Why Do You Want To Be My Friend?

I'm not really sure why people request to be my friend, but I figure that they must have found my name on something that I posted, and liked what I said, so they requested to be my friend. I also believe that there are lots of people out there that just ask and ask and ask many people to be their friends so they can have a long list of people as their friends. I don't like denying friends, so I always just accept them as my friend. There's only been one person that I ended up taking off my list, and that's because she was always posting up conversations with pictures of naked people in them, and I didn't really want to see that so I had to delete that friend. I like to have a lot of friends though because when I'm replying to conversations, I pretty much only use the "discussions from my interests" and the "discussions my friends started" sections. And the more friends I get, then the more topics I can choose from to respond in.

Why not accept them all and send them a PM to clear things out, you can delete them later on if they don't answer or they are not interested to be really "friends" and add people randomly.. I don't know about friends lists but I accept all those who request it, if I'm not happy with their discussions i don't respond to it, I guess it's not really about "friendship" and it's just a term, it's more of a small communities inside of mylot. anyway, I'm not sure about all this I just hate to "deny" anyone how comes to me :)

same way i feel about ppl asking for friends requests. and not then talking back to questions.

When I first started here, I started hitting accept to every request. But in a hurry I realized that it didnt mean that I would necessarily have quality discussions to reply to, nor did it mean my discussions would recieve replies. So I have become more selective when people make friends requests. I check out their profile and read discussions they have written and replied to. If they have common interests, or make quality discussions and replies I add them, if not I decline, or if I am not sure, I leave them pending until I see whether or not they become a valuable contributor on Mylot, or just sort of sink into the abyss. Your discussion reminds me, I need to go in and clear out some of those mistakes I made in my early days here at Mylot.

Hello Kelly, I am of the opinion that one more friend is better than one more enemy. This is also one of the main reasons I accept all friend requests, and liberally extend the same. Also, when someone makes a friend request, it is also in the hope that the new friend will be inclined to answer discussions he started. So why not? After all, it doesn't hurt to ask. The worst that can happen is to be rejected... back to square 1. ;P

well, i don't find any reason to choose a frnd, it very simle, if u realise u want to do frndship with the one u came across then go for it,n let the destiny deside what is good os bad, i do believe is that,"anything that happens, happens for the best."

First of all, I haven't requested you as a friend. I have a number of friends, most of them have never responded to anything I have written, so the only reason that they want friendship is the hope that I will respond to their discussions - some I do, and some I don't. What I do now, is only have e-mails from the ones who either respond to me, or who post intelligent discussions, the others I probably just ignore, and may delete eventually.

Some members do want to have a big friend list just to look important; however, that isn't why I joined this group. I look for common interests or questions that I thought were so interesting that I wanted to see more of them in the future. I do have several people on my friend list that don't have a lot in common with me, if you look at our interests, but many of us have interests that we haven't listed. I welcome people from any country, age or interests. My belief is I'll see a topic you have posted and respond. I hope everyone that reads this message and agrees with me sends me a friend request.

for me, friend is one who i recognize although only internet, and to become my friend, i have to know to what i recognize them. and hitherto this i still look for what is such with real friend. I Wish you become my friend because i wish older friend and more adult in thinking from me, because if me do mistake, you ready to tell is crummy. Friend comprehending us very difficult found, but if comprehending that friend which they wish. Forgiveness if my language less understood, because i'm use transtool. Otherwise use transtool, I can't speak like this. my education only elementary school, of course you know hot to my submit something to be discussed. I From indonesia

I think for a lot of people it is just a big "popularity contest." It's a bit like the kids on MySpace who collect several thousand friends, because it makes them feel validated and good about themselves. I have a lot of "pending" friend requests, too... most have not posted much and I am waiting to see if they are going to become regular contributors of ANY kind of quality content before I approve them. I am always loath to approve someone who's brand new and already has 100s of friends, because most likely the first thing that'll happen is that I'll get a bunch of referral links. And that just annoys me.

