you get to my age you have everything you want , My family and all the nice things that go with it , don't want anything else ,,, wellll maybe a slim figure pmsl xxx

I always get what I want so don't know what I would do if I didn't :). Well, maybe not always but almost always.

Well, i do not surrender, i keep trying, in a sad mood, but when i finally realize that i will definitively not get what i want, i stop and go to my bedroom, a bit sad and then i come as if nothing happened.

I sigh deeply, sulk a little .. then get on with it .. if there is nothing I can do to change things there is no point in getting upset about it beyond being disappointed of course .. I'd like to think I would learn from the 'failure' as there are always lessons to be learnt if we look hard enough .. If person had stopped me getting what I wanted .. then I might resort to more underhand tactics .. I don't get even .. I don't even look for revenge .. but I do get satisfaction (but only IF it's deserved) ... grins evily .. I have a very fertile brain when it comes to getting satisfaction .. as those who have crossed my path know only too well even if they don't know who 'did' the thing to them hehehehe !!!

I think when i don't get what I want ,first i will be very angry,then i will think why i don't get it,next time i don't want to do the same mistake!

i am not agressive ...i think i just try to get used to the idea that not everything is possible. Anyway it depends on what it is and whats teh cause of me not getting it.

A little bit of passive aggresive until I get a grip and then I'm pure assertive....but sometimes it takes a while to get a grip and I sulk and feel sorry for myself. Pretty pathetic, actually, and I would love to get better at just accepting what comes my way (or doesn't) and enjoying what I have.

Assertive, although I don't ask for much so I don't get disappointed a lot.

I hate to admit but i do get aggressive when i don't get what i want. I like to bang my bedroom door (Several times if it's something i really want. LOL.) i used to bang my fist against the wall when my mom used to say no for a late night rock concert.. i think i've grown past banging my fists but doors are still an open option :)

First of all I want to say when I don't get something what I want, I feel very disapointed, dipress and terrible. According to your catagory I can find myself within assertive, passive and passive aggressive. But not at the same time I react like all this. The catgory vary depending on the thing what I don't get. For different loss my mood reacts differently.

when i did not get what i want ofcourse i feel frustrated but i think positively that there is better reason why i did not get it. perhaps it is a blessing in disguise.

Chating in Internets

im a mum and never get what i want, im used to it now and just handle it

I tend to wheedle, then out, then sulk for about 5 minutes and then forget it!