Any Thoughts on Combining Kids Birthday Parties?

At this age I don't think your daughter will rember. Your son on the otherhand will. I have two children that have birthdays three days apart.When they weree smaller I had thiers in the middle. That doesn't work anymore. Remember she may not rember but he will.

I think it depends on your children, there are no hard and fast rules that will apply to every child. I see no reason not to combine their birthdays with the family as it will be easier on everyone. Having said that, you know how your seven year old will feel about having to share one, some kids may be very upset while it doesn't bother others.. it just depends on you. While your daughter may not remember this birthday, you will, so don't not do anything just to save money, because it sounds like to me that you regret not doing anything for her first, I think you would regret this as well, she won't really know the difference, but you may never forgive yourself. They don't have to have piles of toys in order to have a great party, they can do lots of things, the seven year old can have a camp-out with his friends, they can have sparklers (of course with parental supervision) (: you could set up a slip and slide if it's warm enough, and if you wanted to spend some money, you could take the boys to play paintball or something fun. The two year old can have a special play date with one of her friends, and afterwards she gets cake and ice cream, and you sing happy birthday and take pictures, it doesn't have to be elaborate to be special. I shared a birthday "party" with my little brother all of my life, we were poor so we didn't really have parties though.. Birthdays were never a big deal in my house though, so I think maybe that did have something to do with it. Looking back, I never thought it bothered me, and I still don't think it did, because I never knew any different. I suppose when my sister's birthday came around I may have felt slighted that I didn't get my own day, but you can have one BIG party, and then do something special for them individually. GOod luck, it's a tough decisions, One I'll have to think about as well, as my kids b-days are about a week apart.

First of all, what about your daughter's day as you have NEVER given HER a party? It was her FIRST birthday. You didn't even bake a cupcake for her? And your family lives a whopping 2 hours away and can only come to visit you once? Wow. How about having the party on her birthday, 4th of July be damned. At 7 he's probably had a few birthdays; your daughter has not. Unless you move your trailer every year? Long and short, combining birthdays is just wrong. Especially when you are a kid. You said it best, it's your kids special day. Not her brothers and not his sisters day to all be rolled into one.

It might take away from his day, that same "day", lol, but other than that, he is not going to remember that he did not get to celebrate it on his own. It is very economical, and easy for everyone involved. I have had that happen to me as a child, and I have many relatives who do the same thing, especially when the kids are a week or two apart. And, now that I am married, my bday, and my hubby's are not too far apart, so last year, we celebrated together. I believe that it would be good. You are not hurting either of them, especially since only the 7 year old is really aware of what is going on around him. People will be able to attend, and you will be able to do everything once. However, I have learned, that it is nice to get two small cakes, or bake them, and write their names, different numbers of candles, etc, that way they feel as though they were individuals. It would be really fun on the fourth of July also, lol...with fireworks later that evening, and you can celebrate that with friends and family too...everyone would have a great time at your home...have fun, go for it...

I don't see a problem with combining the parties for the family. It sounds like it would make your life easier and theirs. WHen it is time for your son's actual birthday, you can invite a few of his friends over for a party/sleepover or whatever you want. If you explain to him the advantages of this, 2 parites, etc, I am sure he will understand. When i was a kid, Mom baked a cake, we had it for dessert that night. It seems like kids have gotten to the point where they expect too much and maybe should learn the world does not revolve around them.

I think when it comes down to it, parents just have to do what is best for them at the time. One thing I have always done is allow my kids to have a party but sometimes it doesn't work out with the dates so we move them around. But on their actual birthday they get to eat out of the "Red Plate" which is for special occations and I make their favorite meal and they get a present from their dad and I on that day. In other words acknowledge the actual day as being special and them as being special to us.

I wouldn't worry about it. I have combined my daughter and nephew's parties before. They are 4 days apart so they have the same friends and such. Since your daughter is still little, combining the parties shouldn't affect them. Also, explain to your son the reason. You may be surprised of the reaction.

I do not think it is a good idea to combine birthdays except for those born with in a day or two of each other or twins. I think b-days are the one day each year when we celebrate ourselves, and for kids it is a big deal. I can understand about wanting to save a trip for the family, but they should want to celebrate with you and 2 hours is really not to long of a drive to make a child feel special. If they will only come once then be sure to do something really fun for her on her day. I know she is young but she will still feel special to have her own day. Just my opinion.

I think a combined party would be fine...just maybe tell him he can have a couple of really good friends spend the night ON his actual birthday or he can pick a couple of friends to go to the movies on his actual bday and that way it's still his special day. It's hard when people can only get down once in a while and combining the two parties will make it a lot easier. Since it's the middle of Summer, you know there will probably be good outdoor weather and if you let your son invite friends, then they can do it all outside. If it's just family for this party, you can still do a BBQ thing. Since your son is 7, though...I would definately still let him have a few friends on his actual bday for a slumber party or movie night.

My girls are born on the same day two years apart so we do them together. One big headache then I am done. I think being as your kids are little and as long as everyone knows this is what you are planning I think it will be fine. If it doesn't work out then you'll have to tweak your plans in the years to come.

If you want family to be there then do both and if boy wants one with friends on his birthday do that. Boys that age like to have some kind with his friends. You can always make his day big somehow just with your family too. Just have own little party for each one of the alone not really make a big deal just so they know they have there own cake. My kids birthday are not that close together but daughters is the 21st of december so always had party separate before christmas.

I think if You have 2 Birthday Cakes and two different tables for their Gifts that would be ok. At least that gives them their own special place on their special day.

We had to do this a few time in our kids' younger days (they also had birthdays two days apart), and everything seemed to go well. I think for younger kids, combining birthday parties is fine, but I wouldn't advise it for older children/teens.

I think thats a good idea. your family will all be there and I don't think your son will mind too much b/c he's 7. Your family will appreciate it and its will be more like a holiday gathering more so than a birthday - so your son wont mind. I had a big family growing up, and we combined events all the time, its not a big deal.

My neice is having her 7th birthday this month and would like a 'boot camp' birthday party. It's very popular for boys and girls. They do obstacle courses and shoot paint at targets. They all wear old clothes as there is so much playing and acivities in the sand. Your little girl may be a bit small for this, but who knows, she might enjoy trying it as well. Guaranteed to give all the kids loads of fun. All the best.

Me and my brother had combined birthday parties for most of our lives. My birthday is a mere 4 days after his, although Im older. I always had fun at these parties, and so did my brother. There were always a variety of kids at the parties since me and my brother had different friends, and this added to the party for us. Since your daughter is so young though, maybe if you combined the party but invited more children your sons age and had activities for them, than your son will enjoy himself and not mind sharing his party.