Does it bother you when...........

Wow I can't believe that. I think she should have just bribed the kid instead :P

I have to admit I am not the perfect parent, and I have threatened my children into behaving, but surely not with such harsh words. That would bother me too. I would say something more like "If you don't shape up, I will take you outside and we will leave without lunch." They know what outside means-a spanking. Although, strangely enough, I have never had to take them outside! I do agree with physical discipline, but don't have to do too often. Punishment and taking away priveleges works great for us most of the time.

yes i bother me, because how im going to feel if i am that child which she is going to be smack by his mother infront of everyone.

I agree with you completely . It makes you wonder what kind of parent this is and how often does she hit her children and for what reasons . If a child is whinny it is easy to just simply state that if they can't settle down then next time they won't to get to come out with you . Depending on the age of the child there may be a reason why he/she is more whiney on this particular day , it could be he/she is hot , tired , hungry or just plain bored . Threatening to slap a child is not going to resolve anything . I would say it would be better to try and distract the child in a converstaion , something amusing you see or just playing with the child .

yeah.. it's really bothering and i don't think that's right. it would really affect a child's self esteem. i'm really lucky to have parents who don't or never did that, to me or my siblings. although, i can't rememeber whining in public too. but even then, if there are things that my parents don't approve of or we sort of misbehave they would just give us "the look" and that would be enough, for us and for them. when we grew up a little they would talk to us in a separate room, away from other people and talk to us about what we did wrong and they would give us appropriate punishment. they didn't spare the rod, but they sure used it wisely that we don't really mind and we know that we deserve it. i'm really grateful to have such wonderful parents when it comes to discipline.

I do not have children, but it does bother me how some people talk to their kids. They set a bad example. What will a child learn if mommy dearest threatens to smack him? He learns that threatening people is okay, that's not right. Another thing is that if you talk to a child like that it could leave serious emotional scars. If you ask me, people should try actually talking to their kids. Children are not stupid, they can grasp more then you think.

Absolutley, it bothers me. There is no reason to speak to your child like that..any where...at home or in public. That is emotional abuse and can damage a child termendously! I see it all the time tho and it is so upsetting. First of all, you DO NOT speak to your child like that anywhere...but second of all...the parents can not even control themselves in public. That just shows the terrible qualities that these parents have. Discusting.

yes it does the parents have issues to deal with and that doesnt mean take it out on the kids

well yes it bothers me to see this. I see that all the time I have never done that to my child it would be too embarrassing. Sounds like the mother had a rough day but still sge shouldn't be that way to a child.

We all have bad days as a parent and if it was me having a bad day or the kids were whining I would have gotten my food from the drive-thru, and not gone inside. But I can relate totally I have lost my temper and said something ugly to my kids, I would feel bad for the mom also becuase I am sure she was at her wits end!! But overall it isn't right to talk to your kids that way.

My mother used to do that to me & my sisters. One warning to behave, then the pop. For us, the warning was usually enough to know she meant it, so we would usually settle down. People don't get away with things like that now. Everyone starts yelling abuse without knowing the whole story, especially after that Kmart incident several years ago. Personally, I never treated my daughter like that, there were too many other (nicer/better?) ways to get her to behave, in public or in the privacy of our home.

I was getting gas the other day and I heard a mother yelling at her kid using words I wouldn't use around most adults! I've been known to threaten my kids in public with a butt spank, but only when they've been so out of control nothing else would work. I can honestly say I've only spanked by kids a handful of times and never in public. Time outs and removal of privledges don't work for all kids in all situations, sometimes spanking is neccessary, but should never be done out of anger.

I hate when I see or hear things like that. I don't think it's appropriate for a parent to talk to their child like that. My kids, (now grown) were far from perfect, but they always knew to behave when we would go somewhere, otherwise we would just leave. After a couple times, they got the point and they were well behaved when we went somewhere, especially if it was somewhere they wanted to be.

yeah i agree with you...i hate mother who tell like that to their children...i've seen one before and i can't help myself to look the mother bad because she told her girl "screw you!"....what kind of mother is that...a mother should know what and where and how should she treat her children because they are only a kids...

I've always had issues with parents who seem to have moments of hating being a parent. Perhaps it comes from my having to try for 6 years before I had my first or from the fact that I've been close to not being around with my own kids because of cancer. Either way, I ALWAYS take the time to stop, think before I say a word, and weigh my words before I speak them. I will admit, I have said things out of anger but before my bout with cancer. Now I realize how lucky I am to simply be here with them.

Oh yes Ive heard that plenty of times and it does bother me. I dont have children but if I did I certainly would talk to them like that. Kids pick up on what you say to them all the time. So when these kids grow up they will talk to their children the same way.

I hthink that is because of stress that some parents speak harshly with there children..most of the time temper rule the parents with annoying children. This is really disturbing cause this may be the cause that some teenager grew up to be so violent and stigma to society.

I agree with you. I discipline my child too but I'm always fair and NEVER degrading. He's only 2 but I never call him names, never yell at him but I am firm and he knows there are consequences to his actions. I was at the supermarket yesterday and there was a whiny child with his mom too. I guess he wanted something and his mom didn't want him to have it and he was whining and crying and his mom yelled at him saying "stop acting so stupid. You're just being really stupid right now and I'm going to ignore you". That just made the kid cry more cos' his feelings are hurt now. I felt so sorry for the poor kid.

This definitely bothers me. I see this all the time. However, its not always just verbal abuse, I've actually seen parents hit their children and drag their children across the floor. I'm not one for confrontation so I usually don't say anything because its not my place to. However, if it ever got to the point where I saw mother beating their child, I would get involved. It seems to me that parents these days are a lot harder on their kids or maybe just kids are a lot more out of control. Either way, some of the stuff I've witnessed in stores, malls, restaurants, is not excusable!

I pity those children with kids like that. How can we help parents with bitter attitude? Maybe they're treated that way when they were kids. Maybe they don't live comfortably and project their feelings to to their kids. As for me, I may live comfortably or uncomfortably, I always treat my kids in a nice way, love them and show them how much I care for them. Life is too short to be bitter on anyone...