How do you control your children?

This sounds like the onset of the "terrible twos" where your little one will not do anything she is told to do. All you can do is be firm with her, but don't let her bug you too much. She is pushing the boundaries now, trying to see what she can get away with and how far she can push Mum. Perhaps you could try to offer encouragement to her, say let her sit with you so long as she eats something.

I can't believe everyone is getting so worked-up about punishing a 2 year old. This poor child has been on this planet for 24 short months. I have two boys one of 18 and the other 11. I never punished, smacked, sat them on stairs, witheld treats or any of the other so called 'training' techniques. Try and be a bit more laid back, the world wont end if your toddler doesn't eat lunch or take a nap. They wont turn to a life of crime if you dont impose your will. Mine have both turned out alright. A happy, loving home where life is fun is more nurturing than a boot camp.

It seems that she does not care that she is getting to be sitting on the naughty bean bag or whatever, if she is just playing perhaps her toy or whatever she likes to play with the most you should take away from her so that she understand that you mean business. She is 2 most 2 to 3 year olds do not eat.

i also have a 3-year-old daughter who is so hard to feed. it would take me some time to make her eat her lunch or dinner because she usually would just like to play rather than eat. i must admit that i am vey weak on disciplining her and i don't have that convinving power to make her follow me. luckily, i have a husband who is really the one who can make our daughter stop and eat her food. he is a good disciplinarian and our daughter really obliges when he tells her. it is good to have someone among parents who has the ability to discipline their child.

If i were that mom, first i will let him play first and in the mid of his playing, i will let him eat and play as if he is playing. Because if i will scold him for not eating, he will be crying and the more he cried the more you react and get angry with him. Parents especially mother must have a bigger patience when it comes of dealing children. You must be more observant in terms of their feeling. If they will not eat, so he will not eat..but if you force him to eat even if he does not like to eat, it will became World War II between you and your child. So be considerate..once you get his attention and know their needs, you will become friends.

playing is children's nature, they are lovely and cute.a two years old child will know nothing about the world except her/his dad and mama and something played with.what my suggestion is never teach a 2 years old child this or that, just let it do what they like, don't kill their nature.

Being consistent is a very important key to upbringing a child as you probably discovered with your first daughter.But you did mention earlieer how the older one was more confident in herself so maybe the younger one is trying to show a little more confidence?I realize the situation has already played itself out,but I would guess she finally did eat when she got hungry enough.

Children this age love to push the limit, it is our job to make sure they understand the rules, and then enforce them. I have had similar situations in my home as well. Here's what I did with my son when he was being especially difficult. I sat him down and told him he needed to eat. He told me he didn't want to, so I said, fine it's time for your nap. He said "I'm hungry!" SO I told him, you have five minutes, when the timer goes off, your going to bed. I set the timer, he poked around, and didn't really eat, I put him to bed. He cried. He fell asleep and woke up ravenous. Since then, I have used the five minute rule many times when he is poking around and not wanting to eat. If he's hungry, he'll scarf down his food, knowing that he won't get a chance otherwise (if he's eating well, I will allow him to finish, before taking him to bed, if he is not, then it's straight to his nap after the timer goes off) Usually, if your child is picking fights around dinner time, it could be that she is not really hungry. Maybe her snack is too close to dinner/lunch or she doesn't really need one. (not all children need a snack everyday) So, when I notice my son doing this, i cut back on his snacks, and it usually solves the problem as well. I agree with your above statement that just because she's tired she shouldn't get away with being disobedient. Of course you will take it into consideration, but she should be held accountable for her attitude and misbehaviour's. GOod luck!

Oh wow yes some of our children can be very defiant and we wonder what we can do but I would just confiscate her toys from her until she learns that she must behave herself and do what you want her to do. That way hopefully she learns that she must do as she is told to do.

My niece sometimes gave my sister a lot of trouble when she was younger.My sister didn't want to be strict and was clueless on what to do.When my niece got into a habit of that ,my sister banned watching a cartoon character she was fond of and that did it,lol.Sometimes ,it's hard to get them to do the right things,but once you know their weakness you too can be a brat when you need to be ,lol.

My little boy is a very fussy eater - I tend to think if he won't eat then he won't eat - making a big drama out of won't help and I can't force feed him. I haven't started naughty step yet as I think he is a little too young to understand just now - I am big fan of "supernanny" but she normally doesn't use this until three as far as I know. What I would do is just let her do her thing if she doesn't want to eat..no treats for the afternoon and the next mealtime she will be ready to eat (hopefully)! I think it's just a two year old thing, after all they are still learning! Good luck

I would like to say it gets better, but I have a three year old and it gets worse. Now when he doesn't want to do something he says, "I can not!" and as far as he's concerned that's the end of the discussion. I've tried time-out, tapping on the bum, a naughty chair, nothing has worked so far. I think some children are more strong willed than others, but everyone says that if you just keep up with the punishment so that the child learns the consequences of their actions, then it will eventually work. I hope so! As for eating, we don't eat at the same time everyday, he usually just eats when he is hungry. He will tell me when he is and a lot of times even tell me what he wants. Since he only eats things that are good for him I think this is okay, I don't want him to over eat or get hungry between meals.

do not force her to eat. when she is hungry then she will eat. what ever you had for luch put it in the refridgerator and when she is hungry then pull that out and give it to her. let her know that she will not get any goodies if she does not eat her lunch.

i have a son he is 2 yrs old and like you hard to feed,,he always want to play and play all the time but as i mother i have something to think how can i feed him in the right time and follow anything i sadi..but not all 2 yrs old kids are understand what all the things that we want to do from them..we need to do more caress to them and play to them..and as long as we punish them as long as they will become stubborn...so if you like your daughter to follow you in your rules you need to be her friend and bonding with her so she may follow you to eat her meals..as a mother we need to sacrifice,more patient,understanding..so that our child we follow us..give her some hugs ang kisses so tha she make feel tht your caring for her..

First let her play how much see wants, when she starve , she will automatically cry then u give her to some thing to eat. job finished

you remind me of the tv series " desperate wives":-)I soon will be married.Maybe i can learn a lot from the following responses.