I'm an unmarried mother-to-be and my family doesn't know a thing...

It seems to me you should be sure he wants responsibility before sleeping with him instead of after. Other than that, you seem to be on the right track.

It sounds like you are on the right track and I know you can make this work if you want it to . When my husband and I had our first we were both quite young , all of our families were quite upset with us and some of them were quite blunt in telling us how we made the biggest mistake of our lives . Well it is now years later and although it was hard and we went through a lot of hard times we proved to everyone that we were quite capable of doing it on our own and I don't for one minute regret any of the decisions we made . I had a beautiful little girl who has never lacked for anything in life . We may not have had food in the house for us to eat at times but my little girl always had a cubboard filled with food . We didn't have money to buy extra's for us but our little girl had the best of everything . You can make anything work as long as you are willing to make sacrifices for your child and in the end it will prove to be the most important thing in your life as my children mean the world to me and I would never change the fact that we may have had our first way too early in life but it taught us a lot about responsibility and a lot about who we were ourselves . We have come a long way since then but we have the ability to be able to say that we did it and we did it on our own . I wish you the best of luck and congratualions on your little one that will soon be a very big part of your life but it will all be worth it :)

Don't count your family out so easily. Your parents, while they may be a bit upset (not angry) or disappointed, unless you have reason to believe they would hurt you because of the situation (meaning they're abusive anyways) then I think you should sit down with them and tell them. It's not the end of the world and while it's not the situation you would choose to be in it's not as horrible as you think. Many young ladies have children and carry on with their lives. The more support you have, especially from home, the better. To be honest, there's really nobody else in the world that will come to love your child like a grandparent. So don't count them out and give them a chance to be a part of this whole experience. If you stand your ground on what YOU want, as far as the baby goes, I'm sure they will understand and back you up unless there's reason for you to believe they're not that type. Just disappointing them is not a good enough reason. I'm speaking from a parent's point of view... I've been "disappointed" in my kids before but have never, ever stopped loving them or hated them for what they've done. It's part of parenting, taking the good with the bad. Good luck.

I don't know according to our religion what you have committed is a sin as no one is allowed to touch a man without getting married to him. many people comment on Islam when it asks Muslim ladies to wear a veil and stay at the home and don't roam about with un known(Non-mahram) men use lessly.They might be able to understand by your situation the reason of such orders.All I can say is may Allah help you and guide you to the right path.

It's a good thing that you are strong about the situation but telling your parent face to face would be more appropriate than just leaving a letter. We are all human, they might be angry at first but will understand and support you at the long run.

You don't say how old you are, but I think you are thinking very clearly about the situation. I hope you and your family can sit down and talk this through carefully to discuss options for either raising your baby or making adoption plans. I wish you the very best of luck for a healthy and safe pregnancy.

Why do you have to leave home? Would your parents be upset? If you can't stay at home then I would say you are on the right track. You need to find people who can assist you in having and raising your baby. It is a shame the father is not on board. Hopefully he will come around. It would be better if you had his support. I admire you for taking these steps and loving your unborn child enough to do what is right against the odds. I think your baby has a very brave mother...and he she will appreciate that when they get older. Good for you...and good luck.

Hunny, you will be fine! Keep up a good attitude and only look forward to the future...the future of you and your child. It is hard, I too had a child at a young age (18) but we got threw it. She is now 9 years old and i wouldnt change a thing! You need to now look at life like everything you do, you do it for you and your child. As long as you truely want this child, you will be fine. All will fall into place...because your natural instinct and your mothering abilities will allow you to suceed. Altho it may be a surprise to you parents, they will get over it eventually. My mother was not happy at all, even wanted me to have an abortion. I stood my ground and told her that I already knew what I was going to do...so it was her choice if she would stand behind me or not. She came around by the time the baby was born and has been a wonderful support! Try to stay optimistic and keep your head up!

i admire those people who are brave enough to take care of themselves even facing this alone... yes you are in the right tract... you be strong for your baby and don't forget to pray, you can make it. Believe in yourself.

deary, i know it's very hard thing to do, be strong in times like this when you're suppose to be w your loved ones. what saddens me is that the father of the child is not sure whether to take the resposibility or not... anyways, be strong... i belong to a very traditional family meaning you hav to marry the father of the child but for me i wo uld be better off w the child alone rather than be w somebody who'll just become another headache.... my advise for you would be, tell your family... they will get mad for awhile but believe me when the baby comes, it will be ok... family will never forsake their daughter/son no matter what.... be strong for your baby's sake & future... god bless

You need to do what is best for you and your baby but wont your parent support you at all. I know they may be mad at first but having a baby is a hard job and everyones needs soemone to help them intially. I mean is it that bad where you need to leave home and find temporary housing. Why doesnt he wasnt responsibility...he sure didnt mind making it. That just makes me sad, now he left you holding the bag and now you are lost. I hope that you can find an easier way for you and your baby. A baby is a blessing any way you look at it, and just cherish every moment that you are pregnant and every moment that you can hold your baby close to you...some dont ever get to have that special experience

hi. i think it would be a lot better if you open up and discuss your situation with your family. there's no way to cover it up - delaying the news (whether good or bad) doesn't even make any difference at all, you'll land on the same spot time and time again where you have to tell them everything. they might get upset for awhile, but still they remain your parents and you can definitely count on them whatever happens to you and your baby. you have to be honest on this one for your baby's sake, admit your mistakes and learn from it.

