How serious in on-line cheating?
@mossjanicelynn (1240)
United States
10 responses
@silver_shaddow (1204)
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13 Apr 07
online cheating, offline cheating, checking other women in a bar, drooling over a face in a magazine etc is all serious in my honest opinion. what the hell is a wife's job if her man is always looking away??
Cheating is NOT forgivable, no matter how you slice it. However, it depends on the degree of that cheating...
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@mossjanicelynn (1240)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Happy to hear a man's opinion on this issue. Because my husband feels the same way. Saying someone sings good does not necessarily assume that they are talking about the way they look. Or commenting on something someone does well. It's a opinion and that's is all. Saying they want to jump someone's bones is another story. What if your wife's best friend was bi-se*ual and only liked the same gender as he was? And they went shopping together or out to eat?
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@silver_shaddow (1204)
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13 Apr 07
Yes, I am a man and I DO know what I am talking about. Saying somebody sings nice, is NOT always true. A man is a man. He checked out her voice, he also checked out her @$$. If it's on display, it's for everyone to see. When one is married or committed, the only @$$ he is suppose to check is his wife's. He took an oath to that. She did too.
Temptation is pretty much OUT there. Falling in love, sleeping with someone, one night stands, having a "moment" or a fling, can happen at anytime with whomever. Don't ever say this will NOT happen to me, cause it WILL if you turned your back to it. So just be READY for that.
TRUST. Trust is the #1 ingredient in ANY relationship. "Knowing who to trust" is the most important element. You have to know that. And IF you don't know that, stay out of sight and watch, until you DO KNOW. Having to KNOW, is better than being taken for a fool.
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@prettiemammie (835)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Cheating is cheating, it is a sin. Usually it is done behind somebody's back or without the concerned person knowledge about it. Or being the last to know. Is it forgiveable, I would say yes. But don't expect to be forgiven the next day, it will take time to forget and accept what happened.
For time heals all wounds.
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@mossjanicelynn (1240)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I really like your way of thinking and couldn't agree more with you on the subject. Some people don't even know that it is a sin to think about the subject of cheating or being with someone else.
@rodeotexas (1153)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I agree with you on this one. It can be foriven but not the next day. It will take time and for some they never get over it. Some never forget what happens either.
@missybal (4490)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Cheating is cheating no matter where or how. I could never forgive my husband completely even if the only cheating he did was talking dirty to some girl online. However there may be a slim chance that I could move on and we could repair our relationship if it did happen. It all depends and he would definatly have to stop. I wouldn't let him near a computer any more. Luckily I do not have that problem. My husband doesn't even so much as look at other woman. He truely has eyes only for me. At least so far...
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@mykykko (424)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
silver shadow is right.whatever way a person cheats it is still cheating what else would you call that.you were asking if it is fogiveable,for me yes.i myself did cheat many years ago and i was being forgiven.i did that for a reason,i believe that a person cheats for some reasons,i can't give details regarding that and im not also saying it in general since i've had experienced it,but cheating is forgiveable.we are just humans,open for mistakes...and from those mistakes we learn...
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@silver_shaddow (1204)
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13 Apr 07
I respect your courage to saying that openly. And your man is a very kind for forgiving you.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
14 Apr 07
In my opinion, online cheating is just the same as cheating. Eventually you would want to meet this person and it would become real. Even if it were to continue to be online cheating, it is cheating nonetheless, because you are cheating with your heart, eyes and ears and sometimes voice! So, where is the line drawn? Cheating is cheating, no matter how you slice it. If you have forgiveness in your heart to forgive a cheater, then sure, but if you don't and your trust is destroyed, then no. I personally have no idea how I would react. It depends on the person and the situation.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
13 Apr 07
i think online cheating is just as serious as in person cheating and sometimes i think it hurts more. i don't know if it is forgiveable i guess it depends on the person. if it happened to me the trust would be gone, and while i might be able to forgive, i would forever be suspicious and that would just eat away at me.
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@xoShannonNCxo (146)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Cheating is cheating and I would leave in a heartbeat without ever looking back if it happened! I have too much respect for myself to ever put up with that crap. I don't think it's even close to being forgiveable!
@ninjakitty (17)
• United States
15 Apr 07
When you truly love someone, you can forgive them for anything, that's what it means to love someone unconditionally. Despite the pain it would cause you and the doubt, you would have to look at the whole picture and ask them as well as yourself why your spouse would do this. It may not be as sinister as it seems, perhaps they were acting out in this manner to deal with their own insecurities. Either way it happened for a reason, and both of you will have to work together to get through it and solve your problems. Is it better or worse than "live" cheating? Well, cheating is wrong either way, but I have to say I would much rather deal with an online infidelity than a live one.
@hollie1974 (119)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Cheating is cheating, that's it. I think that if you are with someone whether it be online and in RL, if you are spending time that is suppose to be for your spouse, then you most ceratinly are cheating.
