Have you ever got into an online argument?
By bananamanuk
@bananamanuk (835)
February 14, 2007 1:31pm CST
I'm curious if anyone has ever got into an online argument, the reason for asking is that somewhere like myLot you are able to ask many forms of questions on hundreds of subjects and the whole point of debate is to question and develop your own opinions and express them. However I just wondered what you'd do if there was an opinion that you really didn't agree with, would you stay and "fight your corner" or would you walk away? Do you think getting into an online argument with someone reflects what you are like in real life, I mean I would tend to debate with people and express my view but I'd walk away from a fight over something, I am just not that passionate about things, even though I think sometimes that its easy to go from debate into argument.
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@bananamanuk (835)
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14 Feb 07
oh no, that's probably even worse, i mean falling out with people you already know and in an online forum. It kind of sounds from your comment that it's not something you've gone back and made up over. Sometimes it's best just to move on and look for people that fit the kind of profile you want around you and that share your thoughts and interests, Thanks for your reply k1tten
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@alantae (243)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Not here on Mylot but I have on some other boards. Mostly about sports stuff though. I got into alot of arguments during the week of the Michigan-Ohio State game. I'm a Michigan student so I obviously was sticking up for my school but I got into alot of arguments with Ohio State guys. And unforntunately alot of the guys I was arguing with were just ignorant and couldn't put together anything but "Michigan sucks blah blah blah" but I do enjoy debating whether it be online or in person.
@bananamanuk (835)
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14 Feb 07
yeah sports always seems to be something that gets people really riled, but it never seems to be the sort of thing to create a reasoned debate, well not that i've really seen anyway. It's great when you get the opportunity to put your point of view across but it's pretty rubbish if all the other people are saying is this or that sucks! hardly reasoned comments Lol
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@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
14 Feb 07
Oh, my lord ...yes. I have gotten in to argements online. I use to be a member of a board that was called kiss my *ss .com
That board was nothing but arguements. But whatever you said. You had better be able to back it up. Or you would look like a fool. It was a fun site to be on. Because I knew what it entailed.
I also got in an arguement on another board I was on called shut up and post. I did stay and fight til the end. matter of fact one of the people I was argeing with ended up getting banned from the board because they were voilating the sites rules.
I love to debate. But will agree to disagree when I know my opinions differ from someone else.
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@bananamanuk (835)
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14 Feb 07
Wow that site you used to belong to sounds like a bit of a rough place to me, I'm not sure that's really my sort of thing because I prefer a reasoned debate. Thanks anyway
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@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
14 Feb 07
It happened to me just once here on myLot. I felt it was pointless putting forward my point of view as I was accused of being wrong. That was the end of my argument. I backed off and agreed to differ. I really don't like getting into heated discussions so if I feel this is going to happen then I avoid making any responses.
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@bananamanuk (835)
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14 Feb 07
Thanks for your reply Alexandria37, I totally agree with what you say, it's much better to be the bigger person in many respects and just back away and leave the discussion. YOu know what your point of view is and there will be other opportunities to give it. It does make me wonder if some people go out of their way to be deliberately controversial.
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@killj0y (618)
• United States
14 Feb 07
hahaha, yeah I used to get into a lot of online arguments. But that was when I was younger and more immature. Now I try not to let people and their opinions bother me so much, espically when it's just someone onling. Typically arguments start because people get online just looking to start them.
@bananamanuk (835)
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15 Feb 07
Yes I agree with you killj0y, it's better to just let people express their opinions and even if you don't agree with them, it's better to step back from any argument situation
@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Oh whooop did I ever! Man o-live!It was in Yahoo! 360* and the topics were on whether or not I was really Jewish, did Yeshua (Jesus) say it was ok to eat pork and why Saturday is the Sabbath and not Sunday. You think we could have argued on the topic of Bush or something like that.
As to did I "stand my ground"? You bet I did! Did I win? No...there will always be people out there who will say in the end, "Lets agree to disagree".
I'm not the same person I am online. I tend to be more honest and opened with my thoughts and feelings.
~jael
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@bananamanuk (835)
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14 Feb 07
Great point Kaeli72, each of us has subjects that are very close to our hearts and beliefs and I honestly believe that you can respectfully disagree with someone's point of view or belief but the key is that you respect there is an alternative to your own opinion. I also agree that it is so much easier to be open and honest online especially if one is quite shy in "real life, I guess its partly down to being more anonymous. Thanks for your reply.
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@7nicole1 (1633)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
Well If I personally came across a topic which I thought I knew alot about and had some good insight on then ya I would debate it. I find if you challenge someone thats when their best respones and ideas come out. I know it makes no sense to you but I have gotten into fights on the net and by the end of the conversation I had learned something new. Your right thats the whole point of discussions is to develop our own opinions without having to work if we are being judged or not.
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@mom2chriskel (1060)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I have before. I used to post at a big parenting forum. The whole board got split in half with everyone taking sides. I eventually gave up and haven't been back.
