How would you rate a working mom to a simply stay at home mother?

I don't have housecleaning help. My house is always a wreck! It's just too hard to keep up with all my jobs and taking care of my daughter. Some nights I'm doing good to heat up frozen food for dinner!

Ooohhh!!! Don't worry, you're life will be better ahead. Thanks for the reply.

I agree with you. It isnt easy to be a full time mother and it isnt easy also to be working on both ways, especially if you don't have a maid/househelp around...Thanks for the reply...

Thanks for the reply.

yep and it never seems to end

yeah! you're right! its unending worthy home based responsibilities...

yeah i know! Stay at home moms got more loads of work all the time...

You're right! Mothers now days are not just born to be a plain housewife. They are a BIG help to their husband as well in looking for better means financially. Thanks for the reply!

Yeah you're right! Both need to work hard for their family's future. Its not that easy especially for the kids but we'd rather choose to hire a nanny than to see them starving...

Your totally right. Times are not like they were in the old days when it was possible for that to happen. It's sad that families almost always have to both parents working to make ends meet

They are and will always be in our lives...

Exactly! That's the main reason we decided I would stay home with our daughter. We didn't want someone else raising her.

Having a nanny around doesn'tmean that she's responsible in raising the kid. She will just be the companion of the kid while you're at work. That's why others prefer to ask any help from their relatives who can look after their kid. In that way, there's nothing to worry much on your part.

Having a househelp at home doesn't mean that they will be the one who will mold your children. They are just there to stand as your kid's protector while both of you are working.

Many mothers don't make the "choice" to work. It is just neccessity. If they don't work they can't pay the mortgage. It is a fact of life in a lot of big cities where the cost of living are very high. In Chicago a majority of the families have 2 working parents just to make ends meet. I am lucky enough to stay home but we had to give up some things--like living in Chicago. We had to find a cheaper are to live in. We had to give up having a house of our own (we rent an apartment). We only have 1 car and it is on it's last leg but we can't afford to get a new one. We don't go on vacations. Actually we rarely do anything that requires money (like an entrance fee to the zoo or museum). Christmas and birthdays are very slim (maybe 2 gifts each). And all of our clothes are bought at Wal-mart of the Salvation Army. But many people are not willing to give up their house and 2 cars and designer clothes, nor should they if they can afford it with both parents working. It is the choice of that family. But some other families have to have 2 working parents just to be where we are (which is at the poverty line) because you can't live off of minimum wage in this country.

Working is not a necessity because you do it wholeheartedly for a better purpose. It only becomes necessity if you are not contented with what you have. If you want to be blessed materially then both should work hard for this. But living with a simple things in life is much better and more peaceful...Anyway, its just a show off for friends having those things around. The simpler the better.

Yeah I know every mom has their choice of career out of their lives. But now days, i've seen much working mothers...But i am not against stay at home mothers, i also find it fulfilling to be at home...and for me, its worthy to be one...

My sis is a stay at home mom, she is also a creative memories consultant, and she loves it!! She has 4 kids and home schools them. She wanted to go to school for nursing but with 4 kids it was kind of hard for her, especially since her husband works out of town sometimes. I'm going for nursing too, but plan on working early hours (like 7-2) so i will still be able to take care of my kids.

There's nothing impossible in this world. It is US who makes things work. With proper time management, im so sure you'll be able to attain whatever goal/s you have set for you and your family. Being a mother of 3 hasn't been a hindrance for me, i did took time to study and finished two courses in computer and caregiving. And even i am a stay at home mom now, i find time to make some business, though i got a meager income, i know it still helps...I never stop on thinking for any possible additional source of income.

Sometimes, I was wondering why do women ned to finished their degree when they will be in fact choose to be a stay at home mothers. I have nothing against this however, isnt it wonderful that you also used what you have worked hard in school for the time being...than being a stay at home mother. You can use it a sort of a home based business. I don't think this will occupy all of your time.

I appreciate your reply. Thanks!

Staying at home is a lot of fulfilling work for your family. Twas hard if your income is not enough however, mothers can do much even at home. There more better ways to help your hubby financially....

Both comments have their own point of views...thanks for the reply.

wel u re welcome .....was wondering what do u think abt it:)

I agree with you. Moms don't just sit at home all day doing nothing. They kept of thinking of some other ways to help their husbands financially, and i am proud for such mothers who works the BEST for their families. Thanks for the reply!

Thanks!

In addition to the earlier comment/s, the first comment was quite confusing to me, thanks for the comment number 2, you give me some light on the issue. Well, being a working mother isn't that easy especially if you don't have a house help at home. You've got to do lots of things first at home before you can proceed to work. I did experienced this situation, and would you believe i only find time to relax in the office...

I don't agree with that. Well, the flexibility thing yes but, if you think about it, someone who goes to work gets to have regular breaks, just does the one job and isn't doing all the things involved with looking after kids or doing so much houesework(presumably because there is no one at home most of the time) so there is no way I can see that a "working mum" could have it any tougher than a stay at home mum.

thanks for the reply.

you are welcome

nice answer.

It seems to me that the children of stay at home mom's are usually better adjusted and happier in general. They also seem to excel in things like reading where they most likely get more one on one attention with mom at home. Just observations on my part. Personally, I think it's a shame that more mom's can't stay home with their children -- especially preschool age children.

Because stay at home can concentrate and focus better on their children especially on their studies compared to working mothers, who are so exhausted from work. Sometimes, they don't even have the time to check their kids' assignments because they went home late and they tend to bring their office work at home...No quality time most of the time...

Yeah you got the point! With the way things are doing in our economy right now, women/mothers are pushed to work, to help augment their finances...

You got a nice answer! Thanks!

It is but an old tradition and belief that women are born to be a stay at home.Now days exactly, women are career oriented. Sometimes they were women who got a nicer job compared to their husbands, which at times, brings unhealthy family relationship.

Life of a stay at home mother is a choice. Every work load will be harder to say if you're not happy doing it or simply kept on complaining. The ultimate break any mother would agree upon is a vacation for relaxation with the whole family. Sometimes, taking a break all by yourself is not worth it anymore...There's always your hubby, your son, your daughter around...

Ah ok. Whetehr stay at home mom or a workign mom, both have good roles in the family. They both have the same goal, and that both should be given the credit the most no matter what.

I wasn't saying that stay at homers are wrong...I just recently decided to stay at home. I was just saying that it is harder then people give them credit for.

Do you still have a daycare in your home? That is what I do right now. Just wondering!

That's what mother is all about i guess. But its a different thing for the kids to know if their parents are working or both have businesses or mom is just at home. Its a relief for them to know if after class, they know that they'll be home with their mom. I salute you for being a hardworking mother. I know your kids are very proud of you. And that soothes us. You both mentioned that you run a day care, how many kids do you have in a day?

No, my children are grown and gone now, but I do have an adorable 2 year old grand daughter! I went back to the work force when my youngest started high school.