Can you say that you love all your children equally? Is this possible?

When I just had my daughter and was pregnant with my second I found it hard to believe that I would be able to have as much love for another child as I had for my daughter. Well once my youngest was born I realised that although it takes a while there is a stage when you realise that you love them both equally. (This might happen straight away with you but it took me a while to bond as I had post natal depression). I think that there are times when I give prioerity to one daughter over the other and I treat them in different ways because they have different needs, but if I was asked to choose between them there would be no way that I could favour one of them over the other.

I love my kids equally but different, one for her great patience, one for her way to make anyone forget their worries by making them laugh, I love my little man for all his devilment and especially when he's standing at the oven with a book in his hand reading it upside down (obviously gonna be a chef Lol), My kids are all so different to each other, their characteristics are diverse, It's funny when they all are raised the same.

I love my three children equally.

Sibling equality is possible. My parents never made my brother and I feel loved any less than the other. If they did something special with my brother, they would do something special with me. I have two children and I don't treat them any differently. They are both my babies and deserve everything I can give them!

Yes I believe you can love all your children equality. This is how a good parent should be.Yes there may be more wronge things a child does that other doesnt but the love for each child should stay the same.

I dont believe in Favouring any of my 7 children, I would have to say that they get different time outs, Different things taken away becuase they are all different and do different things, My Love for all 7 are all the same! That would never change =) I guess thats becuase my brothers were always favoured and growing up I dont see that to be fair and learned to change it for my growing family. Take care and best wishes

It is possible to happen since we are unique and have each own individuality.But in on my own experienced, i belong to a big,loving happy family. I have 6 brother and 2 sisters so we are 9 siblings.But our parents,mold us equally.Though we have different characters but it doesnt mean the love of our parents,are not equal.We have a very great father and mother.

I think sibling equality is impossible.In my home,there are 5children,4 girls and one boy.Of course my mum loves my youngest brother the most and then the youngest daughter,it is me.But in my mother's mind,she loves every child.

I think we were given all the love our parents had for us, but they may have loved us differently. They may also have expressed that love differently because we have different personalities, and have established different realtionships with our parents. I think it is the same with me and my kids. I love each of them and couldn't love either of them more. I do treat them differently however, so to them it may appear that I have a favorite. My kids are very different, and they are several years apart in age, so naturally we interact differently. I know that at times, though, they do each feel as though the other is the favorite.

I agree with what you said.I am the only child in my family.My parents love me forever.They may give anything what I want to .They said that they earn money only to support me. If you have two children it may be difficult for u to look after everyone.

if anyone says that his/her parents loved their all childern equally then it is wrong. Many a times we see that parents are alsp partial to some of the children. Parents love all the children they dont hate any but their love is not equally divided ampng all child

in our family, my parents loves us equally..we are 4 siblings, 2 boys and 2 girls(my bro, me, my little bro and my little sis)...but my two bros has more freedom than us girls, like they can date during adolescent stage but we girls can't...there are many things my brothers can do than us girls but in other ways or things that our parents gave us, it is equal and fair for all of us...

I have the same fear myself. i have a daughter, and me and my husband is still planning to have a baby. i don't know but i feel that even if i'll have another child i wouldn't be as excited as i was with my daughter. i've talked to some of my friends who has more than 1 kid and they all tell me that you don't really call it "favorite child" because there's no such thing. they love their kids equally, its just that they give more attention to the kid who needs it. they say they have the same excitement 2nd child as the first born. I'm a middle child in the family and i've always been called papa's girl. sometimes i do feel it but most of the time especially now that i'm a parent, i think my dad is trying to give us equal attention..maybe when i was youger i needed more attention because i was wild, aggressive and assertive as a teenager. i'm very adventurous. i do things my way and that time my dad would always want me home. he would bribe me of anything just so i don't go out. I even heard him say that i was his favorite because i was sweet to him and he thinks that i am alot like him. the similarity of me and my dad must be one of the reason why i am his so called favorite at that time. but now that i'm married and the only single in the damily is my eldest sister, she now gets all the attention. my dad bought her a new car, supported her in all her needs in the clinic. i'm still afraid of the fact that i might not treat my children equally in the future but i know however others may see it i know i'll love all my children well.

I think it's not possible..!!

nope not possible there is always favorites among them..and its us parents must kow how to handle it and still treat them equally...coz its not good to have some favorites.it creates misunderstanding and rivalry among siblings..

yes, i grew up with a family too that has favoritism. But when i have my own family i never had favoritism in my kids. I love them all. and when i want to buy something for them i always buy for all. and if i don't have much money i will be telling them that i will do it one at a time. In terms of works in the house i want all of them to share the work loads. I don't feel that i favor somebody. I just don't know how they are feeling.

I believe it IS possible. But you gotta try. I grew up believing my mom didnt love me as she did my two sisters. Now I see she really loves my youngest sister, she does a little love us older girls. But shes the baby, I read once that babies of the family love the babies. When I have kids, no matter 2 or 4. I will love them the same. And I will NOT base my feelings on them. Truly.

I had a problem with that thing before. I thought my mom's favorite is my older brother, mom was telling me she loves us equally although there are still times that I feel like her favorite is still my brother. I don't have problems with my younger siblings, just the older one. But I think mom's has this instinct of loving her children because it came from her and she carried the child for 9 months.

I don't think that we can love all our children equally. However we should try to and try to treat them equally. On the other hand, each child is different. They have different levels of need for love and attention. I'm the youngest of 3. We are all girls. There is a decade age gap between me and my 2nd sister. The eldest is 2 yr older than the second. As the youngest, most people will think that I will be the attention seeker as well as slightly spoilt. I don't think this is true for me. I like to keep to myself and I like to do stuff on my own. I wouldn't mind if my parents gave more attention to my other sisters more than to me, because it is just my nature to need more time alone. I will feel cornered if I am given too much attention. I suppose the good way to go about it is to treat your children fairly and provide the amount of love and attention that they need. Ofcourse, if all the kids wants a lot of attention and love, then you will have to make sure they all get same amounts to make things fair.

i love all my children the same amoutn but i only haveone so it is easy. hahah