Please help me guyssss....

Its so tough vangie to answer your question... Well, as i have said, its not bad to think of any possibilities (good or bad).. but dont necessarily stick to it. And instead of thinking negative things, spend your time for good things because you can't turn back time. The answer to your questions will be found in both of you. Communication is so important. And so it is more likely to be transparent in everything your minds think and plans. Try to talk things in between you and plan and share what to plan for your relationship.

If you are unhappy then you should move on. There is no point in worrying and being miserable in your relationship, if you feel that you are taken for granted then it is not a good relationship to be in.

Hi vangie, you didnt actually mention the reason why it's been 4 months since you and your bf last see each other. Is it because you're in a long-distance relationship or he's just too busy to meet up with you? Whatever's the case, it is just normal for you to feel the way you do right now. If the reason why he doesnt have time for you is he's just too busy "fixing" things for his self or settling his priorities,then i think you should just go ahead and find yourself someone who will prioritize you more. Even if he is fixing some things for himself, 4 months is already a long time to fix whatever he's trying to fix.Besides you're his gf,shouldnt at least he have time to visit or meet you at least once or twice a week?? 4 months is definetely a long time and i suggest you dont waste your time and wait for God-knows-how-long.Communication is very important in a relationship and if one of you dont have time for the other, then the relationship is definitely bound to fail.

Wow! That's a realllly long time. To be honest, I don't know if I could be that patient. Is it a long-distance relationship? If yes, then I can understand somewhat. But if it's not... then I would want to know some things. Why haven't you seen him? It's a long time to wait. Since I don't know what's really going on, I can't say for sure what I would do. But if it's going to continue to be like this... you might want to ask yourself some questions. Do I want to be in a relationship with someone I can't see and can't be with much at all? Am I (and is he) being honest in this relationship? You might want to think about... how old are you? How old is he? Is this "forever"? Are you *sure* that this is the right person for you? Because that is a really long time to wait. And if he isn't The One... you both might as well get on with your lives. Find happiness alone, or with another person ~ someone you can see, talk with face-to-face, laugh with, have fun with, and generally be happy with. It's probably going to take some soul-searching... and maybe some communication with your boyfriend. But I think that if you really think about it... you already know in your heart what you need to do. Blessings, Gwen ******

I am responding to you because you asked for help. However, I have some basic questions about what happened to you and your boyfriend. You said you understand that he needs to fix things for himself. Did he tell you that? Did he ask you for space because he needs to fix things for himself? Or do you just see that? Do you continue to text and talk like before? Or are these now done with less frequency? And what kind of problem does he have? Does it involved his relationship with other people? If your boyfriend asked for space, you should just let him have his space. He wouldn't have asked if he didn't have pressure. Focus on some other interests. Get involved in projects where you will be busy and involved in helping other people. The fact that you are still texting and talking on the phone means your boyfriend understands your need and is still taking care not to cut you off abruptly. But be less dependent on his texts and phone calls. Focus on other interests. Why are you tired of your relationship? Was there always a problem getting together with him? Then maybe you should just move on. He will find you when he is okay and has "fixed" his situation. Maybe you should be happy for the space. Maybe you should also take the time to rethink your relationship. We need to be see that we do not remain in a relationship which is no longer healthy. Does the relationship make you a better person? Does the relationship make the other a better person? If the answer to these questions is "No", then just give up the relationship. It may be initially difficult to do this but in the end you will see that it will be good for both of you.

erm. .in my opinion... you have to be frank to him.. actually.. relationship is a two way communication.. it's not just you.. when you both agree to have a relationship.. then.. it's no longer your problem alone.. do you agree? you two should sort things out.. but discussing.. always be sincere in a relationship.. don't doubt.. put 100% trust.. and you'll find that a relationship is as simple as ever :)

You used the word I, HE, ME, HIS, HIM more than you used the word WE. Which brings me to questioning your intention of having a boyfriend at all. Do you want someone who will wait on you head to foot all day? Do you feel neglected whenever he spends sometime by himself? Are you unhappy because you can't speak to him all the time? Not to be judgemental but your posts kind of strikes me that you're a little selfish. Relationship is about give and take or compromising, there are times when you really can't spend the whole day talking or just staring into each others eyes. You're not married yet and even if you are married, both of you still have to maintain your individualities and you won't be able to do this if you're together or talking 24/7. I've been there and beleive me, relationship takes hard work if you want to make it last, if you're being unhappy with the shallow reasons you have then It hink you have to end the relationship because you're not ready yet. You're just excited of the idea of having a boyfriend when in reality you're not ready for the real deal that relationship brings.

