I feel the need to vent.....

I have quite a lot of friends so as i am not online for very long now, I can only get to each of them about once a week to answer some of their topics. But I do feel just the same as everyone else, not many of my friends answer my discussions either! I have 175 friends and on adverage i recieve about 10 replies! I sometimes wonder what the other 165 are doing?

I'm with you on that, Katlady2. I am also one of the ranters venting on this topic. Rant on, maybe ppl will get it into their thick heads that reciprocating will increase their earnings.

Well I have to agree with you....I try to really pay attention to who responds to my topics. Every now and then I will go through my friends list and delete who never responds to me. I'm telling you I have to wonder why people even want to be on your friends list and never respond or post... My solution is to pick my friends wisely and see if they post anything before I accept them. I will wait a few days just to see if they respond to mine..

I accept every one on my friends list however often they post things im neither interseted in or dont know anything about to these i dont respond am I wrong for that??if I have nothing to contribute to the discussion why respond?

i think one has to be very careful with choosing friedns hewre, we are mostly atrangers here and someone might be having fun at ur cost. i keep it safe and have a few friends only. i got a request which i denied and the person sent me another one, which i denied again. he has sent me one and i did not either accept nor deny it. so i keep it safe...u did a good thing, be practical and keep up your value..

U must remember no every friend have time, some busy or dont see name

I don't believe I have you on my friend's list, but I'll confess to being one of the people who goes a long time without checking the "friends" section. The reason is, I was worried it was rude to turn down friend requests, so I accepted them all, and my friends section wound up being huge and not much different from the whole of mylot. It's full of people all of all different ages and backgrounds, and the topics often are ones that I simply have no ability to answer (e.g. someone will pose a question related to computer programing; another will ask for advice on dog breeds). Strangely, I've connected with about 5 or 6 people I met through very interesting discussions, and I often look to see what they've posted recently, even though I didn't ever put them on my friend's list. As I said, my list is such a hodge podge, I'd have a hard time fining them there anyway; it's easier to go back through my own discussions to find them. So, I do apologize to anyone on my list who's been upset by my not answering. I don't have as much free time as I did when I first started on mylot, and I find when I do come here now, I spend a lot of time getting caught up reading interesting discussions, and don't write as many posts as I used to.

I know how you feel...I have the exact same problem. Today I felt so horrible because of the way I looked I stayed home from school. I have no confidence when I look like this...And then I feel shallow for thinking that, which makes me feel worse. My skin is also pretty sensitive; I've tried a bunch of products and nothing seems to work. It either has no effect or it irritates my face, which makes me even more depressed.

In my case I don't choose to answer discussions only from friends because it depends if the post I see is interesting to me and if I feel I could give quality replies. I think some people are that way too so don't feel bad if some of your friends don't respond to your discussions. Being friends does not require anyone here to respond to all of friends' posts.

I had the same experience too...though i did send many friend requests i only have half of my approive friends participate in my discusions...maybe their just busy making discussions first or answering discussions that interests them...give them time dear friend...youll see them post a reply some time...more blessings!happy posting!...peace!

I use 'discussions my friends started' as a launching point when I sign in to Mylot each day. But I don't feel obliged to answer all of my friends discussions. I asnwer them if I have something to contribute. I wouldn't expect them to answer mine if they don't have anything to contribute, either. Accepting a friend isn't a contract...there is no agreement to post in every one of each others discussions. I highly doubt that MyLot intended it that way. Adding someone as a friend should be done because that person is of interest to you, and shares mutual interests...thats it.

I kind of see where you're coming from here but some of my "friends" here might accuse me of the same thing. I haven't added friends just so I can response to every discussion they start regardless of whether the topic interests me or I have any knowledge of the topic. I will only respond to my friends discussion where I can write a quality response that I feel they will benefit from reading. I'm fairly new here and the first few days I didn't know how the friend thing worked so I accepted everyone who added me as a friend. I found out pretty quickly that it was not the best idea to have alerts for friends discussions turned on as I was getting 30 or 40 emails a day just from one member. So I basically turned off everyone's alert and now make a point of checking the responses to my discussions and commenting on them, then I check discussions by my friends and reply to the ones I am interested in and then I check discussions with no responses (as I like to encourage new writers where possible) before I look at today's most popular discussions. It might be worth having a clearout of your friends list here. I've not had to do that yet so don't know what reaction you might get from deleting someone but I guess we need to be mature enough and hope the people we delete are also mature enough not to take it too personally. Hope you feel better after your rant :) x

Some of us who are new don't really understand how the system works. I've been here since Tuesday, and mainly I have either put up topics I thought might drive a good discusson, or jumped in to topics I found browsing the lists. Apologies to my friends, I'll get right on it! =o) =o) =o)

Well I would think that the reason you are requesting to add the person as a friend is because either A) you really do know them, whether it's offline or from somewhere's else, or B) You find their topics and or responses enlightening. If it's the latter than surely responding to their discussions isn't too hard to do. Why else would you add them as a friend then? As one person suggested it's probably because they're refugees from myspace and just want to have the huge list of friends so that they can say "ooh, look how many friends I have". Sad really.

Well, this is just how it is. I usually accept friends after I check their profile and see what kinds of discussions they have posted and responded to. After that I really don't expect anything else. Some of my friends respond to my discussions others have never responded. The same goes for me. If a discussion interests me I respond, if not I don't. Chances are most people are like that. So don't take this issue too seriously.

thats good that you got it off your chest, i know what you mean about friends not returning the favour, and well i accpeted heaps of people and they didnt bother responding to my discussions so i thought why should i respond to theirs, but i ended up just deleting so many people on my friend list. just not going to waste my time on it.

I don't worry about it much. I do try to go into the discussions my friends started list and respond to at least 5 of them a day, but it gets hard. When you start go get a lot of friends, it is hard to keep up with all the discussions. I used to go into my friends list and pick one friend each day and try to respond to 5 of their discussions, but as my friend list grew that just became to hard. Now I know that there are some friends who are probabaly wondering why I don't respond to their discussions, and it is nothing personal. It is just that when I go into the discussions my friends started list, I usually only go through about the first 3 pages and if you aren't lucky enough to be on one of those pages then I don't respond to your discussions. I know it is not fair, but it is impossible to keep up with all your friends discussions. One thing I do that I think works great and is fair, is that when I start a discussion, I visit the profile of everyone who responds and try to respond to at least one of their discussions. that way it is a true exchange. SO I guess without really thinking aobut it, I am helping those who help me, and if you never respond to any of my discussions then I most like won't respond to one of yours. So far I have actually requested only two friends and those were to get more information about something. All but two of my firends list requested me. I know that I should request more, and I may start doing it, but up til now, I haven't. Think of it this way, if they don't respond to your discussions then you probably wouldn't want them to respond anyways, you know what I mean. They are probably the kind who respond with one liners or just plain 'I'm here for the money" responses and those are just no good anyways.

I am sorry if I do not always get around to your discussions right away. I do not always feel very well. Please be patient with me and forgive me.

I feel quite guilty. because I have quite a few friends on my list, yet I spend most of my time on the days top discussions page. I keep telling myself that I'll flick through the top discussions and then go to my friends profiles, but then I get sidetracked and before I know it, I've spent most of the day responding to the top discussions. To the people on my friends list, I make a promise to you now that I will spend tonight going through your lists of discussions and I will try to post to at least one of your discussions. If it takes me all night, then so be it. It's the least I can do after you all made me feel so welcome.

In the first,thanks your paper.I think we respond to the discussions each other.Not only we can get friends with you,but also we can give you solutions to your problems.Thank you.