Trust and Jealousy

omg you are so right.. i know i am never jealous of my b/f heck he talks to tons of women on the internet.. i know the internet is different then real life and i also trust him 100%.. puh people are just crazy thats it.. they like to complain and wah about everything.. basically they like to well create drama.. and don't we so know that where we are at on the internet roflmao :P

You are correct when you say where there is trust there's no jealousy. But being jealous doesnt always mean that you dont trust your partner. Do you get what I mean? Like me, I trust my husband that he will not be unfaithful to me. But when you see much good looking women talking to him, its not that I dont trust him but I may just be insecure of her. You'll know and I know when a certain moment gives you the feeling that you dont trust your partner or you are just insecure of the girl. Hope this hepls. This is my opinion.

Trust is much safer than any thing else. Jealousy should use the medicine like mercy to cure it. If you trust or believe, he or she is the only one who can lead your life. Whereever he or she is, you don't have to worry about her or him. If you have jealousy, you see the other ones have things that you don't have. You really want that one to be yours, or you hate him or her when he or she does anything to take from you. If you trust it is your, don't be afraid some one will take it. You stay kindly to them, whatever they have, you are pleased with them, so you can ignore the jealousy.

I do trust my bf 100% but at the same time he can make me jealous. I am very secure in our relationship but I still can get jealous at times =) I think that a bit jealosy is just healthy =)

I agree with you cfr. If you really trust someone you have no reason to be jealous. Something different though, is when you don't like your partner doing a certain thing. Not because you feel insecure or jealous, not because you feel it might lead to cheating...simply because it's against your principles, or you just don't like it. In those cases i think that best thing to do is talk it over...if the complaint is reasonable the other should comply and not do it, and if you both agree that perhaps you're being too touchy about it, you should just forget it and relax. Excessive jealousy is a waste of time and often leads to ruining relationships.

If you trust the person it doesn't mean that there is no insecurity the only thing that eats people is trust in theirselves, if you dont trust yourself then you cant 100% trust your partner.. You're the one who makes your own ghost..

trust is something else and jealousy else a thing , trust can be accompanied with jealously anytime and the fact is that trust is a better thing , but jealousy is like posessiveness and it is is not harmful within limits .

Im not a jealous type of person but I don't put too much trust on other people either. It's still best if you are always prepare for every posible things might happen sooner or later. Being jealous gives you uneasiness and will just ruin your day. It's better to be calm, cool and collected to prevent misunderstanding and confusion. Sometimes the best way to handle problem like jealousy is to keep your head cool.

i trust my husband 100% i know he would never cheat or do some thing to hurt me. how ever when he looks i do get jealous,no to the point that i say anything i just think to my self. and i am not jealous cuz i think he would do some thing i am jealous cuz i wish i looked that way.i was very small when we got together and now 3 babys later and 60lbs heavier. i hate when he looks i get jealous but not cuz i think he will do something. not sure if that make sense to everyone but that is the way i fell

I agree with you 100% I trust my partner implicitly 100% and put my entire heart and soul into our relationship. In return, he does the same for me. We have no reason to be jealous of one another and we never have been. Jealousy does indeed come from insecurity and that seems to be a HUGE issue in many relationships these days. It's a sad fact of life that people are just not communicating like they should in their relationships. A breakdown of communication is the first step towards guaranteed failure. I've been there once and I vowed never to let it happen again.

I think that jealousy stems from not having trust.Cause if you trust your partner you wouldn't be jealous because you are sure about his feelings for you.

I think trust and jealousy are two seperate things. Trust comes with faith and commitment that both of u are true to each other. You believe that he/she will be true and will not let u down in any way. Jealousy is completely different. You can be jealous of him/her because of the money he earns, contacts he makes, life that he can enjoy, friends that he has . . but all this doesnt amount anyway to distrust. Just my 2 cents.

for me, trust and jealousy always go together. when you love the person, you learn to trust them but on the other side, you get jealous esp. when someone is flirting with them. it is just a natural feeling. a reaction from someone who truly cares. you get jealous because you dont want someone would mess up would your relationship. it takes patience to handle these things properly coz sometimes, trust and jealousy would lead to being possessive".. thats how i think guys.

You're right. you're confused. lol. because if you trust you give all the benefits of the doubt. and if you are jealous, you are selfish and you do not trust. So do not be confuse, seperate jealous from the trust.

Yes you are right I have read many discussions where in most relationships that they are overly jealous of their partners, I agree with what you are saying here I just do not understand how they can be together with all this jealousy, it is a bit stupid to say the least. In my relationship before marriage and during marriage we always have trusted each other in regards to having an affair with someone else the only thing we do want is to make sure that we know where each other is just incase something happens and we have to contact them immediately, but with the modern mobile we can also stay intouch this way as well. We do not call each other all the time just if we need to talk for an urgent case. You certainly are not confused it is these people that are overly jealous that are confused.

You know, life itself is confusing. However, it's just us who confuse things. It's the same as you love a person but then there are times that you come to hate some aspects of him/her. You can love or you can trust a person but that love or trust can never be full or complete. Some parts of love and trust are worn out because of our human imperfections.

yes you are correct...if you love someone..then you will trust him/her no matter what....

Well, i trust my significant other and am not jealous...however, i recently started a thread about some issues i am having with him... Does that mean i am a hypocrite? No, i don't think so. Not if you knew how things have been lately. However, overall you are right. If you trust someone, you should not have to be jealous wiht them.

Yes, I have noticed quite a few discussions like that, and no-- you're definitely not the one who's confused here. Personally, I don't have any room for jealousy in my life... and I truly can't remember an occasion on which I felt jealous. Something that has repeatedly puzzled me is when people insist that "if you don't feel jealousy, you have never been REALLY in love." I just can't quite parse that line of reasoning, try as I might. I agree that jealousy is a bi-product of insecurity. And insecurity is basically about a lack of trust... and it does strike me that a lot of those folks who claim to "trust" their partners yet are jealous tend to use the phrase "I trust him/her BUT...." Of course, many psychologists will tell you that the word "but" basically erases the part of the sentence that comes before it.

Maybe, i'm one of those confused with trust and jealousy. I believe that you don't need to get jelous if you really trust your partner and there's no reason to feel that. But on my experience, i always told my boyfriend that i really trust him. As much as possible i don't want to entertain what my minds thought that i've been thinking that he has been attracted to someonelse. I never told him that i doubted his loyalty to me because he never wanted to hear it coming from me. Maybe because he's holding his promise to me that he will only love one person at a time and that is me.