If you're an adopted child, how would you feel?
By jennie_recca
@jennie_recca (26)
Philippines
6 responses
@Sandy_in_Canada (14)
• Canada
12 Mar 07
I am adopted. My birth mother was 16 and my birth father 18 when I was born (that was in 1966). My parents (adoptive) are the only parents that I know. They were open and honest with me since I was very little. I always wondered what my birth parents looked like, personalities, etc. I always longed to know. When I was 26 with 2 kids of my own, I was able to find them. My parents gave me their total support and blessing. It was the best thing I could have done. I don't feel empty anymore. When people find birth parents, it's not usually about wanting to replace the people that raised you. It's about identity. I have a relationship with both my birth parents and I have 6 new sibblings, 2 of which are sisters that I never grew up with and wished I had. My birth parents and my parents are friends/extended family and there is no jealousy or bad feelings.
I would never call them mom or dad, because they didn't raise me and I don't feel that way about them. They are like a auntie or uncle that you're especially close to. It's hard to explain.
Another strange thing is that I had a LOT of their characteristics.
If anyone is interested in persuing this, feel free to ask me anything. It's been a great experience.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I would feel a lot of negative things If I found out that I was adopted. I would have a lot of questions to ask both my adopted parents and biological parents thats for sure. I don't think I could go on in life without really knowing where I came from, so Yes, I would try to look for my biological parents and any other family members I had.
@Phlamingho (7824)
• Denmark
12 Mar 07
Of course I can't say for sure, but thinking about it, then no I don't think I would look for my biological parents. What would I say to them if I ever found them? They are not parents to me.
@sylvrrain (659)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I have always wished I was adopted. If you knew my parents you would understand why. I have even wished I had been switched at birth.
If someone told me that I was adopted, I would jump for joy. I would look for my real parents, but I would not pressure them into having me in their lives. If they wanted to know me, then sure, I would be there to get to know them.
@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
12 Mar 07
one thing an adopted child can know is that they definatly were a wanted child!I might feel a need to look for my biological parents as I grew older but they would never replace the ones who truly wanted me enough to adopt!
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
12 Mar 07
That would probably depend on how my adoptive parents treated the situation. If they were upfront about it and told me that they were very happy to have adopted me I would be ok. I'm not sure I would want to know about my biological parents. Except for the biology and need to know possible health problems why would I need to? I have known adoptive parents who were better than biological. Looking for biological parents is a double edged sword.