Honestly, if you feel you have things that yuo want to ask and say to him, I would say do it. You're not going to get the answers if you don't ask. Talking may make your partner realize that he's not doing right by you. If you're not satisfied with the answers you DO get, then I'd suggest breaking the relationship off and starting again with someone who will respect you and treat you right. If you're not happy why stay in the relationship? If you're feeling like you're being taken for granted, then it's definitely not a healthy relationship to be in.

paranoid?well maybe in a way because you love him. you missed him, you need him all for one reason because you love him. a long distance relationship is so hard to handle specially if the other partner feels that she/he is taken for granted already, thats where misundertanding starts. 4 months is a bit long period of time my dear. its ok to wait but the question is ..is he worth the wait?..does he have a good reason why you two are not seeing each other?...does he still often do things like before or he change?....do you still feel his love?....or are you still happy with whats going on with your relationship?.... if he is worth the wait, if he has a good reason, and he is not changing, and if you still feel that he loves you and if you are still happy with the relationship then wait for him sis. time will come what you want to happen in your relationship will happen at the right time. you should talk to him about your real feeling. if he really loves you, he will understand. and lastly, pray sis and everything will be alright and am just here you know that. just keep on moving sis...go go go....muah muah muah godbless

You certainly have a problem there if you haven't gone out for four months. It isn't normal for a relationship, I think. If you are already dissatisfied with the way your relationship is going then its for the better that you talk it all out with your boyfriend so that you can resolve whatever it is that needs to be resolved in your relationship to make it work out. I believe that a relationship is a two-way traffic, both partners give and take. Thus you have as much right to ask him for understanding as he has. So I don't think you are being unfair at all in asking him for understanding. You both have the right and the privilege to hear each other out. I have always believed that open communication is one of the factors that make a relationship truly work. And perhaps when you've finally talked, you'll find out that you can actually help him fix whatever it is that needs fixing in his life.

I understand your feeling. I thinks you may feel confuse or unsecure because both of you only spend time talking on the phone but not the real time being together. May be I suggest to go for a short weekend trip to somewhere farway, like a highland resort, a beach chalet, just a place for two of you. I find it very helpful because during that period, he is all yours!

if u ask me that is really unfair.I think he owes you an explanation why he does not visit you or make plans of seeing each other.You should talk about it. Maybe he feels the same way that you do.Guys usually try to escape confrontations.sometimes you just have to read between their actions becoz they cant tell it directly.well that is just my opinion.You still know your bf best.Wish you can find your answers :)

hi. all i can say is that you have to talk to him. that's the single best advise i can give you and believe me, it works.*wink* but then again, you have to have an open mind, have better friends around you, and a wiser love for yourself. i've been there, and it wasn't easy..but i've moved on and i've never been happier! just BE HONEST girl, u won't go wrong. =)

Well this might sound harsh to you but I think you should move on. We dont have all the time in the world to be waiting for one individual so why not move on and find someone that wants what you do. Personally to me it doesnt sound like he's in to much of a hurry to be with you so I would be alittle paranoid if I was you. Just put it all out on the table and tell him if he wants you then things have to change but if not then maybe you guys should part ways before someone really gets hurt. Good luck and hope all works out for you.

I think the situation is quite natural. i mean you are quite justified in this situation. you can't get him near you or can't see him. its getting you wait for him. In life when we wait for someone or something, after a certain period of time, we get frustated. although this time span varies ftrom person to person.So I think you should request him to manage hardly to meet you once so that you don't feel bad. Hope this gives you happiness.

give him his space! if you are too doting he might get fed up of you. i know how you feel about the relation. you want to be glued to each other forever! that is not practical and does not work that way. your affinity towards your spouse should be equal all the time. or it fades into hatred very soon....

Are you miss him or get bored with him? Man need time for his self and his friend too, and some man don't want make commitment very early. Just enjoy your relationship with him, if he really love you he will looking for you and say he miss you so much. Like my ex bf, after i said that i wanna broke up then he call twice a day just for talking with me. Relax girl

I can understand you now 'cause I came across the same problem, it's just boring for me to sustain a love. If you just feel uncomfortable about this relationship, just stop torturing yourself and speak straight, if you really love him much and feel that you can't lose him, just love him with your heart, understand him, support him. once you make your decision, just move on and don't waste too much time on it. wish you good luck!