Have you experience being broke?
By heatspine
@heatspine (1141)
Philippines
26 responses
@Artsimba (1334)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I presently experience feeling broke. However, I feel very fortunate that at least I am able to function at a level where I can take care of my needs and pay my bills. I just don't have extra money to buy what I need that would help me to stay on my food plan to lose the weight that I lost before. I am struggling somewhat but I know in my heart that there are a lot of others who have less than I do and are homeless and have next to nothing so I count my blessings.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
it is always not enough. sometimes despite having buffer funds, we tend to compare to the others who are having more. which is why those who count their blessings (like you do) feel better than those who rant and uselessly complain.
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@pebbles_cubbie (3789)
• United States
8 Mar 07
Oh yes. I hate being broke. It really is horrible. I've been out of work for a little while and hope to start work again soon. I donated plasma. I got $25 this past tuesday and on thursday I'll get $30. So, it's a little something to put gas in the car and some food in the refrigerator. It's been rough but I've adapted to it and can't wait to get out. I've also sold things on ebay and been working here on mylot.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
living within our means is the key. sometimes a lot of us spends more than what we earn. this cause us to be in the financial trouble.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
8 Mar 07
I'm still pretty financially unstable, but I'm doing much better than I was in the past.
I have been literally homeless before. I had a family that didn't take care of me, and at one point as a child I had nowhere to live. I stayed with friends when I could, and did a lot of things I'm not proud of now to survive. When I finally did get someone in my family to help me, I wound up stuck in an abusive situation because of it.
After high school, I was sent off to college on scholarships, and I lost my scholarships because I had so many health problems and spent most of a semester in the hospital, unable to attend classes and therefore earn the grade required to keep the scholarships. Appeals to the college did no good, and I went to stay with my grandmother, who told me I had exactly a week to get out of her home before she kicked me out.
What I did was trust the generosity of a group of people I had only met online, one of whom I tentatively considered my "boyfriend". And it worked out for me. I moved from Kentucky to Michigan, got my health situation sorted out, and once I became healthy enough, starting working.
So for me getting out of the "broke" situation was simply a matter of finding the right help, not from my family, but from near-strangers that have been kinder to me than my family ever was.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
sometimes help comes from the people we don't expect to get it with. i'm glad to hear that you're slowly getting out of the financial mess.
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
I have also experience being broke as in really broke-Way back 2001, I left my job,I was living at an apartment with my cousin who was still in college then and somehow I supported her financialy, so when I left my job, I have no money, I have debts, and have other responsibilities too. I cried everymorning, It's so hard like you don't wanna wake up anymore.But I've moved on..I literally moved out of that place and got another job. Now I seldom experience not having enough money even for food. I feel so blessed that tho I am not rich I have what I need..not because I have a good job and earn much but because I have learned to trust God even with my finances.And it's true when you are faithful in giving your tithe to the Lord,He'll bless you even more.
@redrockwolf (47)
• United States
2 Aug 08
These are nice words of encouragement for those in such dire straits.
@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
6 Mar 07
I have had no income since the beginning of 2005 due to illness. My boyfriend - that i live with - has a normal salary. It is not enough to cover all our expences. So, we have cut all unnessesary expenses. We pay only interest on our mortgage. Only spend money on "have to items" (not many at all). And we get money from my parents and grandmother from time to time. it is no fun at all. It feels very degrading not to have my own money. I cannot even buy my own food!
@jmintuck (114)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
I,m broke, but for another reason, though. I know what is like not to bbe able to buy food.But , fortunately, we have a food bank here.So I use that here. But,trust me, I know what is like not to be able to actually buy some food.
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Hi Teison. That sounds depressing. But the good thing is that you still have your head above the waters. Just hang on and bright things are coming your way. Keep that discipline and it will not fail you.
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@coolchai (753)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
actually im just experiencing being broke. right now i have no work. i just work at home and its not enough for me to pay our expenses.though i have my mom with us, still she asks too much from me that i really cant give her.its very hard and tough. i have 2 kids and stil do not know where i will get for their education. til now i cant sleep coz i have to recover from so many debts. im really depressed. hope God will help me on this.
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
10 Mar 07
you can do it coolchai. just don't give up and always be on your toes. if you can have someone to take care of your kids then go get some help and get a job. this will alleviate your daily needs.
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@gigarange (1165)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I did and it is a very humbling experience. I didn't thought I would experience that in my whole life. When I left the house, I was in BAD terms with my family. So it was really not planned that I would leave. What I did? I adjusted and change my lifestyle to fit to what I have and what I can afford. I lived in a small room. I actually rented it because when I went to my friends house for help, I thought they let me stay in the small room but was schocked to know that they want me to rent it. When you are broke, you will know who's you're real friend. I kept on hearing this phrase from my mom before but I realized that it is true when I was in the situation. I tried to fit my lifestyle to the small money that I have. And believe me, its hard. When you only have a penny for food its so hard. I prayed and prayed to my God and He never failed me. I eventually found a good decent job then, went to work with my few clothes. I have to wash it when I get to the place I call home that time and hang it overnight and prayed that the blowing wind would dry it in the next morning. Little by little I had recovered and now, it just a memory I would never forget. That experience made me work and work harder that I would never experience the same thing again.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
It's nice to hear stories from personal experiences regarding financial struggle that leads to financial stability and beyond. Indeed the lesson you've learned will last you a lifetime.
