Do people misunderstand you loud voice to be rude?

I was just having this discussion with my mom. I come from a long line of loud talkers and I think I'm the most reserved out of all of them. However, my husband always knows when I am talking to someone in my family because he says my voice gets so much louder. I've been shushed before, often. I am also misinterpreted for being angry or aggressive. I feel your pain! :)

I a bit jealous because you have a loud voice :) i'm a man. and my bad i have a weak voice. therefore i rather not talking as mush as i want to. having a loud voice i think is good. you don't need to lower your tone. just be as you are, you will know the good thing for having a loud voice :)

Yes, I too have a loud voice, they always thought that I'm angry while talking to them. As much as possible, I toned down my voice (dang it's hard.. lolz), whenever I'm trapped into a conversation, otherwise, I'm in big trouble. ^^

LOL this is funny because everyone says I'm loud, but I'm just talking normal! I guess I'm a big mouth, too!! I don't care, they get mad because I talk a lot and too loud in the movie theatre and I'm just always loud! I talk loud, I laugh loud and my dad always thinks I'm yelling at him or talking back to him which is so dumb because I'm exactly like him! So if anything he should understand how I am! Yeah, you're not the only one who gets into trouble for having a loud mouth!!

Its never a good strategy to speak louder when you think somebody doesn't understand you, just ask around, its the worst strategy ever.

Haha you know, my father has exactly the same problem, it's kinda funny since he seens to be screaming when talking lol... When there is an discussion he just looks like the maddest person ever or something like, i know some people think he's rude but he isn't, he just can't control his voice volume xD... I don't have this person, i think if i had it would be a bit funny :P

Generally, I don't use loud voice. My voice is smooth and friendly. But I sometime feel about other's loud voice as rude and bad manners.

well, for me i dislike people talking in aloud voice with me as i will think they are being rude, yelling at me or angry at me... but may be by reading your post i learn a point... may be it is just the nature of somebody's voice that we can't change because it is given since we are born... how about the tone??? i mean, if your voice is loud, can you change the tone of your voice so that people won't misunderstand you??? hope this helps... :-)

I am sorry but I do not have this problem as I talk real softly and everyone thinks I am scared or something but that it not it as it hurts for mee to speak loudly as my larnyx (SP) was crushed twice in my life. People are always telling mee that I need to speak up and be assertive but they just don't understand that I just speak lightly. In a way it is a good thing since I only have to raise my voice once and my children and everyone else for that matter listen and say that I scare the hell out of them since I am such a quiet person. So don't feel alone nor think it is just for loud talkers since us soft talkers get harrassed as well. Have a great day!!

Some times it really happens. I shout out with frustration but other times when i speak louder people misunderstand it to shouting and they get me into rude behaviour. You need to be really careful at work place because that could you your job.

My husband has a loud voice too but it is not the noise level that makes us think he is being rude, it is the tone of his voice. I mean you can be loud but be talking in a funny tone and not be mistaked for being rude. My husband just almost always has negative or grouchy tone to his voice. this is my only experience with this type of thing so I can only say what I have learned from it. Your situation might be different.

yeah.. sometimes i also got into trouble because i too fave a loud voide. the one thing that i am very tahnkfull is that i have a good face.. hehehe.. lol

yea..i face the same problemm...my parents thing the same thing..and the really pissing off thing is..after that only i get angry..and well...its irritating.but what to do..theyre also human...

Haha! This is a funny one to me. I have a loud voice too and sometimes when I'm speaking to my sister, she will tell me to keep my voice down and don't shout so much. I would then insist to her that I was not shouting and was merely talking in my normal voice. She would not believe me and still tell me to pipe down. Well, since your loud voice could get you into trouble, maybe you can practise speaking in a softer voice. Haha! That's what I'm trying to do when I speak to anyone, though when I'm with my friends, all of us talk happily and normally, without anybody complaining whose voice is loud.

Once when i attended a mock interview my seniors who acted as HR's said "u r rude".....but i talked politely only.....it's because of my voice i got into trouble with them & with others

well nope i dont..but mom is ..we think that she is always angry everytime she talks..thanks God we havent inherit it..

I used to have a loud voice as well as when I learnt to talk my mother was deaf and that was the reason, but when I started school, one day my mother's friend went to pick up me from school, and the teacher asked what was wrong with me due to this loud voice and so the teacher understood and then taught me to mediate so that when I was with my mother I spoke loud and while I was there at school, or anywhere else I could speak with a normal tone. Thank goodness for teachers!!

LOL...you just described my husband here. Everyone kept telling me my husband has an extraordinarily loud voice. I admit sometimes it irritated me. Being a soft spoken person myself, its like there's a build-in microphone inside my husband's throat. I always have to remind him to lower his voice. People might think we're into some arguments or something. LOL...

My partner is exactly the same. He has a loud voice and it actually put off a potential landlady once. We went to look at an apartment she had for rent, it was in her basement, and she said she'd call us back. She left a message on our voice mail a couple of days later saying that she was sorry, she'd thought it over and decided against it because she was a little worried about my partners loud voice. I felt that was discriminatory, simply because she never even asked us whether it would be possible for him to tone it down a little, which he is more than capable of doing. When he heard the message she left he just shrugged his shoulders and said "I am who I am. I'm not going to change just because someone doesn't like the level of my voice. Something better will come along." he was right and you know .... there have been no complaints about the level of his voice or anything. I suffer too from a moderate hearing loss in both ears, so having someone who talks a little louder than most people is a good thing for me lol.

I get misunderstood because of my voice also. They tell me to stop yelling all the time. andI'm not. I don't thinkI'm talking losd but I guess I am. But, I want to be heard! LOL Don't ever change the way you talk be proud that you are getting heard!