What To Do When Your Stepchildren Don't Like You???

He is 22 and should be living on his own. He definately needs to grow up. Forget about his immature attitude problem and concentrate on the ones at home. If he comes over, be polite as you can in spite of his attitude. Let time take care of it.

it is a very serious problem lady i cannot give yiou some proper suggesstions or somereallly ice ones but i would likely be happy to advice you that keep tings COOOL wit ur $TEP $ON what if he is a step child ?? u r still gonnna be his mother right?? so listen to whatever he says attentively try to change whatever he finds un comfortable about u!! and may be if his complaints are off the edge personal then just ignore him!!!!!

My stepson is 26. In the past, he harbored a lot of resentment and dislike towards me. I think it was easier for him to blame me for the failure of his parent's relationship than to see that they had faults of their own. My husband and I have been together for almost nine years now. I think that my relationship with my stepson has improved by small increments each year. It will never be warm and fuzzy, but as he matures, he has realized that I'm not the bad guy. Good luck. I hope your stepson comes around soon.

Consider yourself bless that he is an adult and you do not have to deal with him if you do not want to, i have 3 stepchildren they are teens now but i had been raisin them for 12 years,I have done so much for this kids and what do i get in return disrespect and more disrespect, things are so bad that i am counting the days until they turn 18.Back to you , ignore him live your life and do not worry about him if you didn't do anything to messed up his life you don't have to pay for it, he needs to grow up and stop looking for pitty.

Been there and done that. I married for the second time and he had three kids I have only 1. There was no problem between my daughter and my new husband but for some reason his kids wouldn't have spit on me even if I was on fire. It was very uncomfortable and most frustrating, but I had made up my mind that I would NOT allow them to lead me around by the nose. I held my ground and didn't act any different if they were there or not. I knew my hubby was disturbed because when the kids would phone he'd say that I wanted to talk to them too. One day I told my husband to quit trying to push me on the kids they'd come around and if they don't OH WELL. After about 3 years they started changing. When I was ready to buy a different car my stepdaughter was so excited she got my car, which was her first car. I talked to her and told her I would give it to her but that's a poor way to teach responsibility. She had to make payments of a very small amount until she gave me 400 dollars. Now when they call they even say I Love You. So hang in there cabergren. Take Care.

YES,YES,YES Listen This an adult were talking about and bottom line you know it and I know it that the reason that he is out is because he acted like a jack knife. What matters now is your relationship with your husband and the rest of the family as it would be. As to how do fix it, realize that in order to fix it you both have to want to fix it. And hey it sound's to me like he is just happy having a scape goat. The best advice that I can give is what I did. Which was to say look For the things that have happened before I am sorry that they happend but I was not the only person that had an influence on the way things turned out. I want to see things work out, but I am not going to spend my days trying to make you like me. I want you to like me but if you dont that is your choice because my life will go on. But regardless of whether you like me or not You will respect me.

I think in time they will learn to start liking you so you should just be patient. I think it is difficult for a child to adjust to someone taking care of them other than their parents. I think it was probably a good idea to have him live with his mother for a while as maybe the mother can talk to him and explain the situation and maybe get him to start liking you. I would just wait and give him time as I think he will come around and start liking you and talking to you more and asking for advice. I would not try and force him to like you.

Beat them!!! LOL No I'm only kidding. I was watching Rachael Ray yesterday and she had Vince Gill on. Now they were talking about his family. He married Amy Grant and the two brought children into the marriage. Rachael asked how they all got along and he said that he knows they didn't like him at first but he just told Amy give them time. Just give them time and things will become easier.

I havent experienced that coz i hav no children. There are times when relating to a family member really became hard. That step son of you is on the stage where he can't admit to himself that he likes you too but can faced it because if he does, how about her real mom. He is being a knuckle head and hope you can understand that because its hard being on others side of the family. He can't accept that his mom and dad has just separated and face the fact that he loves his mom than you. Alot of people have that kind of situation so don't overstress yourself. time will come you will be happy. Learn to deal with him and love him like a real son anyway.

sorry but i don't have stepchildren

Yeah this is much like the common step mom and child issue, but I know it is harder to deal with than how it sounds. 22, so he's a year older than I am, I can't believe that he's still acting like a 12 year old boy that's still bitter with his dad marrying another woman... Well if I would put myself in his position, it would be hard to accept that my dad'd with someone else instead of my mother, it would change a lot of things I know, and that woman might be wanting to boss us around, and it would suck big time... But then, if you have been treating them really nicely, I do not see any point on why he's acting like such a brat! What's done is done, his parent's marriage failed an there's nothing more he can do about it, and if you are treating them really well he, the least he can do is be civil and quit the act... he's not even a kid anymore... Goodluck with dealing with your step son..

Your problem is quite common unfortunately. And the worst thing of all is that there is not much that you can do about it, but being patient and resign to the fact that only time might make him open his eyes and grow up. People feel like something breaks inside when parents divorce, and one of them getting married to a new person doesn't make it easier for them. Obviously i'm not saying u did the right thing, you did cause you two had the right to remake your lives, but well sometimes kids need time to get used to it. I just would make sure i do all i can to be nice to him, and it will be up to him if one day he decides to give you a chance...also your husband should help you with it and try to talk to him (which i am sure he has already, just telling you).

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I have tried everything, I will no longer suck up to a 27 year old who should no better by now. I have been with this man for over 20 years and have not been allowed to say anything. My husband defends this mess. What should I do?

I'm not a Children... I'm a Man :O