Am I being too strict?

No you are not being strict if he was my son I would ask him why and then say no. If he keeps asking then say it is for his own good.

Yes hormones do go crazy at that age, and you are right that eventually the parents would go to sleep, I believe that you did the right thing as you never know what those two young ones would of got up to when nobody else would be awake I would of done the same as you and kept my son at home, and today if their were more responsible parents like you then the world would not be fully of young woman falling pregnant.

NO NO NO , you are definitely not wrong . Just because the girlfriends parents are not worried doesn't mean that you shouldn't worry . We were all children once and all know what it is like to get caught up in the heat of the moment especailly with all those hormones racing . As far as I can see the girlfriends parent would rather keep their little girl happy then think about how her life might be ruined because of one mistake on their part . The hardest part of being a parent is trying to protect our children from hurting themselves . They don't see how it could or will happen to them as they figure it always happens to someone else . They want so bad to fit in that they are willing to do something that is not even them to just go along with the crowd . Hormones and all the peer pressures get so many children into trouble but if the parents were paying a bit more attention to what their children were doing , then some of this could have been prevents . I am not saying as parents we can prevent everything because that is not possible but we can help by not encouraging the behavior that could lead to problems with lifelong consequencs .

Hey, you know the values of your life. Share your thoughts with your son sit besides him explain the real things. TLet him know facts do not say no to him but also explain why you are giving big NO. Hope you get some help.

no absoulutely not wel thats jus my opion unless u trust your son enough

NO NO NO you are not wrong.Maybe if my parents wouldve been like you i wouldnt have had a kid at 15 yrs old.Imean i handled it pretty well for being so young but that aint the point.The point is i lost my teen years and its not somthing i think any teenager should be doing.Youre right and dont change your answer cuz things happen and once theyre done,theyre done!

I don't think you're being too strict at all!! My mom wouldn't let me in my bedroom (at her house) alone with my fiance when I was 19 years old and didn't live at home anymore!!

Absolutely not! You obviously have values that you like to live by. I will do the exact same thing if I am ever in that position.

I have a 14 year old son, next month to be 15 and I wouldn't want him either to sleep over at his girlfriend's house. It's not right. You are not overreacting. If you say yes one time, then he is going to keep insisting in sleeping over many times.

It depends on the kids, the timing, etc, I know of some at that age who have the maturity to handle the hormones and hold back. I think over all most kids are going to push for as much as they can get. Which means as you said her parents are going to go to sleep sometime, and they are going to try to see each other, I mean why does he need to spend the night? He has a place to sleep at home, he doesn't need to sleep somewhere else, and while it is one thing when they are small children having a slumber party, of if they are out with friends and it is going to be a late night, etc. This is not the case you are describing, and I would have said why would you need to sleep there when you have a bed here? If you want to be together great I understand that but you are not ready to be living with someone. And so visit on Saturday, and you can visit again on Sunday but there is no need for you be there while you and she are both sleeping. They can't talk to each other while they are sleeping, so there is NO POINT for him to be sleeping over his girlfriends. And no matter what at any age, whether 15 or 50 your hormones can cause your desires and feelings to go into over drive, so that you self control is not as strong as it should be. Why tempt fate? While it will be nice for you to become a grandmother at some point in your life I am sure, I think it might be best if your children were able to be the ones to raise those grandchildren, rather than be siblings to them. I don't know why it would bug you, except kids have a way of making you feel aweful even when your saying no might be best for them, because I don't see how anyone would have a reason for allowing their teenager to spend the night at a girlfriend or boyfriend's house just because they want to. I know of a situation where yes the teenage daughter did stay at the boyfriend's house, this was because there was an emergency one of the grandparents has a stroke, and the kid had some major exam coming up, the parents had to leave the area the boy's parents offered to look after the girl and help her get to her grandparents home after the exam the following day. Different circumstances completely. That case there as a genuine need. And from what I understand the father didn't get much sleep that night, every noise in the house woke him, surely he trusted his son? yes he did, but his answer was "I was a teenage boy with teenage hormones once"

If I were in your situation, I would still say "NO." I once heard from a mother that she started teaching her 14 years old son about wearing a rubber. And all the necessary precautions to avoid unnecessary pregnancy. Teenagers are at that stage where they thought they know everything. But 15 years old is way too young. For me, they still look like a baby for me. You are right in holding to what you believe is not good.

Something about this just doesn't feel right, does it? Listen to God, He'll tell you what to do. From what I've read you're a great mother; and I believe that you're doing what is right. The flesh is weak and when parent's are asleep and hormones are rushing ... Anything could happen.

You were absolutely right in what you did!! You are a good, responsible parent...don't feel bad about a thing!! You (and your son) would feel alot worse if something happend and the girl did get pregnant, I think at 15 they are not prepared for anything like that to happen.

I don't think you were wrong for saying "NO". A 15 year old boy doesn't have any good reasons why he should stay over at his girlfriends house. I'm surprised the girls parents are ok with this.

You are definately NOT being to strict. Maybe if he was more around seventeen I would consider it, but definately not at fifteen. However, instead of just saying no I do believe he is at the age for you to calmly sit down, without pointing any fingers, and explain to him in a loving manner of your reasons why. Tell him that you trust him, however, you understand what it is to be fifteen and how exciting it can be. Be honest, and make him feel that he can be honest with you too. This creates an open relationship where you may not have to worry about him sneaking behind your back and doing it. When I was fifteen my parents always just said no without talking to me about it, which just made me angry. So, what did I do? I always said I was spending the night at a friends house and I did whatever I wanted. They never knew. Create trust and you will earn trust.

oh my gosh no you are not being strict!! If anyting I think you are the only sound sounding person. I understand of course why your son would want to stay over, and why his girl friend wants him to stay over, but why on earth would it be okay with her mom!?!?! Thank God you are there with some kind of sence. Keep doing it, someone has got to, and it sounds like you are the only one thinking with their head out of the clouds. Good for you!!!

No I don't think you were to strict. You followed your gut feeling based on how you viewed the parents. You could argue: Your girlfriend has not been staying overnight with us (I'm assuming that is the case)so you can't stay at her place as well.

You are not being too strict at all. I have a 15 year old daughter and she wants me to let her boyfriend come over here and her go over there. I trust her here because I will make sure she is not getting into trouble. Yes, their hormones do run wild at that age. I don't even know this boy or his parents. I think she needs to wait until she is at least 16 for me to meet parents. Then she may be able to go out on dates and such if I know the boy first and trust him. Kids expect too much of parents these days and they start asking for these things when they are quite young. I think age 16 may be appropriate for dating but not spending the night at all.

NO NO NO NO NO AND NO! There is absolutely, positively no reason why he should have to stay at her house. If I was the girls mother I certainly wouldn't allow it. I also have a 15 year old boy and there is no way in h#ll that he is going to have a sleepover at a girls house, unless it's his grandmother!

No you are not being too strict you are being sensible it is not a good thing to alow kids of opposite sexes to spend the night doing so is just putting temptation in thier way.I cant believe the girls parents will alow thif .I would have to talk to them also !