religon and dating

I think she is a very sincere and modest woman.She has not taken you for a ride.She has told her preference right away.In a relationship it is required.

Hello there. I think it would be better if you take things one step at a time. Being friends is a good start and if something more remarkable than that will happen well then and good. I've always believed that love chooses nobody and it doesn't categorize people (call me mushy...I know =P). If there's really a spark/chemistry between the 2 of you then I guess, religion won't stop you from being together. I am speaking from experience, my husband is an Atheist and I am a Roman Catholic. Talk about extreme. Anyway, there are still times when he tries to convince me that God doesn't exist, and there were times I tried to convince him that He does. We just came up with the conclusion that we can't really convince each other what we personally believe in so it's better to not talk about it or even make fun of it. Goodluck.

It's very difficult for her to take you more important than her beliefs. Clearly, she 's loved her god for several years while you've just appeared in her life, and she can't pass through her prejudices. But you don't have to be forced to follow her religion if you don't really like it. There're still many atheist girls, and anyway, being friends is not as good as being lovers but better than being enemies.

I think a lot of religious people don't want to go out with people who don't share their faith as they are worried that they will stop them from going to church etc. Don't be offended by this, you should be happy, You don't want to go out with a Christian anyway if you don't believe in what they believe.

There is no reason to be offended. If this person is a Christian they believe that a couple should not be unequally yoked (have different beliefs). It is very hard for a person to believe in God and date someone who doesn't. It isnt' anything personal. There is no reason not to be friends as Jesus himself had some unlikely friends. I do hope you continue to be friends and that you look past the comment. Take care.

I don't think you should be offended. It's her opinion and you should respect her. On the other hand, she should have respect you. I don't see anything wrong with different beliefs. I spoke to a lot of people with different religions, even the aethiest. Did I spell it correctly? Anyway, it does'nt matter how you believe, as long as people knows how to give way and take. Godbless!

I think you are right in that you may be reading too much into it.It sounds like her faith means alot to her and rather than hiding it from you,she came right out and said in terms of dating it would not work for her.But being a friend is totally different and a good friend is better than a fair relationship.She quickly stopped the relationship from going in one direction but opened the other direction for you.

speaking from a woman's point of view, she is probably looking in the long run. meaning that if she accepted that you 2 have different regilous backgrounds and then you start dating and you 2 fall in love and want to get married and have kids, then it becomes a problem on how to raise the kids and how to get married. so she probably didn't want to fall in love, and she is being protective of herself. so take it as it is and still be friends with her.

I don't think you should take it as you are not "good enough" but think of it this way: what is the point of dating if you don't see any possibility of a future? She probably knows that she wants to have kids and raise them in a strong religious environment, and if you don't meet that certain criteria, it is basically a deal breaker. It similar to a lot of other things, but people take religion more seriously than most of the others... say that sports are a really big part of your life and you know that you want your kids to be involved in sports in some way, if not play them, then be fans at least. You probably would not find yourself compatible with someone who not only has no interest in sports but does not believe they are a good idea for children to even watch them, for whatever reason. Now sports me not be a deal breaker because it seems a little extreme, but for many people religion is that important.

She sounds like she is being sincere. She likes you as a friend. But since she believes in here religion and you do not. She believe most probably that you are headed straigh to hell and she doesn't want to spend the rest of eternity looking down feeling sorry for you. Should you be offended I don't think so but atheists as in any other minority, it is probably a lot more difficult getting a date outside of your minority group because people are attracted to those of similar culture and beliefs.

It is generally not a good idea to date people of different faiths, because in most cases it just doesn't work out. You grow apart because of your beliefs. Granted, sometimes it doesn't work out this way, but most of the time it does. I wouldn't take offense to what she said. You two are just aren't on the same page when it comes to religion, which is an important thing to make sure you agree on. I would still go for the friendship, though. :)

the woman was probably a good christian for in our religion we are told not to join ourselves with unbelievers .However not many of us actualy follow the word on this it is one of the teachings 2nd Corinthians 6: 14. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15. What harmony is there between Christ and Belial ? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16. What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people." 17. "Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord.

No you shouldn't be offended. She's choosing who to love, and she has that right. If I was her I'd be scared too. Perhaps a fellow atheist would be a better match for you?

Look my freind, You are very good in making freindship so that dont worry it may would be better for you for dating bcoz in time of dating you become cool.

I don't think that the woman meant any offense when she told you that your relationship couldn't go beyond being friends. She probably is trying to convey that her perpective on religious beliefs is important for her if she enter into a relationship. At least she tried to be honest enough and didn't keep you hanging with false hopes. I guess it's better to respect her decision on that but continue to be friends with her. Well, she's not closing doors when it comes to friendship anyway. So, take it from there.. who knows? both of you might find out sooner that it would be possible to be more than friends.

You are lucky man. She left you for good. You know what such people are blind who just judge people by their first appearences and judge you of what you are. Actually its not like that I ain't religious but I am from the kind of very religious still I can say that you are lucky. Actually I mean to say is that when you fall for people then no religion teaches people to judge the relationship in terms of religious belief. But some people just go blind and forget that religions are made to follow and not made to judge by. Ofcourse might be a strong chance that the woman left you because she knew that she might get pressured from her family or society for haing a boyfriend who is out of her religion or unreligious and she just wants to save herself from this pressure. In botht the cases its fine for you cause believe me friend you won't like passing your precious time with such people. Any ways Take Care May GOD Bless YOU

No, don't get offended or anything. i guess you're overanalyzing things and i won't blame you. i mean we also gotta think about the future too/ like what if things progressed between you two. if you got something great going on then by all means go ahead and date and get to know each other. religion matters but it should not stand in the way between two people.

Definately no worries. Her faith has nothing to do with you, it's to do with her. It just sucks how religion consumes people's thoughts when religion is one's way of comforting someone after they die and also how to "live" out their lives. Ridiculous, satanism is believing that Christianity is flawed and that they are to live out their lives by their own actions, not the laws of a god. Doesn't that make any sense? because I think that's pretty much how everyone lives their lives.

Friend, I must say I envy you. You should feel honoured. She is being very kind to you to tell you the truth that it would not work out, probably from past experiences or from friends. It is especially tricky with one being too religious and one not believing at all. I don't think she is humoring you by asking to be friends with you. There must be some qualities in you that she sees, and wants to value you as a friend. You might not even be friends if things don't work out in a relationship. Go ahead and be friends with her. For all you know, she might be a your confidante :)

Remember, friendship is totally different than dating. With friendship you aren't going down a path to being permanent together. With dating, you need to have similar beliefs as the other person or you will develop problems. What happens if say you get married, have kids, and your wife wants to send them to a private catholic school. You don't think it's worth the $6000 but your wife thinks the religious benefit is worth it. Also, what if your kid wants to play baseball sunday morning and begs and begs you. Are you going to go against your wife if she wants to take him to church? Kids are not the only problem... There are just the aspects of adulthood as well. Beliefs are something we each cherish and need to be respectful of other people. What if your wife wants you to go to church with her? You shouldn't go just cause she wants you to, but at the same time it doesn't seem like a good relationship where you sit at home while she's at church.