does your bf/gf ask you for money?

my friend you don't have to blame yourself...we all do everything when we fall in love and we do everything for the person we love...this is the reasons why we do so many mistakes in love...because we cannot evaluate people well..because we are in love and it is all different for us, we are not open minded about this person...we look at him or her in a special way and we naturally think all the best of him or her...this is the reason why bad people can deceive us if they want when we are in love...I think the only help we have is to trust our relatives and our friends and listen to them when they're giving us good advice and warning again the person we love....the other thing is trying to be careful and doing what you did..cut the bad relation and try to recover from this bad experience..I am very close to you and I can quite understand you...my ex-boyfriend hurt me so deeply I can't afford talking about it and one of the things he did during the last period was asking me money and money.. when I realised he wanted my money and he deserved anything I cut it down...and now my heart is still there hurt but I thank I am free from that bad man

I wouldn't give an ex money in the first p;ace, regardless of his situation. You are not responsible for him in any way. As for him having a wife and baby, but saying he loves you, well.... Sorry, but give hiom the big heave and move on. You will find someone else FAR better.

Being good doesn't mean being foolish.No philosopher has ever told such a stupid theory. It is told that you need to have the purity of a dove and the shrewdness of a snake. sounds ridiculous? no not at all. when we love somebody we do not allow them to exploit us. the moment we come to know that they exploit us we need to show them the door, come what may . he was enjoying your company and money too. that poor lady was cheated for some few presents and this guy duped both of you.finally such people will lose both or all of them ,though they may not care it since for them love is only a joke.

Oh dear, sorry to hear about your situation, there are some pretty ruthless people out there! I've had a couple of bf who have asked me for money, usually for drink or ciggies, I've given in a couple of times but they soon become ex's if they keep asking!

giving money to the other when you are still in a relationship can be bad for your later on life.relationships before mariage,are just a rehearsal of what it can be in your later life.if you give to your bf/gf money,he/she will learn to live like this and they continue asking money forever.they will never learn that they have to earn money theirselves to help eachother.

My boyfriend asks me for money all the time and he makes way more than me, but im cool with giving him the money though beings he gives me so much more.

Are you serious? What a real jerk! My bf or any ex never ask me for any money. Regardless of the amount! I believe that I don't have any responsibility to support them financially so why would I give them money. I think you are being too nice. It's good to know that you will never talk to him anymore. He's not worth it! Don't keep him in your life even as a friend because he will just keep on abusing yur kindness. You deserve so much better!

i can say as i wouldn't as long as we were still friends but not that much. i probly would of told her just cuz i was hurt and mad. i am glad you stopped giving him money. good for you

Oh you poor thing - he sounds like the biggest jerk!! You are so better off without him in your life. Unfortunately there are people like that in the world - you'll just have to learn and move on. It's not your fault that he ripped you off like this - most people in a relationship tend to borrow money from time to time off each other so why should you have known that he wasn't who you thought he was. You are right in no longer giving him money, and i wouldn't believe anything he has to say!

i think he has taking advantage of your kindness. he can pass up with this at one time but for a couple more ... you should have said "no more". as they say, it is OK to say NO.

Am sorry to hear about your sad love story. I never experience this situation yet, like my boyfriend is really asking me for money and I have to give the amount straight to him. Though I sometimes share the bills when we eat out or buy something for both of us. And with my present boyfriend, it's actually him who gives me some amount from his salary because he knew that I have lots of things to pay like the house rentals, food, and add to that my brother's tuition fee coz am the one sending my brother to college. But he knows very well where his money and my money goes... and we haven't encountered problems about money matters yet that threatened our relationship... :)

hi. i felt sad while reading your write up. i think your bf is just using you. i mean, how come he's asking for money well in fact he can afford to give gifts to his family. it would always mean that he loves and care for his family more than you. of course, it should always be because its his family. but what he is doing is very irresponsible. imagine, asking money for his family. if he is responsible enough and if he truly is in love with you, he wouldn't do that. its not your responsibility and its not an obligation to give what he and his family needs.

Hmm..thats a weird situation. Did he ever said he will pay you back? It ins´t good for you or him that you still give him money. You will have less money for yourself and he will be used to "beg" for money and don´t work for it. I have a friend whose gf asked him $1000 and said she would pay him back. They broke up and now she have not paid him yet. What we can learn from here is. Don´t mix money with love :p.

yeah... i do give money for my boyfriend but were in different situation. Mine is... I do give him money because i pity him also since he dont have yet a job for waiting for his Japan thing which his sister promise him but it almost 2 years already still no positive result. They just give him a small amount for allowance.

I've been to a situation like yours but not to the extent that I found that he doesn't have a wife but an another girlfriend. i learned a lot from that experience.

Well no I cant say I ever allowed that to happen to me but I watch my friends do this to alot of nice girls. Personally me and my girlfriend share our money everything is 50-50 the way it should be.

i have that similar situation like you before, my boy friend ask my mioney to go out with some ones alse. as soon as i found out, i kick him out of my live. no i have some principal, never give money to boy friend/patner. we (girl)ask them money not give them money.

I would never give an ex of mine money for ANYTHING. When I left my ex, he called me up three weeks later telling me that I owed him 50 pound for the phone bill. I told him to prove that I owed him the money and he refused. He had a scanner and so he could have scanned the phone bill and sent me the image, but he wouldn't and so I figured he was a lying little toerag. I refused point blank, and he subjected me to a volley of name calling and then slammed the phone down on me. Regardless of the names he called me, I felt an immense sense of pride in standing up to him for the first time and it empowered me all the more. I've had no contact with him for the last 2 years and thats just the way I want it.

wow now that is a story... well i have not ever had that happen to me and my ex g/f would get mad if i wouldnt let her pay for somethings but i dont think i would give my other money all the time, yeah maybe if she wanted something then maybe a couple of bucks here and there but not all the time and not a lot im talking about the max maybe 50 for a dress lol yeah i know they are a lot but i dont want to be paying for all of it.

NEVER, im married for 3 years and i even didnt give money for my husband...i also work, my income is mine...