what attracts a girl to an older man??

If there was no strong male presence while the girl was growing there's a big chance that she will be attracted to an older guy. It's like she's looking for a father figure because it's something that she missed while growing up.

I think it's mainly the security they get with older men. Older men are more stable. Stable financially, maturity etc. Plus they got a lot of practice through experience while these women have barely started yet, so they know well how to entice a woman. I'm not saying it's bad, I'm not saying it's good either. I just hope these things are real. For most of it isn't.

i think some girls are attracted to an older man because they do believe that they are most responsible and they can handle difficult task or responsibilities as well as they are mature enough...some girls are looking to a father figure maybe she came from a broken family or he grown up without a father at her side...

i cant say bcoz i m not a grl so i cant say about their thinking and i dont think so that grls have attraction towards older man they attract towards handsome man

Intresting discussion aissha well i think the reasons women are attracted to older men is because firstly it is a sense of security then they think they are experienced enuf to handel their tantrums and thirdy they know that they are in good experienced hands and their future is secured monetarily as well as emotionally cos older men are mature individuals and that much mentally stronger and emotionall stronger over all security is the bottom line

DOLARS,a bunch of them, and lately Euros. What else , if not Money, presents, cars, jewelery or so called by many woman, Security.

I think women like an older man because an older man is because they feel that older men are more mature than a younger man or someone closer to their age. They might think that an older man is more intelligent as well and has experienced more in life than younger men. They may feel that he is more stable than someone her age as well. Those are some of the things that I think a woman likes in an older man.

She may not have had a father figure in her life or got on well with her father she may just like older men.

I will have to say I am one of the women who finds older men more attractive. And I agree to those that said it wasn't about having a father figure at all. It really isn't, I also am very close to my dad so it is not about looking for someone to play his role. I think it is because I like guys to be more mature and decisive. Those that know what they want in life and how to get it. I am not so decisive myself, so I would not want someone who would have to rely on me for decision making. Another thing is that older guys, well I am not speaking for all, have been through a lot of stuff, relationships and the like, they tend to be more serious with life rather than wanting to explore their options, because they've been there and done that. Which makes them more stable partners.

It may be because of father figure issues but I think there is another reason a younger woman would be attracted to a older man, he is mature enough to treat her like a lady.The older man will take her out to dinner.He will romance her.Maybe it is because a older man may have more money. And they are more patient. they won't expect you to go too far too soon.

What attracts anyone to anyone. My husband is actually several years younger than me, and my brothers wife is older. We both seem to have very stable marriages. So who knows. Money, poer prestidge, genuine attraction.

I am with a man that is 12 years older than I am. I don't look to him as a father or older brother etc.... I had a father, I have an older brother. I see him as my equal. All of my friends in general are older than I am by several years. I find that for the longest time growing up the people in my age group were stupid and immature. I had very few of the same interests as my "peers" and found it hard to make friends because we just weren't on the same level. I have always gotten along better with older people and have many many wonderful friends that are 5 to 15 years older than I am. I have thought about why I never really identified with the kids my age and this is what I ahve arrived at...: my siblings are at least five years older and then five years younger than I, as a child I played by myself and was surrounded by adults. I grew up very quickly and when I was 13/14 years old I was discussing politics, religion, reading the newspaper etc.. while others who were my age were just putting away their barbies for makeup.

Usually when a younger women is attracted to an older guy its because he is stable. He's able to buy her the things she wants without the pressures of money. Most younger women who date older men that I know of is becaus of them being mature... and secure... the only problem is most men who date younger women have established families... and are usually cheaters

For me is power and money. An older man who is very influencial or powerful and has a good deal of money is attractive to me. Not to say that I am gold digger but I am not attracted to older men that are not rich or powerful. Now younger guys could be dirt poor as long as they look good. An older man should look decent too.

I do not think it is a father figure issue,but im sure it could be in some cases,but thats not the main reason.The main reason younger women are attracted to older men is because older men treat their women like a queen.They are usually settled,have a little money,and have been through enough women and relationships to learn that women are to be treasured and not to be taken for granted.These men have been though a few things many have lost their women because of their actions and they know now what women need,they treasure them,they buy for them and the woman is treated better than a younger man will treat them.Most older men that have younger women appreciate that women and she makes him "Look Good" and by this time in their life they know that women will not put up with their junk...I have a friend that has an older man he is sooooo good to her..My daughter is another one that likes older men,I also know another woman that chooses the older men...My ex husband married a younger woman and he treated me like crap,but i left him and he appreciates her cause he knows women will leave if not treated right,she married him for security....

i have no idea ... i would never be attracted to an older man ... but then there are some who are and maybe its security or they need a father figure or maybe its the money .... who knows ...

I was with a man 22 years my senior. I can tell you straight up that I was, and still am, very close to my father and was NOT looking for a father figure. Why should there be a psychological angle to it? I fell in love with a man who was mature enough to treat me with respect - age doesn't mean a THING! We split because a lot of very narrow minded people subjected me to abuse severe enough to warrant me too scared to go outdoors. They thought it was disgusting, but then what the hell do they know? They formed an opinion without getting the facts. I've never forgotten that man. He was wonderful to me and I can only hope that some day, he finds someone who's right for him. He deserves nothing less.

In India there are arranged marriages mostly. In arrange marriages what parents look for is a stable family. A teen is never stable ( leave today's scenario that teens are earning more than 30,00 rs. per month as salary ) and people who are around 28 to 31. So if a girl of 20 to 22 is getting married it's obvious that guy will be some 28 to 32 . Even my dad is 60 and mom is 50 only , they have age difference of 10 years. Now coming to attraction , yes females find guys with attitude more smart and handsome. Attitude and smartness gets high when your pockets are hot. I think you can get me . Money doesn't come easy to teens. Okay, I also agree with you that this is not worth as my dad and mom are still fighting irrespective of their ages lolz.

Why does there have to be a deeper reason to it? People fall in love with who they fall in love with. Just because it's not in line with the norm of society means they have psychological disorders? I think not.