How to make your marriage adultery-proof?
By beauty_ph
@beauty_ph (2749)
Philippines
June 5, 2007 6:16pm CST
This is the title of the special edition article in Kerygma Magazine.
Were you able to read the article. I guess this will greatly help married couples to make their marriages successful.
One of the statements the says: "Shatter the myths and learn the infedilitybusters that can help keep your relationship strong and secure."
I was luckily to have my parents both together for more than 35 years now. Unlike most of the families in other countries where divorce rate is high, I was a witness of how they were able to survive the imperfect world to have a perfect love.
Even if I am very much a family-oriented person, I still have dounbts about myself if I can be able to keep a marriage. Right now I am single maybe because I am afraid to be hurt again.
I just want to share this article and magazines to the married couples who are interested. Please share your ideas too about keeping up marriages.
God bless every family! Have a great day to all mylotters and specially to my dearest friends.
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12 responses
@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
In all truth I do not think there is any way to gurantee that your marriage will be adultery proof. However, by being good friends, sharing everything and building up a huge trust base can go a long way in making this happen. I wish that this is what had happened in my marriage, but we all live and learn.
cheers,
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
This article included some proactive steps to do it. You are right my friend, it has something to do with working for it. Like what you mentioned about sharing with the partner the things you two can do to help keep the marriage adultery-free. Thank you for supporting my discussions. God bless my friend!
@nixtickleme (349)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Honey I don't think there is anyway to proof a marriage. No, a marriage needs to be completely built on trust and honesty.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
We all have different beliefs. We have different ideas and faith as well. I just wanted to share the article so that those who wanted a grat marriage life, can achieve what the article have said.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
I am also lucky in terms of having parents that are so close to each other. They have just retired from their respective jobs and they are beginning to live a life with no work and pressure. The only problem that my parents are encountering is my mom having her chemotherapy. It is here that I saw the dedication of one another to each other. My father beeing the only one to serve her and nurse her, despite everything they still stick with each other. On the other hand my mother also serves my father the best she could even she is in her worst condition ever. When she was stronger and was capable she was the one who really took care of her when my Father had almost a heart attack. She was the one who took noticed that my father was not in good condition. I am really thinking that they are surviving because they really love each other and they would fight for their lives just tobe together.
The only fear I am concerned is that when the time comes that one of them will have to go, I really do not know how will they be able to cope up with it. Its a sad reality but we have to accept that someday they have to separate and hopefully be reunited again in afterlife.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Most Filipino couples stick with each other no matter what happens. I can relate to you with retiry parents. My mom recently have a stroke. My dad is there for her. I just can't imagine if one of them pass this life. I have been praying for the fast recovery of my mom. I know my dad is experiencing so much pain. Because I myself is in pain seeing my mom's condition.
Thank you so much my friend for sharing one of the Philippines great relationship that with your parents. I do hope you continue the love your parents have imparted to you for your children. God bless!
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@aj2006 (1534)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
I came from a broken home,at present I have my own family to take care now.. Being able to surpass the turmoils of my family, the experiences I have been through.I am a better person now, I have a lovely daughter and a wonderful husband, I share with my husband.. the hardships I had in the past and someday ,I will share it with my daughter, I want it to be an inspiration to fight for life, to fight for what is right in life. .. I know that MY FAMILY TODAY will be guided by GOD for I always seek his loving ways for us to be together always.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
One secret for an adultery-free marriage is making God the center of the family. Broken homes are sometimes caused by being self-centered or being selfish.
After every trial comes glow from within one's self, a glow being a better person. Its great to know that you are stronger and better my friend.
Always remember forgiveness in our hearts can lead us to happier and fuller life.
Thanks for the sharing you gave. I do pray you continue to be a person in faith. God bless!
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
7 Jun 07
First of all, I am happy that your parents have been enjoying a very happy marriage for 35 years. They are really a happy couple. Since your parents have set a very good example for you, I don't think you should worry about getting hurt. I have a very happy family as well. Like what you say, I am also a family-oriented person, enjoying my marriage life.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
Yes you are right my frined. Two secrets to have a successful marriage: 1. finding the right person. and 2. being the right person. Do you agree to that?
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
9 Jun 07
Right. I agree with you for the two points you raise. A Mr. Right and a Miss. Right will make a happy marriage. Just try to find your Mr. Right and enjoy your marriage life like your parents do. Good luck, my friend.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
I do hope you remain to be the Mr.Right of your other behalf. Thank you my friend!
@g0d3ss (13)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Nobody knows what lies us in the future right??? I do believe in destiny, coz if you were really destined to have a broken marriage, how matter you work hard to save your marriage, it will comes your way.. so dont be afraid, face and be strong to let know what the future stores for you.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
For me my friend, destiny is just like life, it is us who basically design our life. Destiny is not stored in the future, it is something you work on, you design on, with all God's blessing given to us. Our wisdom can make our owon destiny.
I read a book, it says there that: GOD gave us wisdom so that we can have what we want to. It is the man who does the work, and God will do the rest. Its not the other way around.
Can you agree with me? I want to share ideas that can help us achieve great relationships in our future. I would share books and articles, and some links too.
God bless us always my friend.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I will post it one by one. I did not elaborated because I simply summarized it in the previous comments. I'll try next week to write all of them. Thanks and God bless!
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Marriage is alot of work and you always have to keep on working on it. If something falls out of place, you need to put it back right away or things will go out of hand or something.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
You are right my friend. It has to do with both the partner's hard work. Putting things it is proper place is just right. It is just like having a focus when you are married. Deciding to prioritize it everyday of your life, making sure you have a check and balance. It can help both partners to be in its focus always.
God bless you my dear friend. Have a great day ahead!
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
9 Jun 07
I think that there are no tricks or tips for that. It's just a daily work, that sometimes is successful and sometimes it's not, like everything else in life.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
I haven't included the tips in the article yet. LOL. If you want I'll post it tomorrow. So see you around here. God bless you my friend. Thanks!
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
6 Jun 07
Well, its about a relationship that is centered on Christ is the best shield against any temptations outside marriage. we hear lots and lots of families separating because of third party relationships and tempatations all around a married man.
But once the relationship is founded with Christ and He is made center of the relationship then that relationship is meant to last a life time.
Have a nice day!
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
It is true my friend, Christ can true keep adultery away.
But I suggest you read the article personally if you have time. Because I learned some stories about "Couple for Christ". They were couple who devote themselves and worked on making God the center of their relationship. But some couples, even with faith, were not able to sheild their marriages from adultery.
I keeping praying that families stay together and temptations fade.
God bless you my friend.
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@nitzel (79)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
Sometimes, a person's insecurities in his relationships drives him to infidelity. Insecurities in terms of his relationship (marriage), job or personal qualities. It is human nature to want to feel good about one's self. Can we really make marriage adultery-proof? Maybe or maybe not. I think it depends on how deep-rooted that relationship is and how strong the couples' faith in God is. But then again, even some of the devoted and pious believers still go astray. Just keep your faith and pray. Always pray.
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@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
We do not know until we try. Yes faith in God is one factor to consider in order to keep a great relationship specially in a married life. Insecurities can cause infidelity in some ways.
Thanks for responding, God bless!
@prasad6blr (95)
• India
28 Aug 07
As human beings do not go to the extremes anything you do to the extremes will be punished immediately. After getting married be faithful to your partner then only you will be leading a comfortable and happy contented life, which is liked and wanted by one and all on the surface of this earth.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
I do agree with your idea my friend. It is indeed great to be happy and contented with life. It is the only way we can be happy living on earth. Faithfulness is but an essential factor in our daily lives. God bless!