What would you do?

No you were not wrong. You are your children's mother, your primary responsibility to them is to keep them safe. I would not give a flip what the other child's parents thought I would have sent him home packing and kept my children away from him. I did not allow it, nor did I let my boys bully. It's just not acceptable. I say kudos to you and well done.

I think you did the right thing. After the kid didn't listen I would have sent him home. I am not sure if I would allow them to play with the kid again or at least lay down the law and tell the child that if he came over to play he had to abide by all of the house rules.

I have no problem standing up for my kids when they are in need of it, but I also teach them to stand up for themselves as well, as someday in life they are not going to have someone there to help and that they need to be ready for that as well, I don't suggest they be a bully, but stand there ground when they believe they are being bullied and not be afraid to tell someone they are being bullied.

I don't think you were wrong. I am wondering though why this boy's parents find it offensive or mean to teach their children to behave themselves? I would tell his parents the same thing you told the boy. If he can't behave he doesn't need to play with your kids

I think that when the kids are being physically hurt then it is time for the parents to step in. If one is crying because they are hurting then the other child needs to know they are doing wrong. For petty squabbles I tend to leave them to sort it out themselves. In this case I would have told the boy off, and if he didn't take any notice I would have told his parents about it, as this did seem unecessarily horrible.

I think you're right, and I agree with you. I saw one boy hit my daughter once so I walked up to him and said I saw that. Please stop or I will take you home and report you to your mom. Right in front of me, he hit my daughter again. I took him home and reported him to his mother. She grabbed his arm, dragged him inside and slammed the door in my face. As I walked down the path, I could hear her yelling at him. I felt so guilty. I spoke about the incident a couple of days later with a friend of mine who also has kids. She said that this boy was and is known as a bully in the area. He picks on others who are smaller or weaker than him, and she said she thinks he's like he is because of his mother constantly yelling at him. Apparently his home life isn't so good. I too have seen people who stand by or remove their own kids from doing something they enjoy just because another kid is being mean and they don't want to cause any trouble. I think that's wrong. Their hearts are in the right places, but heck, I'd rather stick up for my kids and have them continue to play rather than bringing them indoors because of a mean kid.

you did right. most parent let there kids bully others and then when someone says something they are wrong. or if the kids being bullied stand up for themselve they are the ones everyone wants to punish. it isnt fair. and us as parent have a right to keep are kids safe.

I don't think you were wrong at all. After all, your daughter isn't old enough to defend herself. I would of been ticked off too. That's rediculous that he would treat a baby that way. How old is he? It doesn't matter. Some kids (some of mine included) are just mean in nature. And get a kick out of picking on the little ones. I think you did the right thing. And it was done in the nicest way it could be!

If you don't stand up for your child nobody else is going to. I think you did the right thing. We've had the same situation at my in laws because they live in a neighborhood with a lot of kids my daughters age. My MIL has no problem chastising the neighbor kids for poor behavior and sending them home, I think I learned it from her actually. If the neighbor says anything to you about it just kindly tell him you are trying to raise your daughter to share and be kind to others, and you understand that kids aren't always developmentally matured enough at young ages to grasp this, but you're putting forth an effort anyway. My son is your sons age, and he learns from watching his big sisters, so I can see where you're coming from, not only the bullying of your son, but also the example this other child is setting.

I cannot blame you for this at all - I hope he listened eventually! It is always clear when I have my kids friends that if they misbehave I will tell them no and if they continue they will get in trouble like my own kids and their parents will be told! Our own kids should not be made to suffer because other children are at their home - I would expect my child to be treated likewise at a friends home - they would also be in trouble when they came home! xxx

I think you did the right thing. I mean obviously your kids weren't having fun especially your daughter. I don't think that any parent should put up with other kids being mean to their children. If their kids can't stick up for themselves, then yes the parents should then step in and say something. I think that i probably would have told the child once and then walked to him his parents house and explained to his mother what he was doing. After all the way a child acts is a product of how they are raised.

Of course you are right. Although they are only kids of very young age, education must be done from the beginning, especially by the parents. Some parents just think the kids are too young and they don't know what they are doing. But fact is that kids are the most easiest to learn from the adults. If you didn't say it's wrong, he would think you are encouraging him to do so. That's very bad. So you did very correct thing.

I absolutely agree with you. Especially since the child's parents weren't there to correct him. If they had been there I think I would have talked to them about it and let them handle it. But since they weren't and you saw what was happening I feel like you were totally in the right to say what you did.

I think you made the right choice. It is afterall your job to protect your children.

My child too was bulliet in the past.She was to shy and quiet to stick up for her self so I use to stick up for her.I do think its just to do this as it can put a stop to it.

i thin you did what any parent would do. You stood up for your children. Don't let that little brat do such things to your kids. If his parents aren't teaching him properly, you don't have to allow him to play with your children.

To me,what you've done is quit okay.There is a proverb from my town that says"the way the owner of a calabash present his calabash is the way people will accept it.If you call it cala...parker,people will help you use it park dety things but if you call it cala....silver they will use it to serve dishies, even to the king".So i think you are the only one that has the right to declair that your daugher is a queen before people can help you treat her as a queen.

I think what you said was exactly the right thing to say - you didn't yell at him or anything, you just told him what would happen if he didn't stop being a a pain. I would have done the same as you & if you happen to be there & it happens again, you should just threaten to send him home where he wont have anyone to play with. It might make him think about not being such a brat in the future.

I think kids have their own world. I understand that you felt you kid was offensived by the boy. I am not sure if a 1 1/12 gril can speak. If so,you can communicate with her and ask about her feeling about this thing. And you should respect her thought. But if she is too young to speak out her feeling. It is better to let your daughter to go away that boy.

i wouldnt have been so nice i hate bullies (beat up a few to but that aint part of the discussion) i would have took him home to his parents and told his parents they should teach a lil humility to ther child it wont kill them and if they cant than next time he behaves badle whit my kids i will