How do i know what to do if my teacher loves me?
By tomoko
@tomoko (36)
Malaysia
February 9, 2007 7:00pm CST
One of my teacher last year gave me chills, like i knew her my whole life and she cared for me. In class she would call on me only;i was her star student, and she would put her arm around me and hug me, not sexually but because she knew i needed it. I have thought for a long time about it, and have decided that she gave me so many signals (like with her eyes) and that she really does love me. Am I LESBIAN for considering her the most beautiful woman i have ever seen in my life? I am attracted to her charm and sensibilty and to the person she is and how she encourages me.The first time i saw her i though she was a single, but she has a husband.i just have a feeling. i feel connected to her. is this wrong? Am i LESBIAN?
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40 responses
@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
It seems like you are at a point in life when things are really just confusing for you. But at your age, that is perfectly normal.Everyone feels conflicted at times.
Now, are you really in love with her? I don't know. It could be that you think you love her because she was there for you in your time of need. It could be curiosity or infatuation that makes you feel this way too.Or you could just have respect and admiration towards her and that is what you are feeling. Besides it is possible to love someone without being in love with someone. There are all sorts of love that exist out there.
@hendro1982 (39)
• Indonesia
10 Feb 07
I think that you should see to your self, when you in her arms what do you feel? because it can be that you are a bisex, it's true..because it happen to my friends....well, concern to your self honey??
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@bcc23488 (883)
• Thailand
10 Feb 07
I think it is very normal situation
because human can love everywhere
I think love is so good thing that you should have it in your life
I have once times to love my teacher because I learn in school only men (don't have women student)
so women that I always meet only my teacher
It is nice time. but short time to have love
haha
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@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
High school is a very confusing time for everyone,you are not alone.I'm sure everything will work out and you will have the answers to your questions in time. Good luck.
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@sarawaken (360)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
I do feel that considering your age, her age and the fact that she is already married, this is not something that was meant to be a true relationship. She was your teacher, a mentor, and as such she should never be a lover.
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@cactuswangjie (30)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
I really don't want to disappoint you, but your teacher does not love you. She cares. You are in a time of life that is filled with such emotion and experience that it is easy to misinterpret signals. Are you a lesbian? That's an entirely different question that you have to answer for yourself.Best of luck to you.
@moneymaka (492)
• United States
10 Feb 07
Your teacher is actually just being nice, nothing there that she could be attempting to do. But she is not that way probly i can see and tell that.
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@candyzone (63)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
I can tell you now you are normal. Nothing wrong to love someone, the important point is are you happy? May be one day you will meet other guy that will totally change your feeling about love, right. Now, you're still a student; wait...may be after you finish your study and mix with others, your will find love not that simple. good luck
@kimberlymei (36)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
When you grow out of it, you'll look back and laugh about it. Till then,just remember it's quite common and equally unreal.To be honest though as far as I know F-student/F-teacher relationships never last.
@lindaling (14)
• China
10 Feb 07
As long as it doesn't get you into trouble there is no harm in it .But if both of you get caught, you'll find if it's illegal!!
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@lindaling (14)
• China
10 Feb 07
I think you are too sensitive. But please be having a positive thinking. Anyway that is a good sign for you in the class.I think you're overanalyzing the situation, and that you'll be all right.Happens to a lot of women, surprisingly.
@wonderful819 (5)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 07
You are very NORMAL. I was once madly in love with my 6th grade teacher. What a great experience it was. I can look back now at it and feel that it helped me through that period in life. Love is a great thing to have. Never lose that feeling! Lesbian, who cares !!!
@silverflower (519)
• Pakistan
10 Feb 07
teacher is like a mother and i have to say no more .. you will decide better.
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@arunkumarkt (331)
• India
10 Feb 07
i dont know by what sense she hugs u.. dont think in a wrong sense .. it may b a true love towards a student . dont make a misconception and but her in trouble... best wishes..
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@peddhie (110)
• Australia
11 Feb 07
it's too soon to say that she loves you and you love her. well, I think she does that because she cares.However,you still have to be careful too not too get involved too deeply. Go slowly, know your feeling carefully before you say to yourself that I am a lesbian.
@peddhie (110)
• Australia
11 Feb 07
it's too soon to say that she loves you and you love her. well, I think she does that because she cares.However,you still have to be careful too not too get involved too deeply. Go slowly, know your feeling carefully before you say to yourself that I am a lesbian.
@ankur5555 (28)
• India
11 Feb 07
YOU SEEM SO VERY CONFUSED. I feel that you just LIKE your teacher, not LOVE her. Being a lesbian is something else... you are not physically attracted towards her... you just care for her. So calm down...find yourself a boyfriend, maybe that would ease your mind of these negative feelings. As far as the feelings of your teacher are concerned, they should not be more important than your own feelings.
@cocaine6206 (9)
• Singapore
10 Feb 07
Dear Tomoko,
I think your teacher actually not in love with you; she only too care about you. May be she treat you like her sister or daughter. My sisters , friends,teacher also always hug me, kiss my face; see, nothing wrong. One day you will know this situation. Anyway, just enjoy what you enjoy now, school life... sucks!
Good Luck