I like having you on my friends list. I sometimes look for people from Canada but so far I only have two. I am always happy to answer as many posts as possible, but I do agree with you it's much nicer to have people on your friends list that can and will answer our posts. Take care.

Well, I have never requested you as a friend and after reading your post, that is not something that you have to be concerned about. However, I know that I have come across you before. I think there are millions of reasons why a person may choose another person as a friend. Maybe they have seen something on your page that they admire. Or you remind them of someone. This sight, to me is different from Myspace, in that there are more opportunity's to expresss yourself and be heard. That being said, I feel honored when a person wants to be my freind, i may not have chosen them, but maybe I can learn from them. They could be a blessing to me somehow. I have never rejected anyone's request to be my friend on this site. Personally, I could use the feedback. Not only that, people who are not like you can give advice from a broader angle. If you fear deversity, then that is something that you must work on. I just really feel that this was not at all a nice or even appropriate thing to say. Since I know that I have seen you before, I am going to have to make sure that you are not a friend of mine, although, with you attitude, I find it very unlikely. The Bible says, He who wants friends, must first show himself friendly. You have looked at these peoples pages and judged them by what you saw, I sure hope no one ever does that to you.

I'm really open to any kind of friends. Actually even if I don't know them I add them to gain more friends. I think it doesn't give any harm to me.

this is why...you love karaoke as much as i do...for one, for another i have been reading through some of your discussions, or the headlines and i think you really have a wide range of things i would like to add to.

When I go to someone's profile, it is usually because I first liked their avatar, or I was impressed by a response they made to a discussion. Next, I would have noticed their star rating. If it is high, I probably would check out their interests to see if they were similar to mine and if I didn't find any weird discussions, I'd ask to be their friend. Sometimes I've asked just because they have a high star rating. I figure me rubbing shoulders with the best can't hurt! LOL

I wonder the same things alot of times!! I get alof or people wanting to be friends and when I look at their profile it is all about making money and no other interests, I deny them because I don't want a bunch of money-maiking opportunity e-mails. I would rather have friends that share my interests.

No I never requested to be your friend, but I hope you will give me a chanee. We about the same age, and may have the same interests. Look me up on my lot and see if I could enjoy knowing you!

OK,i am a newbie here and i've made more than 30 people as my friends.Like you,i hate denying friens cause i feel that those who want to make friends with you must have their reason. I have some friends who have not responded to any discussion i've made,but if i find that we have common interesting,i will also happyily make friends with them. You say,"if we have absolutely nothing in common,why would they even want to be my friend?"i think you must be have an outstanding glamour that interests the people who wants to be your friends. If i want to be your friends,i will tell you that i appreciate the discussion you've made,you and i have some common in our thinking. Ok,welcome to mylot.I want to be your friends also,but i am a chinese,and i am not good at English.

oh.. well..i think i am one guys of who want to make friends with you yap..? as a new here, when i post my first note here, the person who responsed my note first would always make me feel warm. i believe friends here would have a same feeling as me. just make a imagination, when you go to a new place you never been here before, the first person who talk to you will impress me much, because as a stranger here, i want friends here would like to make friend with me but not treat me as a stranger.. oh..i dont know what i really want to express about...i am a shy and sensibility guy....

Wow interesting topic. I can understand what you are saying here. However as this is a program for making new friend and meeting new people I would have thought that accepting new friends would be inportant to you. Baring in mind that if you find they are not quite the friends that you actually want to communicate with, you can always delete them. Sometime when you meet someone for the first time you dont always hit it off right away. It may take a few times of communication before you find out that they actually do have something in common with yourself. I would rather not be too quick to judge people as a whole whether they have the same interests as you or not, because you probably could end up missing out in meeting or communicating with some real nice and potentialy good friends. Please dont take this response the wrong way. Its only my view for what it is worth. Give people a chance in life to be your friend they final choice is yours at the end of the day!!! NOW LET ME ASK YOU SOMETHING!! would you like to become my friend?? Have A Great Day Sebs89