You are not relying on a man in order to survive with your child, and thats awesome! I don't think leaving your parents and telling them through a letter is a good idea though. Theres a good chance they'll be more than upset if you don't tell them yourself. They'll most likely be more understanding if you came forward and explained your situation.

You didn't mention how old you are but I am assuming under 18 because you talk as though you still live at home. Let me just tell you that I was adopted because the same thing happened to my mother. Unwed, pregnant and really no where to turn. I am 35 and just last year found her and thanked her for having me first of all, but secondly and most importantly not being so selfish that she gave me up for adoption. I am saying that that is what you should do, but being honest with your parents rather than keeping it from them will be so much better in the long run. I doubt anyone that reads this would disagree. Going through this without support from someone that loves you will most likely only lead to your own depression and negative thoughts about the situation and maybe life in general. Find a way, even if it is with a counselor as a mediator (someone that keeps the peace in the discussion) to talk to your parents about this. Hey, they love you. That's what scares you. Yes, they may be disappointed but that's not going to change the way they feel about "their" baby. Good luck.

Hi maxen. It's good that you're staying strong despite of the lack of support you're receiving. Your parents might get upset for a while but as soon as they see their granchild I'm sure their hatred will be gone, you'll be surprised as how a little baby can do big things like soften an angry heart. For the meantime, it seemed that you already made up your mind to live in the home for single mothers, you can find the support you need there. And if ever hopefully your parents wish for you to come back home, please do go back because they support you can get will be coming from your parents. Always drink your vitamins and take care of yourself. If you have any pregnancy related questions you could always post them here on myLot or you could pm me. I got pregnant before my fiance and I decided to get married to. Good luck.

Why not tell your family right now about your situation? Why leave a letter for them to read if you could tell them personally? They will know the truth anyway, right. And why go to a group home instead of staying at home? The best care you can get is at home with your family. I know its tough to tell your parent that your pregnant. But running away is even tougher. I know I'm a guy, and I will never know what it felt like being pregnant and alone. But I have face my wife's parents alone and their anger and take all they had to say in silence. When your wrong your wrong. But after that everything is ok. Family is still family, and family take care and support one another.

No matter how much you believe you can do it on your own, you still need your parents. I know telling them is hard but it is harder when the baby comes out and he has nobody but you to take care of him. I know you might not want to hurt their feelings but maxen7 they are your parents they cannot just leave you all alone this way. Never mind the father to be because he doesn't deserve anything from you and from the baby. You can live without him but not without your parents. I hope pride is not the thing that's preventing you to reveal to your parents about your situation. It won't take your anywhere. Proving something now is not your main business but giving the best life for your baby to be and you really need the most important persons in your life who can help you. Remember that we create our own problems and we cannot solve any of that with another problem. The decision is still yours. Trust in the Lord for all these.

I know that you are probably going through a rough time right now...its hard when you find out your are pregnant and you are not mentally prepared for it...but you sound like you are responsible enough to handle the experience..parents will react in a whole lot of different ways...here in Canada you don't need to be married to have a child...i guess thats just the difference in cultures...parents wouldn't be that upset if you were to be unmarried and pregnant...as hard as it may be, and as worried as you are I think you will get through this..your dad wont have a heart attack, by the time you have your baby, he might be very accepting and looking forward to being a grandfather..hope things work out for you...

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first baby. The scariest thing I had to do was tell my mother, mostly because I didn't want to see the disapointment in her eyes. She reacted worse than I expected, not that I want to scare you, but there is more. Once she got over the initial shock, she stood by my side, and when I had my baby boy, she loved him to pieces. When my older daughter got pregnant, she was already 21 but still living at home with me. I just hugged her, I didn't want to react badly. She lived with my husband and I till after her little girl was born, I wouldn't have missed it for the world. I even went in the birthing room and saw my granddaughter born. I think you should tell your parents, then outline your plans for them so they know you are taking responsibility for your situation. They may be upset and shocked at first, but that is understandable.

Listen sweetie, I am not sure how old you are and how close you are to your parents... but you shouldn't shut them out. Right now you need all the love and support you can get. They will be there for you and help you decide the right things to do. This shelter for single mom's, you should use it as a last resort. Don't run scared. No one knows what is going on. I am sure if you sit and talk to them about what happen, you will find that maybe they were upset with you, yes, but they want to help and support you. This boyfriend of your's, he needs to take responsibility. They are lots of laws that can help you get what you need from him and excellent information to help you out as well. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't do anything rational right now. You still have alot of time to make decisions. Plus you need to figure out how you will raise this baby. I know for certain, children are not cheap. They cost a fortune. Please think carefully of your decisions. You are not only effecting your life but this baby's life. A person who did not ask to be born. I hope l have helped you in some way or another. Take care and god bless. Sammbellina