Do you believe in the saying 'You always hurt the one you love'?

That saying "You always hurt the one you love" has a follow up like this "Its better be hurt by enemies than our own friends". The latter explain the reason behind the first quotation. We hurt the one we love because its harder to take the pain coming from our own love ones which we expected not to do hurtful things unto us. And when that happens we feel betrayal that torn our heart apart.

It isn't usually intentional, but it's so easy to accidentally hurt someone you love. Looking at it from the other side, if a stranger hurts you, you forget about it pretty soon. If someone you love hurts you, it leaves a sore spot in your feelings for awhile.

I suppose two people living close together are bound to hurt each other once in awhile.. sometimes by omission.. I think we should realize this and make allowances and focus on loving and considering each other more.. :))

Tis better to hurt ones you do not know than ones you do know but when upset it might be hard not to hurt the one you love or ones you do know because if they try to help or something you might accidentally take your anger out on them.

Well, it's also a fact that we take our Loved one's for granted. People even quite often will treat strangers better than their Loved ones.

I was oalways hurt with the one i love..but i never hurt the feelings of my loveone ..because i love her ...she should comforted ,well treated and never disappointed.i can't cheat my loveone thats why were staying longer and longer for the rest of the days...

that's so hard to think about. i had been avoiding your discussion and yet, i kept on stumbling on it. hehe. gosh. too difficult to remember i always hurt the one i love. i guess it's so true. i always hurt my boyfriend a lot. not everyday though. but i hurt him even if i do it unintentionally. maybe because he's the person i always talk to and spend much time with. that's why it's him i always hurt. i should try and renew my ways and instead... i should be loving him more than hurting his feelings. our loved ones deserve happiness in life and we should give them that.

Obviously it's easier to hurt people who love you, sometimes, because we're human we tend to deliberately hurt people we love to test thhem.

I dont belive that i always hurt my bf as he feels that i always do it but i think not always it sometimes I dont to like to hurt him but life is not our hand sometime such stituation is there where we can handle it

I do belive that this is true. When u are upset u usually take it out on the people that u love the most even though you know that it is wrong. I know that I usually takes it out on my bf since we are living together and when he is frustrated he takes it out on me. However we always work things out, and never hurt eachother badly...

Yeah I agree with this also. That if yo hurt the one you love it shows.

That is true because if I did not love or care deeply for someone I couldn't care less what they said or did.

That is what i have always heard..You are probably right about what you said,we always hurt them because they love us too.I think a lot has to do with the fact they are close to you and when you come home from a hectic day at work ,your loved one is the one that will be there and it is easy to vent on them...

I guess this saying is so true... You always hurt the one u love mos.t.. It because of love, care and sensitive... Very often we care too much, to even notice we upset our partner...

yes I think this is soooooo true.. If you didn't love someone its almost impossible for them to hurt you.. so yes this would have to be one of the most believable sayings for me..

Well, that makes sense. I guess that is how you know for sure that someone can and does love you back.

well, yes this may be true. the people will get hurt because they care for you. besides if that person does not love you back, they will not get hurt anyway.

I think it's more likely to omit "always" coz i believe its not constant that we hurt the one we love. It is just an effect of our being human to commit mistakes and that its unintentional. We are dynamic and so we keep on changing from time to time. I mean, we are being influenced by our surroundings, we interact and react. And in this sense, if we only realized how much we loved that someone, we won't let ourself nor anybody hurt him/her as well. Because the pain out of it is by no means felt by us as we are affected.

Generally people feel comfortable with loved ones and their guard goes down. Unfortunately, when you are not "on your best behavior" you tend to abuse those who love you becasue they are safe. At least that's how I'm looking at dealing with my teens right now anyway LOL