I don't get online to get in fights. I really do want to enjoy the time I have online. I mean if I want to fight, I'll stay off the PC and argue with my 4 year old who know everything or my 6 1/2 year old...lol
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@bananamanuk (835)
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15 Feb 07
I think that's quite sad actually that you used to enjoy a particular subject matter but because of the negative comments and discussions going on that you felt the need to give it up. In any other form of life that could be construed as bullying, i.e making one person feel so bad they are forced to leave. Perhaps one day you'll go back and things have changed, people's opinions and alligiences change too.
@doodlebug5250603 (1993)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I have never had any problems with anyone wanting to start up an argument online. People ask for other people's opionions all the time, so they can't really start fussing about it if they disagree. There's no since in it at all. If you don't want to know what someone would think, then they shouldn't be asking.
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@stibigirl (291)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I have had arguements in online chat rooms, games, and other thread forums. The only thing that I learned from any of the points that I tried to make online is that I only want to speak out about what I am really passionate about. If I post an opinion and someone says that I am lame or that my opinion is wrong, unless I care about not being wrong, or having the right to my opinion, most of the time I will not argue back; it is just their opinion about my post, I have no arguement with that. If you attack me, there is no way that I will respond; that just adds more fuel to the fire and I have done that before, I know what happens.
Great post by the way! Most Enjoyable!
@bananamanuk (835)
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15 Feb 07
Thanks for your comment stibigirl. You make the point really well, everyone is entitiled to their own opinions and provided it's reasoned and not meant to cause offence then other people should respect rather than attack you for it. Glad you like the subject matter. I am really shocked by the number of people that have responded, I thought this was one of my more regular questions.
@endeya (5)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
You made a point right there--- online debate is fruitful but online argument rips the forum into the two parties.
In one of my groups, same situation happened. At first, people responded and sided with either parties. Then it became hopelessly silly to keep on. I don't usually remember who had the better argument... it's who offended me more personally that I remember most- negatively.
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@bananamanuk (835)
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15 Feb 07
Thanks for your comment. Some of the subject matters that are raised on here really are the sort of things that polarise opinions and make the debates quite fragile in my opinion, i.e they could turn at any point. You raise a good point, it's silly to keep on when an argument occurs, better just to let it ride out it it must but you hold your head up and walk away from it.
@kittyloki (140)
• United States
14 Feb 07
yes I get into online arguments sometimes but most of the time I just into debates. Some people get really mad online and will just start typing curse words and things of that nature in capital letters. I think that is stupid.
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@sevestaind (9)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
i got into an argument just a while a go in another forum,,, well... at first it was just a simple debate... but it became worst... so i just stop,,, the hell.. we have our own opinions anyway... haha
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@prasanta (1948)
• India
15 Feb 07
Yes. This is a forum to express. What is wrong if you express your opinion against someone's thought? I have done it. Others are doing it.
But I request you to talk on points. We (means who are not participating in that particular discusion) can enjoy that.
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
1 Mar 07
yes i have, this women got into it with me on my military accound and i just ignored her, she was going nuts over nothing. yes, it can show how you are to otheres in real life if the same situation was to come up. but what the point online,you dont even know the person and for what.
@sirwillyam (625)
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15 Feb 07
lol online fights, there quite common i think on most forums! mainly because the two people will never actually meet and can hide behind their computer lol! if i saw an opinion i really disliked i would fight for my cause!! grrrr!! bring it on!!
@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
15 Feb 07
due to my strong religious beliefs i have got into many and i usualy stay at least till I state my points and my reasons for my thinking but when the name calling starts and it has, that is when i leave!
@Bongoheads (283)
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2 Mar 07
As you quite rightly point out it's a very fine line between debating and arguing. Sometimes a heated debate can be confused for an argument. I love debating and discussion and I'm happy for people to disagree with me (we're all entitled to express our opinion and no one opinion is 'right') but what I do object to is when it becomes personal. That is when I'll consider it an argument and I'll usually stand my ground always mindful of keeping calm, offering measured responses and never resorting to personal jibes and namecalling regardless of the provocation - the worst I'll stoop to is severe sarcasm! Usually this approach will help to calm the situation anyway and, if it doesn't, I feel at least I've retained some dignity. I really don't like public slanging matches!
@bluewings (3857)
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8 Mar 07
Yes,I remember one incident vividly where I was not ready to move away from an online argument with a person I had known since one day,lol.My issue was that guy had insulted a friend of mine from phillipines three times who was moderating the forum and took it very graciously.Well, I wasn't so gracious .So,I argued with him on something that didn't concern me atall.Anyways,after a long 5 pages of arguments ,in the most civil way possible (lol) ,his adrenaline rush made him type that he was speculating ,which was the word I had used to characterize his post.Once I walked away from the heated exchange I felt really bad about it.That,I think ,was the last time I had a prolonged argument on internet.Since then,if there is an argument,I try not to make it a personal issue.