When is nagging your kids abusive?

That is definitely an abusive relationship, even if you ARE an adult now. Nobody should be treated like that. Nagging would be like, "Emily, if I told you once, I told you a hundred times, go clean your room," or "I swear I will turn this car RIGHT around if you kids don't stop fighting back there!" Abuse is saying things that personally hurt the other person. I would say that the things your mom says are abuse, and you should try to distance yourself from her a little bit to avoid further injury to yourself or your child.

I would be sooo damn pi$$ed off! I would be fuming! I have a friend here that has parents just like yours,,and she was in the exact same situatin as you minus the baptism..and girll im soo sorry that you are going threw this! I wish i could save you too..but when she was 9 mths prganant her dad got so mad at her..she talked back to him for soemthing,,abnd he wasnt even thinking an dpushed herdown the stairs! she went into labor.and they had problems and almost lost Xavier,,well that was it..i let her move in with me..and i helped her get on her feet..and got her all the help that was out theer for people in need from the goverment..so hun..i really hope u take my advice and leave as soon as you can..your baby derserves a better chance in life than the crapy one u got,,you are now a mom..well soon to be..and now u have to protect your child from what your parents should have protected u from!! i wish u the best luck! and plz take care of you and that baby!

That is definitely abusive and she should not be speaking to you that way! Any constant derogatory comments are abuse. Mental abuse is always alot harder to get over than physical abuse, and so much harder for the victim to gain recognition for having been abused.

your mom should never say these things to you.I think anyone would feel the same way if their mom was saying these things to them.it does not matter what the reason is you should never say these things to your own child like your mom does to you.i would talk to your mom about this and if she dont change then you or your child dont need to be around her if she is going to treat you this way.

From what you have said, your mother is no longer nagging you but being very verbally abusive to you. I agree with the others, it will only get worse after the baby is born. I would personally tell my mother that it is not her life and that you are no longer a child but a grown woman that is going to be a mother whether she likes it or not. Tell her you are sorry that you are such a disgrace and embarrassment to the family, but you are not in no means a sl*t. Your pregnancy may not have been planned but it is not the end of world and in spite of how she feels about it, it is your choice to have this baby, to love and take care of it the best you can. Life is too short to have so much anger and resentment because of an unwed pregnancy. Ignore your mother's tyrant and verbal abuse, don't believe a word of her anger. As soon as possible, find a place of your own and get as far away from her as possible. You can not allow your mother to be around the baby as long as she has so much resentment. She will eventually cause your child a lot of pain from her feelings and that is something that can never be undone to a child. Babies need to feel love and security, something that your mother doesn't seem to have for you or your unborn child. You would be very wise and strong to get out of there as soon as possible because the stress of your mothers verbal abuse may cause serious complications for you and your baby. Isn't there a friend that you could stay with until you have the baby and get another job and place for you and the baby to live? Verbal abuse hurts worse than if you were slapped, my heart and prayers go out to you and your situation, be strong and something good will come of this, just don't ever give up.

Honey I can only urge you to take on board all of what has allready been said. This is not nagging this is pure abuse. You do not deserve to be treated like this by anyone least of all your own mother. Please, please seek help. It sounds like it is so normal to you and it really isnt. Take care.

How dare your mother say those things to you. If my mother said those kind of things to me I'd show her the door. My mother sometimes used to say snide comments but one day I told her to just shut up and that ended that. Though it's not the same situation as you. She sounds like a not so nice person and I think that you should console yourself with the fact that you are nothing like her and will be a better mother to your child.

I don't think nagging is a problem at all. However I don't agree wtih shouting at your kids if you are using swear words and being really critical of them. However it is something that will be really difficult to check this kind of behaviour. I think that in your case you sound old enough to be able to look after yourself. You don't need to put up with your mum saying these things to you. You need to tell her that when she shouts at you, you feel very upset because you aren't stupid or a sl*t and you would like it if she stopped doing it. If she still caries on I would just stop seeing her. You are certainly not being over sensitive for being upset by this, she sounds like she is being unreasonable.

thats defenitely abuse...children are the most wonderful gift of god and they should be loved and showered with all the love a parent can give..i would adore my children like anythin cuz i know what a great feelin it is to have a child...and defenitely you should enjoy the moment of being pregnant and deal with all this abusive nature that you should not be taking..good luck and god bless

Not sure probably, when the kids are about ready to jump out of their skin or start yelling at you because their annoyed. However at the same time it can be good for them. Eh, it's kind of a double edge sword imo, but good topic non of the less.