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@sechsey (1831)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
I think everyone must have goen through this stage except of course those that have been born with the silver spoon in there mouth.:) I dont have a silver spoon so i have been broke numerous times before especially in College. We go through the stage when we try to save allowances by not eating complete meals. Or just going to bed when we dont have money and skip meals so we can make it stretch. Its all about those days which i dont want to go back to. I even experience that the only money left in my pocket was a fare going to the bank to pick up my allowance. If anything goes wrong witht he bank, i wont be able to go bank home Lol Those were the days..Still exist now but not as bad:P
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@earth2jacq (1502)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
Yes I did. I have maxed out my credit card so I have no choice but to pay it little by little lest my credit rating will suffer. A huge portion of my salary goes into paying the credit card. To make matters worse I loaned from another bank money to pay the card debt in full only to max out my card again. So I ended up paying two debts, one the credit card bill and second the loan from the bank. I have no choice but to sacrife buying new clothes, shoes, bags and dining out. I have paid the debts now and I promised myself that I no longer want to experience that ever again. I have learned to save since freeing myself from debt. I have also learned that it is better to pay for an item in cash than use the credit card. If you have no money then don't buy it (my new motto now).
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@maui_gomez_lim (1017)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
Yah I did, when I was in college. I have no means of getting my own money since my schedule at school didn't allowed me to get a part-time job. Everytime I need something which is not for school, I have to ask my parents for it. I got used to it for 4-yrs of college life. =)
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
yeah. at one point we tend to rely on our parents. good thing we survived that part.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
hi mollyjo. just keep the faith and as long as both of you are striving -- there's a big chance that you'll get through this in no time.
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@bluegem (174)
• Dominican Republic
6 Mar 07
I sometimes find myself very broke. Then I get very depressed over it. But these days I try to cope by diverting my focus and doing something thats fun yet free. I realize that all the money in the world cannot buy happiness and so I shouldnt allow money problems to stress me out. Also, I'm trying to launch out on a new business venture so I can cover more of my expenses and have extra money to spend.
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
I agree. Money only makes life easier but not necessarily happier. Good luck on your venture!
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@prttynpnkw83 (444)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I'm broke all the time lol i live pay check to pay check and feel that i will never get caught up how ever i try to work as much overtime as possible to get all the extra cash possible and now im trying the work at home online in my spare time thing too
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
pay goes out faster than it goes in right? maybe working on multiple jobs plus online working will pump prime your finance.
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@egay679 (152)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
as a matter of a fact, i just did get broke last year, after we were hit with a tremendous hurricane. it was like the end of the world. no money, no food, no house, no work, no everything. luckily, ive learned to cope up with much effort and really strive to get up. right now, i already have a new job, my finances are slowly but surely running smoothly, and everything seems to be getting back at their own place.
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@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
9 Mar 07
I haven't been totally broke, but I did realize that I wasn't able to completely pay my bills. So instead of waiting until I did go broke, I cut a bunch f things out of my life - dinners out, land line phone, digital cable, etc. Then, I went and got a second job, and I worked all day at a full time job, and 3 days a week part time. That earned me extra money - and the time at my second job was time I could NOT be out with my friends, eating, going to the movies, going shopping, etc. So it really worked out for me. I dug out of debt (hospital bills) and then I quit my job!
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@rainbowzr4ever (268)
• United States
9 Mar 07
more than once unfortuantely and in looking back I really can't explain how things changed other than saying God intervened. when my hubby was out of work he found another job and we started over.
@justme0727 (11)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
hi heatspine...i am broke right now...i feel devastated...i don't know what to do. banks are demanding me to pay but i don't hve any money to pay them..i don't even have money to buy food and milk for my children. its just devastating..they say that you should face your creditors and that's what i'm doing right now but when you talked to them they'll be forcing you to pay or else they will result to collection agencies which will charge you 25% then will just make things worst. i understand that but i really don't have anything nor property to sell. if i have then i should have paid them several months ago and not let them humiliate me or scare me...you see..things were tough for me last year and this year. i really don't know how to make both ends meet...i resulted to credit cards..i was a good payor..i have the cards for more than 3 years now but since our expenses grew because our family is growing..my kids got sick..our expenses grew out of hand...i just don't know what else to do...sometimes i don't feel like going to work..i feel heavily burden that i could not get out of bed...i feel embarassed coz i can't pay my obligations and dues...even with my officemates. i feel ashamed of myself...
can anyone help me..thank you!
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@redrockwolf (47)
• United States
2 Aug 08
Yeah, I understand about those creditors. I had them clear out my checking account and made a rent check bounce. I lost the apartment I was living in. My daughter and I were on the street. When I called to talk to them about it, all I got for a response was, "It's nothing personal. It's just business."
They continued hitting my account for several months, before I just stopped using it. I handled everything in cash, to make sure I covered basic living expenses. The landlord I got, after that, didn't mind me paying in cash every month. He understood my circumstances.
So, yes. Someone does understand.