do you confront people who have been unfair to you?

Yes, like you always do tell people what I feel about them. It's not because I want them to feel guilty but to let them know that what they are doing is wrong. I do this so that hopefully we would have a better relationship.

I dont' like doing this really. I would rather not make them feel as bad as I do, instead I just try to avoid spending lots of time with them.

I always make an effort to do this because chances are they will do this again. You should always let these types of people let you know where you stand. It shows discipline when you're able to stand up to them. What I mostly do though when making such an effort. Is I tend to let their egos take over the first time they make this mistake. the second time is that i allow them to feel like i'm soft or weak in their minds. So of course they'll do it again. The third time they make their approach, that's when I'll pounce on them, sure that's not fair but if you really think about it.. it's not fair to make such an attempt in the frist place. I like doing that because I feel empowered this way. I always do it in a calm, relaxed fashion. But I'm direct with them the third time they've made that mistake. Sure enough their egos are in check and they tend to apologize for their mistakes. It encourages them to take a hard look at themselves and the other people around them.

Depends on the situation actually. There are times that it just doesn't matter to me what some people think of me no matter how unfairly but if it's someone whose opinion matters to me, I usually clear things up with them. It doesn't matter to me if they feel guilty or not or if their conscience bothers them. What matters to me is that I know the truth about myself and that I am not unhappy or guilty about anything. Being unfair to other people spells issues that we have in ourselves and it is actually more damaging to us because we are actually destroying or negatively affecting our relationship with other people. Those who are unfair to you may have more issues and more angry inside them that they actually need more help.

I think I confront people in a nice way, so as not to offend them or make a situation worse than it already is. Sometimes it takes me a little while to find out how to approach that person so that neither of us feel bad about the situation. If I am upset, angry or annoyed, then I sometimes lash out which I know is not a good thing, so sometimes I do try to avoid any confrontation, even if they have been unfair to me. The only person that I do stand up for on any matter is my son!

Usually I don't bother. People only do that to me once and then for me, they cease to exist. Life it too short to put up with that kind of behavior.

Yes I do. I'm not a confortationally person but if someone rattles my nerves I am definitely impelled to speak my mind. I think some people are down right rude and if they are intentionally rude to me or anyone I will definitely put them in their place. Most of the people I know would just shrug it off but I can't. I remember in HS a very good friend of mine was being made fun of all the time. She never told me until I happened to be in the restroom on day when she was and the people who were harassing her. Well, there were about 5 of them. One was the MOUTH and they other were the goonies. I spoke up and said something in my friends defense the "mouth" approached me like she was going to Kick my butt. Umm.that was until I whacked her in the face with the bathroom door. Oops, sorry, LOL didn't know the door didn't have a tension spring. She did try to rattle my nerves but she lost interest when I jumped down from the gym balcony. It was about a 10 foot dropped. I thought she was going CRAP her pants. She was talking crap because she figured by the time I got down to the gym floor, the teachers would be there. I took a short cut.

I'm the type of person who is not comfortable confronting other people even if they did me wrong. I know it's not right but I have so many problems and I feel that talking to them is just a waste of time. I just avoid them, by doing that I can make them feel that there is something wrong.

Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. I confront people about matters when I consider it important to resolve things. When I see no reason for doing it, I just let it go. I am a very patient person, but when I get angry, I flare up. I know that I must learn to take hold of my emotions. This is the reason why I hold my quiet for a while before talking. But I am also a very emotional person. So there goes the trouble.

When I was young I was afraid of losing friends if I did that, but when I was in the university I found a true friend and then I realized how different she is from everyone else called themselves my friends. Since then I didn't hold my tongue against anything unfair anymore. Before, I only confronted by action, like not doing what I was told to do and therefore I was called a rebel or something like that. I wonder what they would call me now hahaha

I always confront people in a nice way. It usually wins me the respect of the people I confront. If the person is important to you you must speak out and assert yourself.

actually it depends on how deep she/he has hurt me. if he has hurt me sooooo deeply, then i would never pretend to comfort him, but if i can still manage to forget what he had done to me, then i see no problem in comforting this person. and besides, i usually do not hold grudges to others. i easily forget the heartaches and the pains,,,

Yeah I sure do, right after I determine that I have been wronged and that lending a piece of my mind is called for and right before they think they got away with what they did. Its but fair to stand up for oneself in the light of righteousness. :D