How can I overcome my shyness.

i was a very shy girl myself but gradually i've learnt to overcome it. i'll tell you my formula... to overcome shyness, first and foremost you have to learn to laugh at yourself. you see, why are we shy? coz we fear that people will laugh at us. instead start laughing at yourself before people laugh at you. say something like " you can't believe how stupid i'm to have done this and this" once you call yourself stupid, you'll see that it hurts less when people call you stupid. but of course, inside you must never believe that what you did was stupid. am i being to confusing? what i want to say is that be prepared that people will laugh at you and laugh with them but in your mind, be firm and confident of what you are doing. if you've said something wrong at the party, open up and say "what a wrong thing to say, but i always make such mistakes and have never learnt from them. earlier my mom used to tick me, now my wife ticks me..." so and so. gradually people will stop laughing at you and will even appreciate your sense of humour. it needs practice, but i hope this can be of use. let me know!

I was very shy and introvert myself but as I went on to play sports in my life , I came in contact with many people and this helped me getting bold. You need to get a circle for yourself. Either start playing snooker or pool or may be join a swimming pool Nobody feels bad if finds somebody is interested to talk to him/her. All people want others to show interest in them. You should start chatting also it's good to speak yourself out.

If a person can maintain a degree of calmness in a situation, then they are much more likely to be able to learn about how the situation works. However, if they are highly anxious and internally focused, both their emotional state and focus of attention will make it more difficult to pick up on subtle social cues.The other key point about overcoming shyness is that most of socialising is an unconscious process. That doesn't mean you should be asleep when you're doing it (tell that to people I speak to at parties ;-), it simply means that much of human communication is non-verbal. That is, 'it's not what you say, it's the way that you say it'.If you become highly anxious, this will tend to focus your conscious mind on your immediate environment, getting in the way of those unconscious processes.

well, if you feel shy to talk to your own friend, then i think you lack confidence inside... so like all people said, you need to reason out why are you feeling shy and for what reason do you want to feel shy!!!! grow your confidence level.... you really need lotsa confidence to achieve big goals in this world... by the way, i dont understand why and for what are you feeling shy.... you said you will avoid talking to a guy on the roadside but the picture which you have attached along with your discussion says you want to kiss a girl on beachside... well whatever it is, gaining good confidence is your first step... good luck....

I also feel the same. I am also a shy-type like you. I just overcome shyness by thinking that I am very lucky that I have been given an opportunity by God on a certain situation. Also, wen it comes in a performance, just think that you are doing it alone.

Originally, I was also in your situation, and worried about it. Now, I don't think it is necessary for us for us to start a conversation with some we really want to talk with. I am what I am. But if you avoid your friend, I can't see the reason. Just come over, and smile to them," wow, you guys disappear long time" and so on. just joke with them. If you meet someone you are not familiar, a silent smile or a nod is enough. If necessary, talk about the weather. It is polite for you to do so.

I'm shy too that is why I'm fond of visiting sites about overcoming shyness. I suggest that the first thing you do is determine the reasons for your shyness. Try listing all the reasons down. After you have done that, you will have a clearer direction regarding the things that you need to work on. Always remember that you do not achieve this overnight and condition your mind that you really have to work hard for it. Please visit this site, it will help you a lot. www.shynessonline.com