How do you deal with a husband who always argue with you?
By charms88
@charms88 (7538)
Philippines
February 18, 2007 8:35am CST
Today, I just have one of my greatest arguments with my husband. After 8 years of staying married to him, I still have yet to understand what's on his mind. Its like I'm asking him something about "black" and he answered me with "white." I'm asking him about "big" and he retorted me with "small." Both of us kept trying to point out our opinions and yet we can't seems to understand each other. I know that married life is a continuous struggles and adjustments. I thought I just needed to write down my feelings right now or else I'm going to end up with a cardiac arrest. Anybody here who have a husband like mine who's way too opposite with your personality. Any sensible advise to give me on how to retain my sanity. Whew!!!
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7 responses
@banajmi (98)
• India
18 Feb 07
Hey friend, chill down.... I have faced so many situations like you. Our arguments never stops but it ends very fast. My husband is a very sensitive person and now I have understood not to go against him when he is in mad mood. I keep patience and in a very few minutes he gets back to me saying that you were right Im sorry. You are right married life is a continous struggles but dont loose hope every dark night is followed by a bright sunny day. We just need to keep patience and avoid arguing in these type of situations.
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@weemam (13372)
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19 Mar 07
please don't think I am having a go at you , I have been happily married for 45 years and the secret its( talking to each other ) If he gets angry walk away and tell him you will talk about it when he calms down , We have always been able to sit down and talk about anything and work our problems through , I think that is why we have lasted so long , you both sound ( quick to anger) Hope I haven't offended you xx
@emilieespino (963)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
Just totally avoid arguments since it seems you have very different views on everything. Surely you must have at least a thing or two in common. How long have you known him before you got married anyway?
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
I've known him 2 years before we settle down. But you get to see more of his true colors by living under the same roof. I don't think arguments can be avoided for as long as you stay married. It is a part of a married life. We did have things in common. LOL...I'm feeling better now.
@ethanmama (1745)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
Sometimes compromise works, but sometimes it doesn't because both of you are not happy. I think a husband gets his way this time, wife gets her way the next time works better for us :).
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
20 Mar 07
To deal with husband who always argue is very simple ,just blank your mind from any thought and think whether your husband loves you . If answer is no then get rid of him quickly else if answer is yes than think what makes him fight . Are you also not higher side of the subject . You can overhear him if he is angry or try to avoid as he is your loved one.
@sutan74 (1112)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
If you have a different partner would you have stayed with him for eight years??? Do you agree with the saying that
"Opposites attract"?? Sometimes arguments in a relationship add spice to it, just not too much that you're grabbing each other throat and hair. A healthy argument sometimes keeps a relationship going... if not... what's the point in keeping the relationship.
