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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba @DaddyEvil Thank you so much for the new insights! We did, but we didn't get anywhere. He advised us to borrow some money from a relative. I told him to wait until my salary was paid (for some reason it was delayed last February), but he "couldn't" bear the...

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

For the past three weeks, I've been taking care of my younger sister who was hospitalized. I realized that I might have the talent to be a caregiver. Even though it was challenging, it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. I...

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Eva Russilahiba It's really tough to take care of someone who is ill. It's a noble job, but it can take a toll on the caregiver's health and wellbeing if they don't take care of themselves too. I hope your grandmother gets well soon.

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

For the past three weeks, I've been taking care of my younger sister who was hospitalized. I realized that I might have the talent to be a caregiver. Even though it was challenging, it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. I...

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Eva Russilahiba Yeah, you're probably right Taking care of my sister in the hospital wasn't that hard because she's not the type to give me a hard time. I guess it's different when you're dealing with people who have different personalities and attitudes.

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba @DaddyEvil The age of consent in Indonesia is also 18, but our society is very attached to the concept of filial piety, as I explained in another comment. Unless one gets married or migrates for work or study, it's very rare to encounter a child living apart...

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba @Icydoll Thank you

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba @DaddyEvil I've always had this dream of living on my own... Just having my own space and independence... But my dad just wouldn't let me. He kept saying that it's too expensive to support two households, but I knew that was just an excuse. I mean, I'm...

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba @LadyDuck Just wondering, is it okay to feel like my father takes things for granted sometimes? I guess it's also tied to our cultural emphasis on filial piety. Would love to hear your thoughts on this.

4 Mar 23

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba @Icydoll My sister's still in college, so she can't really contribute much financially. You're right. I think it's time for me to have a serious talk with him about it soon.

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Arya @yoalldudes (35035) • Philippines 4 Mar 23

I got one cute bag for my daughter. She will borrow the others though LOL I got hungry so went to eat at a food corner across the street cost me less than 2 dollars. Next week hope to get some shoes. The owner said there will be...

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Eva Russilahiba @yoalldudes It reminds me of that one time I went to a thrift shop a while back to buy a jacket, but the prices were absurdly high for used items. It's a popular thing among teenagers nowadays. Is it normal for them to mark up the prices like that? I was...

4 Mar 23

Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba I'm really starting to feel the cultural gap now. It's like over here, it's just expected that you take care of your parents when they get old, whether you live with them or not.

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba I had the same thought, but I haven't mustered the courage to bring up the topic yet.

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba Hopefully... It's tough when things get tense at home.

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 4 Mar 23

I feel so frustrated right now. Dad is blaming me for falling behind on rent this month, even though he's working too. I'm the eldest daughter, so I guess he thinks it's my responsibility to take care of everything. But I've been...

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Eva Russilahiba We never discussed how we were going to split the rent for the month. But somehow my dad just assumed that it was going to be my responsibility since I've been working It's really frustrating because I'm trying my best to contribute, but he...

4 Mar 23

Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 22 Apr 22

Yesterday, a package arrived securely at our address. We received it from a distant relative who lived across the island. The box is full to the brim with my favorite baked cookies. There is nothing wrong with the chocolate one,...

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Eva Russilahiba Do you often eat them?

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 22 Apr 22

Yesterday, a package arrived securely at our address. We received it from a distant relative who lived across the island. The box is full to the brim with my favorite baked cookies. There is nothing wrong with the chocolate one,...

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Eva Russilahiba That sounds yummy!

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 22 Apr 22

Yesterday, a package arrived securely at our address. We received it from a distant relative who lived across the island. The box is full to the brim with my favorite baked cookies. There is nothing wrong with the chocolate one,...

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Eva Russilahiba @sathviksouvik You're welcome

24 Apr 22

Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 22 Apr 22

Yesterday, a package arrived securely at our address. We received it from a distant relative who lived across the island. The box is full to the brim with my favorite baked cookies. There is nothing wrong with the chocolate one,...

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Eva Russilahiba @LadyDuck That's my sister's favorite, too! I have to say it's delicious.

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 22 Apr 22

Yesterday, a package arrived securely at our address. We received it from a distant relative who lived across the island. The box is full to the brim with my favorite baked cookies. There is nothing wrong with the chocolate one,...

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Eva Russilahiba @kareng It causes middle-income family like us lots of headache since most of our food are fried.

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 22 Apr 22

Yesterday, a package arrived securely at our address. We received it from a distant relative who lived across the island. The box is full to the brim with my favorite baked cookies. There is nothing wrong with the chocolate one,...

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Eva Russilahiba @sinari That's a lot! Have you emptied them all? Yes, we really enjoyed it! In fact, we've finished one jar and moved on to the other

24 Apr 22

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Eva Russilahiba @thehazelsister (417) • Sidoarjo, Indonesia 22 Apr 22

Yesterday, a package arrived securely at our address. We received it from a distant relative who lived across the island. The box is full to the brim with my favorite baked cookies. There is nothing wrong with the chocolate one,...

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Eva Russilahiba @LadyDuck I'm sure you have your own favorite cake that you enjoy, Anna

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