Is your first love your real love??

@maucute (979)
Philippines
March 24, 2007 11:58am CST
I've seen people talking about their first love.. Their first love which hard to forget and as the song goes, "First love never dies". Do you believe in this based on your experience? For me, I was a bit immature to go on a relationship at a young age.. I've felt love, but I'm not sure if it's really real.. I mean, I think it was much more of a puppy love.. I'm in a relationship now and I've just felt that I really truly love someone and not just infatuation or something.. Share your points on this.. :)
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40 responses
24 Mar 07
For me my first love wasn't my true love. I thought it was love, but really we were little more than friends. We were 15 and the odd kiss was all that we managed, but I did think about him for many years afterwards.
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
I think we would feel that way when we are new to a relationship and especially that we are still young.. My first love was also when I was at the age of 16, I guess those are just some experiences that we've learned in order to be able to see the right one.. thanks.. :)
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@merlblue (275)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Mar 07
i agree, we cant tell that our first love was our true love coz sometimes we love the wrong person
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@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Yes, you dont know something wasnt true love until you find the real thing then you look back and say, that wasnt real love. I dont think you know until you actually truly love someone.
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@shakeroo (3986)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 07
In my case it was not. My real love came much later. So I guess, the first one is not always the real one ya. How about the last one? Can it be the real one? But then how do you know it is the last one? Such is life!
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
I agree but some people really meet the first one to be the real one.. Having the last one to be the true is hard to tell, hopefully it could be the real one in the end but we couldn't really tell.. It just goes to show that we just have to find it out for ourselves.. thanks.. :)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
yess it was. my first love as real love and it was great!
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
One lucky guy.. I do hope things will be much more better for the 2 of you.. :) Thanks..
@karen_24 (320)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
first love ? real love? maybe...and i believe in destiny....
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
There's a possibility right? Well, some are just lucky enough to have found their true love the first time they love.. Thanks.. :)I also do believe in it..
• China
25 Mar 07
Maybe. I'm struggle to close my first love.We knowed each others eleven years and be lover more than ten years. It's really hard to say goodbye. But "he doesn't suit you",all my friends & parents said to me. Who can tell me,what should i do?
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
Wow, more than 10 years of being together.. That last more than some people's marriages.. Have you had someone besides that person after you're not together anymore? It's really hard to say goodbye, I feel for you about that because I've experienced that before also.. I've opened a discussion days ago about relationships also if you would follow your happiness or your parents' happiness, and I've agreed to the people who commented that nobody can dictate us on what we should do.. According to my boyfriend I don't wanna regret things later for not following my decisions..
• India
24 Mar 07
my first love was my true love...it was a mature love,due to family pressures i never got my love...but i still love him and can never ever forget him...
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Good for you, you're lucky to have found your true love that early.. wow, I felt bad about your situation, I recently posted a topic if you would choose your happiness or go for your parent's happiness.. I hope there could be some way that you two could be together if that's still possible.. thanks.. :)
@mlgb_24 (638)
24 Mar 07
nobody will ever forget their first love...but it is not always the real love...it changes as you mature and meet the right one.
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
true.. :) As time passed, we will be able to understand our needs and meet people who share the same thing as we do.. thanks :)
@xenybb (168)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
My father was telling me, that real love is that person you love during your hogh school days and your college day. The reason is that, there is no limits on the criteria of whom you will love. Unlike if your having a job there is a possiblity that you first look at if he have a job and that you will be thinking of your future. I think that if you feel that love, you are serious w/ the one you are in relationship i think that is the real love. I don't believe that the first or second or the next..is the measurement of real love. what you felt to the one you love is real love if you give everything and your happy w/ him wherever you be with each others arms..because in my expeience my first boyfriend i had felt that real love 2 but i also felt that real love this time w/ my recent boyfriend..
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• New Zealand
25 Mar 07
Love is love weather it is first or whatever. First crush is they say silly love, puppy love,whatever it is love at the end of the day.The caring sharing is so real.Many people disregard this as a nuisance of growing years but i worship love i was 16 when i had a crush oh!i was so happy,unlike today at that timei just was too happy to be in love.I did not care if the person with me was in love or not i loved him and that was enough for me.Though we never spoke but i knew i was hooked.Unfortunately it didnt see the light of the day but.. Recently too i was in love though i wasnt in my teens yet people SAID YOU HAVE A CRUSH!!! People are mad, poeople say what they like i love being in love and yes to forget first love is like forgetting the pattern of your breath.
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@sikhan (30)
• Bangladesh
25 Mar 07
First love is always true. When I recall my first puppy then I feel exciting till today. But it was happened 28 yrs. ago.
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@thanuarun (290)
• India
25 Mar 07
Well.i can say that my first love is my true love..since i also got married to the same person who i started loving since 5 years..in my life my first love is the real love..but i know that there are people who love for fun..thats not love but..be true to love or just be friends..
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• India
25 Mar 07
yes my first is my real love.yet i not go for that till now in my life,but i think that first love is real love,which is hard to forget in life. we can share all thing's to our love,we both know our like and dislike,interest,etc. we can share our every talk with our lover. but in young age there may be some time love is not real love because just a attraction of boy's nd girl's.so that one is not real love. real first love is know the person who love their lover too much of all thing's.
@shezah (46)
• Pakistan
24 Mar 07
well i fell in love when i was very young but we stayed together for more than 9 years time but after those years he eloped else where but left me alone walking on the path of our love all alone so i guess from my side it is true love cause i cannot forget him and the time spend with him and still feel the same love and affection for him as i felt the very first day of our love even after knowing that he is no more sincere with me....i guess it varies from person to person as we both loved but he moved ahead and im still there where he left me.
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
wow, that's a pretty long time to be together for a young age.. I'm so sorry for what happened, I'm not against eloping but I think if the guy is true enough to love you despite the problems with a family because of the relationship he wouldn't do such thing but it would depend if he's mature enough to think and is stable to take care of you.. But I guess even if you don't end up together but the feelings is still with, then that would be considered.. Thanks,, I do hope you'll also find someone who'll truly love you.. :)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 07
i think this is true that you can't forget anyone whom you are most sincere.Now the main think is that its your love or crush or you are just flirting.
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• Kuwait
25 Mar 07
well not at all.first love wasnt my real love i guess its just a lost love and nothing else,,
@lauczi (962)
• Poland
25 Mar 07
well i iddnt expierenced a puppy love becoz i was too shy to even talk to a boy. yes i liked many boys but i wasnt in any relationship. my firls relationship was spontanuous and natural, like there was no other way as to be with him, i felt i knew him my whole life. so if i felt no shiness about my first boyfriend it must mean that it was true love. maybe the thing is i was really waiting for this very guy and my first love was at the same time my true love. maybe im a romantic but im against trend to sleep with anyone u like, but then realizing it isnt the one.
• India
25 Mar 07
no
@cuterat (296)
• India
25 Mar 07
I never had an affair in my life, but I firmly believe that love can happen only once in your life, and that love if for your life, I don't know how some people have many affairs, but I cannot digest that, love is eternal and happens only once.
• United States
25 Mar 07
I'm 18 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Often times people my age do confuse love with infactuation. This isn't the case with me at all. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and I feel I always will. I think often times people don't ever get over their first love because, well, it's your first time experiencing it and it's powerful. More times than not, people realize that their first "love" wasn't real love at all. I don't think anybody can put a definition on "real love".
• Canada
25 Mar 07
First love is not always real love, but it is sure possible. I am getting married in 104 days to the woman I truly love and want to spend the rest of my life with, and guess what? She is the first girl I ever dated!